Bodily Autonomy Is Not Just About Abled People Choosing Not To Have A Baby, It's Also About Respecting

Bodily autonomy is not just about abled people choosing not to have a baby, it's also about respecting disabled people's right to have one. And it's not just about mentally ill people's right to treatment and meds, but also about their right to refuse both. It's about respecting people's right to choose for themselves, even when you disagree with their choices. Real bodily autonomy includes the right to make a choice that YOU wouldn't make or advocate for

Same here. OMG, I did not consider that it is autistic also! But of course it is. Of course.

"bluntly honest" autism but in the sense that i absolutely cannot refrain from complimenting strangers if i like their earrings or their shirt or i think they have a friendly-sounding laugh or i think their art is beautiful or i think the fic they wrote portrays the characters so well. "bluntly honest" doesn't have to mean "mean". i love to tell people things that are kind and also true.

Mental Crop Rotation

When farmers grow the same crop too many years in a row, it can leave their soil depleted of minerals and other nutrients that are vital to the health of their fields.

To avoid this, farmers will often alternate the crops that they grow because some plants will use up different minerals (such as nitrogen) while other plants replenish those minerals. This process is known as “crop rotation.”

So the next time you find that you need to step away from a project to work on something else for a while, don’t beat yourself up for “quitting” that project. Give yourself permission to practice “mental crop rotation” to maintain a healthy brain field.

Because I’ve found that when that unnecessary guilt and pressure are removed from the process, a good mental crop rotation can help you feel more energized and invigorated than ever once you’re ready to rotate back to that project.

legit the best advice i can give you: feed your friends

any time someone is in any kind of crisis or upheaval, offer to feed them. tell them they don’t have to choose what it is if they can’t make decisions, just ask about allergies and preferences and tell them you’re just gonna make food happen at their house.

friend having a baby? delivery gift certificate to order food to the hospital after the kid shows up.

someone’s relative passes away? offer to make them dinner.

buddy gets laid off? ask if you can order them lunch.

pal stuck in a depressive episode? offer to drive them to fucking mcdonalds, if that’s what they want.

people in crisis are tired and sad and angry and the last thing most of them are doing is thinking about feeding themselves. so if you have the ability or time or money, providing that is always, always a good move.

legit i do this all the time, and it is 100% always appreciated. i have taught all my friends that when something happens, we feed each other. it makes people feel extremely cared for, and I cannot recommend it enough.

Exactly. I am so sexual that I rubbed myself against the chair as a teenager. In relationships - there have been some - I was always the hornier one. In years and years with no relationship and so no sex, I mastrubated imaging fantasy-men in fantasy-situations as I knew them much more intimatedly than real ones. And I'm "gray", "not really sexual", "something in betweewn"? Shit, I am totally sexual!!! 100%. Just - it takes knowing someone real well to start me to want them. And fantasy-men are much easier to know than real ones. Come on, I READ TEIR MINDS from the books! "He thought." "He felt." "He wanted to lie, but somehow spoke the truth." But I can not read real men's minds ever. I don't know for sure anything. Only if I have known them for a long time I can start to think: "He is like that, yeah. Does not like to admit he has been wrong," or smthng like that. Usually by the time I start to want man, he no longer wants me. I am a friend. Like a sister. Very interesting person - but no more beautiful and hot woman.

So IRL sex is difficult. But I am not asexual, far far far from it!

The Demisexual/Demiromantic experience is

...being unable to relate to Allo and Aroace narratives. We're both and neither.