Ladies With 7th House Planets But Born In Conservative Societies?

Ladies with 7th house Planets but born in Conservative Societies?

Oh! To have planets in the 7th house but born in conservative society that abhors premarital relationships, casual relationships or even meeting of boy-girl before marriage. To be born in societies that encourage arranged marriages fixed by families and strictly against male-female friendships except those allowed by blood relations.

On one hand, you have an important 7th house and on the other hand your environment restricts one of the important purposes of your life, that is to learn to navigate life through relationships and to find yourself through one upon one relationships. Not every 7th houser ends up in a happy marriage.

If these ladies try to fulfill their destiny by dating someone in their younger years secretly from their parents and if their parents find out - all hell breaks loose! How dare you disrespect our family image and dignity? How dare you have emotions and feelings for someone and try to date someone like that? How dare you try to take a decision in your life that is not controlled by us?

I have seen ladies with moon in 7th house, jupiter in 7th house, sun in 7th house trying to date someone in their teenage or young adult years, only to end up badly for them that fills them with shame and guilt for going against their family traditions. They impulsively jump into relationship by way of projecting their fantasy and later regret for a lifetime that they are bad person for doing a "dirty" thing. Oh, to have feelings is a dirty thing?

I find it sad that 7th houser ladies are born in conservative societies because it strictly restricts their purpose in life and also fills them with shame and self-doubts because of their desires to find themselves through romantic relationships. Wherever planets are placed in a chart is where the native will feel an insatiable drive to fulfill the needs of that house. Someone with planets in 7th house will instinctively feel the desire to form companionship with a boy and to be completed by someone else.

Often the families are not aware of astrology and blame the native for going against family traditions, rather than simply use their mind that the native's destined path goes through 7th house, something they didn't decide but are naturally motivated for. Native does eventually end up marrying because they cannot escape their destiny but it is always a topic of wonder how their natural desires to deeply invest in a romantic relationship is shunned and criticized in their environment.

Birthday Sun in the 7th House - Dressed in Her Sunset Best

written by #astrolocherry

The individual with the Sun in the 7th House is here to learn and teach us about the laws of relating to other people in our world. This is a challenging position for the Sun, whose strong archetypal ego and sense of self becomes severely compromised in the House of Libra. The individual is likely to display more qualities associated with the Libra sign than the Sun sign at birth. It can make her particularly difficult for other people - and her own self to pin down and capture a clear image of who she is. The 7th House or the descendent is positioned on the western hemisphere of the horoscope where the sun sets. Aphrodite adorns her rose-coloured glasses here, and in the ideal scenario she is sailing into the sunset with the one that she loves. However, we are crossing the astrological threshold from day into night too, and therefore the 7th House is also the House of shadow work. And no other 7th House placement will experience this archetypal descent into darkness more than the Sun; because until she begins to understand Who She is Really Is, inside it’s like the lights are on, but nobody is home. 

Relationships are equally orienting and disorienting with the Sun in the 7th House. Cool chameleon charisma is part of her style.Duality is part of her dress-sense. Her identity is ultimately indefinable, and she must find a way of finding stability in her external and internal instabilities. It means that adolescence and young adulthood can be significantly challenging for the individual who is ultra-susceptible to feeling like she has no true identity, and therefore, being taken advantage of by negative outside influence. She does a lot of observing and imitating, so she may feel disingenuous or even invisible unless she is reflecting another person. Though with the inner work and the wisdom that accompanies 7th House difficulties, life and the inner space becomes more of a Venus oasis with age. She develops her natural born interpersonal intuition into a level of telepathic interpersonal mediumship. Her ability for diplomacy and discrimination become qualities to admire. Her tendency to imitate becomes emulation, and it rather stems from admiration and personal development, rather than desperation to belong. She is charming and disarming while never permitting herself to be falsely charmed and manipulated by evil ever again. 

The work that is undergone to attain the developed 7th House Sun occurs in the darkness and unseen by others. This is the House of projection. It sends her looking for an exit in a galactic hall of mirrors filled with reflections, perceptions, and projections. Relationships are inherently karmic in nature in the 7th House. She is here to pay karmic debts, and receive karmic payments within the realm of relationships. Upheaval, upset, and broken hearts are promises. Relationships are pivotal for self-development, and therefore become growth intensive and revealing. There are countless inflection points that occur during each relationship phase. Difficult encounters with partners are typically conflicts with part of herself. It can produce strange patterns in relationships, where desires and behaviours seem to change in cycles. Before she completes the developmentally appropriate lessons of self-development, she has trouble not taking things personally. The words and thoughts of other people have disproportionate effects; while she is often too afraid of saying what she truly thinks and feels. Invalidated inner child qualities are projected onto others in order to gain recognition. There can be unsubstantiated envy resulting from constant self-comparison, a debilitating sense of inadequacy, and at worse there’s worthlessness and severely lacking self-value. 

It’s this internal conditioning that leaves her vulnerable to suffer harsh injustices at the hands of others.

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About 8th House, some notes.

Source: https://barbarapijan.com/bpa/Bhava/8randhra_bhava.htm

The Unseen but suspected;

The Unheard but intuited;

The Unknown but sensed.

