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This user’s triggers change from day to day.

Word to the wise

I just watched I, Tonya this morning.

If you're a survivor of domestic violence or violence at the hands of your parents and you're still a bit triggery, I'd recommend not watching I, Tonya.

Adding onto this with some things I've experienced.

Guilt-tripping: "The intentional manipulation of another person's emotions to induce feelings of guilt" (Liza Gold). In layman's terms, it means to actively and intentionally make someone else feel guilty for something that, most of the time, they have no need to feel guilty for in order to get what you want.

What it is not: Someone genuinely expressing their emotions, even if it makes you feel guilty.

Trigger: Something that affects your emotional state in an extreme, often negative way. This can lead to being overwhelmed or highly distressed. They affect your ability to remain present and function in the moment. It may also be defined more strictly as something that leads to a flashback or panic attack.

What it is not: Something that makes you feel a little uncomfortable or that you'd rather avoid. It's also not a generally unpleasant topic that makes most people upset, unless that does trigger you, in which case. It is.

Trauma-Dumping: "Sharing specific details about a traumatic experience with somebody who isn’t ready or doesn’t want to hear it" (Naomi Torres-Mackie). This can include doing it repeatedly or inappropriately. This can be highly distressing to the person who's on the other end of it, especially if they themself end up triggered by the content within it.

What it is not: Someone complaining about their day, or someone venting to you about regular issues.

A lot of pop psychology gets thrown around and since I already have a headache, here's preventing you lot from making it worse.

Love-bombing: A manipulation tactic of increasing affection and grand gestures before or after doing something abusive, specifically to weasel one's way out of consequences.

What it is not: A streak of affection and generosity towards friends/loved ones.

Trauma-bonding: Knowingly traumatizing someone to take advantage of their vulnerable state, to then act like the "hero" or the one who cheers them up.

What it is not: Bonding over similar traumas.

Gaslighting: *Knowingly* convincing someone they cannot trust their own perception of a situation in pursuit of one's own narrative.

What it is not: Misaligned perception of events.

Narcissist: Someone afflicted with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, a traumagenic cluster B disorder, that struggles with self-obsession, paranoia, craving validity from the public, delusions of grandeur, and social disconnection.

It is not: Your rubbish ex that cheated on you.

Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.

-Xanthe

Okay can yall reblog this to share something that’s actually helpful? There are two websites that can assist people with triggers to know whether or not a movie is going to be something they should avoid. The first one is:

https://www.doesthedogdie.com/

Originally created to list whether or not the animals in movies were harmed, it has expanded to list a number of triggering things like people being cut, jumpscares, strobe effects, vomit, deaths of children, and many more. For some categories it links to:

https://www.unconsentingmedia.org/

which has a similar format to Does the Dog Die but deals with a variety of sexual themes. It even elaborates on some of the checked categories just to let you know how serious or in what way the category is expressed in the movie.

I don’t like the environment of tumblr scaring people into thinking they don’t have the help or resources they need to live happy and without anxiety unless the right PSA floats across their dash. If there are any other databases anyone knows of that provide more info about media or elaborate upon MPAA ratings, please comment. Let 2018 be a year of empowerment.

To those who celebrate, I hope you enjoyed your holiday today🖤🖤🖤

But to those, like me, who don't... hiding in your house and trying to forget what day it is... choking on the trauma... I know there's no sympathy for how tortured you are right now. No one appreciates how difficult it is, having bucketfuls of triggers dumped on you over and over and over every day for two whole months. And God forbid you don't smile about it. Don't mask. