Being Nice - Tumblr Posts

I have this weird thing where if someone compliments me, I feel like I have to compliment them back. I feel rude if I don’t. Like I know I can just take the compliment and leave it, but I just feel like they expect it back. What’s also weird is that I give out compliments to people all they time and not once does it cross my mind that they should give me one back, so I don’t know why I feel like it’s a requirement to give a compliment to someone who complimented me.

Compliment doesn’t feel like a real word anymore.

legit the best advice i can give you: feed your friends

any time someone is in any kind of crisis or upheaval, offer to feed them. tell them they don’t have to choose what it is if they can’t make decisions, just ask about allergies and preferences and tell them you’re just gonna make food happen at their house.

friend having a baby? delivery gift certificate to order food to the hospital after the kid shows up.

someone’s relative passes away? offer to make them dinner.

buddy gets laid off? ask if you can order them lunch.

pal stuck in a depressive episode? offer to drive them to fucking mcdonalds, if that’s what they want.

people in crisis are tired and sad and angry and the last thing most of them are doing is thinking about feeding themselves. so if you have the ability or time or money, providing that is always, always a good move.

legit i do this all the time, and it is 100% always appreciated. i have taught all my friends that when something happens, we feed each other. it makes people feel extremely cared for, and I cannot recommend it enough.

Your smile can make a stormy rainy day feels like a warm sunny day to somebody out there. So smile today, smile! :)

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Being nice is not a one time only thing...

Today came the sad news of yet another Kpop idol passing away, police claiming it might be suicide. I send all my love and thoughts towards the people that loved Sulli dearly and that now are in grievance.

My time lines are filled with condolences and essays about why bullying can hurt people and that we should spread less hate. And that is great. But a lot of these messages say things like "please be nice today", "on this day we should not spread hate" and that is all well and great. But what about tomorrow? What about yesterday?

The Kpop community is full to the brink with hatred and animosity and I think it is not ok to let down those weapons only when someone actually died. Is it hard for people to be nice more than one day in a year? Can't you be more considerate and empathetic every day or at least try to be? I know that the people writing these messages probably don't mean it that way. But I feel like we should be more aware that being nice and respectful towards each other is something we can do every day of our lives and not just when we are shocked by these kind of news.

And trying to be is already enough sometimes. If you are nice and respectful 7 out of ten cases but you at least tried to be in those other 3 cases, then that is already so wonderful. Everyone gets emotionally riled up sometimes and if we say something hurtful then, it is a shame and we have to apologise for it. But it won't make us a bad person, it would make us human. Not thinking about what my words will do to others however, spreading malice thoughts and feelings without feeling like we did something wrong makes us assholes. Sorry for the swear word...

I do not have a big following, so there won't be many people seeing my thoughts. But I still feel like sharing this is something I had to do. I hope you understand.