* Comfortable with Uncertainty.

* If 8th house is without a planet, life runs on conventional lines till the ruler receives strong aspects.

* There are slightly hidden phenomena, which are not accessible to immediate perception. This type of phenomena can be known indirectly by inference.

* Roll with the punches.

* Surprising spiritual benefits consequent to the shocks.

* Saturn-influenced resistance to change may be uncomfortable at the very least. Occasionally, the result = severe physical, emotional, mental, or spiritual trauma.

* Sudden appearance of "luck".

* The hidden dynamics which may suddenly emerge to motivate a rejuvenating cycle of death-and-rebirth. 

* Tantrik, catastrophic, and transformative.

* The perception of sudden or shocking transformation may be converted into the perception of knowledgeable observance of the changes. This perceptual conversion is available through many varieties of tantric education.

* If the planet in occupation and also the house ruler are well-disposed, one may enjoy a lifetime of tantric initiations which result in magnificent liberation from material attachments. One may be judged a failure by those lacking eyes to see the value of such a profoundly transformative process.

* Engage in a state of constant uncertainty and ongoing emergency

* Few humans can tolerate the constant challenge to one's natural acquisitive tendencies 

* Usually an experience of death recycle rebirth which does not require destroying the body, but after a certain number of cycle-spins the physical form may be destroyed to create a new birth

* The core image of 8th house is the tantrik hunter, moving cautiously through the thick forest, alert to hidden energies which may suddenly emerge at any moment. The outcome of the hunter's awareness could lead to a successful capture, or it could protect one from surprise attack. In any case, graha in bhava-8 must pay profound attention to the Unseen.

* How the world actually works.

* How the native handles sudden, secret, transformative, catastrophic changes, self-destructive behavior: spiritual release of ego-membrane attachments, or collapse of social identity?

* You must be born again.

“It is already hard enough to understand what someone is saying. Discussion is just an exercise in narcissism where everyone takes turns showing off. Very quickly, you no longer have any idea what is being discussed.”

— Gilles Deleuze, Two Regimes of Madness: Texts and Interviews 1975-1995

I have a 7th house Aquarius sun mercury and Uranus. I also struggle with maladaptive daydreaming. How do you stop? Any tips? Thanks!🩷

7th houser and daydreams

What do you mostly daydream about? Relationship and married life? Maybe you love talking to your imaginary partner as if they are really there

Losing hours of your days to this addictive, compulsive and extremely satisfying problem is really a struggle. Maladaptive daydreaming is as powerful as drug addiction, it seems you can't resist and distract yourself with anything. You may not even know why you are doing it and when it started, but you do realize you are different from people around you in some ways

You clearly have hyperactive imagination! If you are not in therapy or cannot afford it because you are student, then really digging soul deep into yourself will eventually stop the daydreams. You can come back to earth from the fantasyland only when you have "substance" which is your core concept and knowing who you are. How do you get there? That is only you can figure out or let destiny unfold, when the time changes, life will send something or someone who turns things around

Do you have a lot of water elements in your chart? Daydreaming is also an intuitive ability, you may feel like you are manifesting a future by daydreaming because it seems that convincing and real to your mind

What seems like a conflicting problem today b/w daydreaming and losing life, 5 years from now may look like the bigger picture you were missing. MD Daydreaming is seriously something your psyche is trying to catch your attention to. It is imbalance for some deep wounding in your personality. Hope it makes sense. You are already on the path to recovery and healing, this question is proof that your psyche is making all attempts to figure things out. 👍

8th house -  Deepest Union through the purity of Absolute Truth

The union in the 8th house occurs through a turbulent transformation, that takes place when our most cherished, personal ideals get confronted with intimate ideals of the other party. 

If we want to truly connect with another person, we need to learn how to merge both of these worlds together. We can’t live life forsaking either our sacred, internal principles (4th house) or people’s reactions to them (7th house). We need both of these parts of us to be preserved, so we need to learn how to reach a compromise, for the benefit of everyone involved. 

As a result, while some things have to die in the 8th house, something entirely new is formed here, when we have learned how to preserve our inner peace and stay true to ourselves (4th house), but still confront our intimate world with the outside through exposing it in connections with others (7th house). We give birth to the 8th house theme of shared values and resources. The 8th house reflects Scorpio themes of Mars and Pluto. Here, we shed our skin while refining ourselves, like polishing a diamond in the rough. You don’t throw the precious stone away, but you chisel away at it with determination (Mars), until you can in good conscience feel that purity of absolute truth (Pluto).

The 8th house, as a water house is very sensitive to natural rhythms of the Earth and cyclical changes, that also reflect in human beings. The transformation that occurs here is not a one time process, but an experience we are always forced to return to, being a very necessary step to the feeling of enlightenment and divine presence, that occurs in the 9th house. 

Our minds and souls are always gradually, yet constantly changing and evolving, so to truly remain united with another person, both parties must continuously purify themselves from any insincerity, and stay in tune with themselves and each other, in accordance with the personal growth of both parties. For people with personal planets in the 8th house, this purging process lasts a lifetime.