Thinking About How Badly I Need Someone To Tie Me Down And Force Me To Just Take Whatever They Want

thinking about how badly i need someone to tie me down and force me to just take whatever they want

edging? yes please

overstimulation? god, i need it

just need to forget everything for a while and have someone else make all the decisions

Honestly didn't realise I needed to be told this til now

Sexual Self Care

Your sexuality is a part of yourself, and as such, deserves as much care as the rest of you. This can look like... * Deciding for yourself when, whether, and with whom to engage in sex. * Deciding that sex just isn't for you, and that's okay. * Getting regular OB/GYN or urologist checkups. (And being honest with your doctor!) * Getting tested for STIs regularly, especially in between partners. * Saying "no" to sexual acts that make you uncomfortable, or that you don't feel ready for. * Exploring and learning what you like and don't like. * Learning about sex, anatomy, birth control, etc. especially if the sex ed you had during your formative years was nonexistent or just straight-up garbage. * Ditching purity culture and all its empty promises. * Using reliable birth control unless and until you want a baby. * Deciding for yourself when and whether to have children, and how many to have. * Deciding for yourself what you will do if you have an unplanned pregnancy. * Being really honest with yourself about whether you personally can do casual hookups, or whether you absolutely need to have a relationship in order to have sex. * Communicating and setting boundaries with partners. * Making sure that if you choose to have sex, you're doing so for the right reasons (i.e. not just to please your partner, or "fit in," or what have you) * Making sure you get your share of the pleasure pie, too. * Listening to what your body is telling you. * Letting go of shame. * Ditching toxic diet culture and learning to love your body, or at least accept it. * Understanding that porn is a fantasy; it is nothing like real sex with a real human being. * Getting help for porn and sex addictions. * Letting go of internalized misogyny, homophobia, biphobia, transphobia, etc. * Learning to both give and receive pleasure. * Learning to communicate what you need. * Taking responsibility for your own thoughts, words, actions, omissions, marital fidelity, feelings, etc., instead of dumping that on other people. * Dressing for yourself, in clothes that make you happy (within the scope of appropriateness for a given occasion), not to either attract or repel any sex or gender. * Deciding for yourself what labels define your sexuality or gender, or whether any labels fit at all. * Carrying condoms/dental dams/etc. with you on dates, even if you don't end up needing them. * Making sure someone knows where you are when you go on dates or hook up with people. * Understanding that being rejected doesn't necessarily mean anything is wrong with you, and not taking that as a personal affront. * Learning what healthy relationships look like. * Getting help for and healing sexual trauma of any kind. * Deciding for yourself what you share (or don't share) on the Internet about your sexuality, your past, etc. * Learning how consent actually works. * Showing concern for your partner's well-being and pleasure, as well as your own. * Not using sex/porn/masturbation/etc. as a way of masking or avoiding your personal or relationship problems. * Not tying your sexual history (or lack thereof) to your worth as a human being, or as a partner. * Deciding that what other people think of you is their responsibility, not yours. * Getting out of toxic relationships. * Not sleeping with your ex. * Going no further or faster than you really want to go. * Deciding for yourself whether you're into kink or not. (And that vanilla is valid!) * Peeing after sex. * Being honest with yourself and your partners. * Developing a positive body image. * Accepting that both you and any partners you have will have a past, good, bad, and ugly, and not judging or defining yourself or them by it. * Really getting to know someone before agreeing to move in with them, have a baby with them, marry them, etc.

Update on This Blog

So, I know that almost all of the posts on here at the moment are horny, but im actually a Grey-Ace guy, which means that I experience horny like maybe 4% of the time? And then outside of that i have no interest in it, so, the majority of this blog will actually probably be various venting. I'm really really sorry if this disappoints anyone!!!!

That being said, expect a vent post right after this, sorry.

The masculine urge to go nonverbal and be able to not feel like it's a huge inconvenience to everyone tho

men love being pinned up against walls by other men it makes them feel masculine it's the same as going fishing

Here's an introduction post I guess? Just call me Kitten, I'm a transgender man and I use he/him they/them or it/its pronouns. I don't really know what to title this weird little blog of mine but it's mostly just gonna revolve around my fantasies and probably a lot of short story writing pertaining to them. As far as the...audience? I guess? I don't really know what to call anyone who stumbles across this blog to be honest, but I have no preference for who interacts, all I ask is respect of my gender and pronouns and any triggers I may share.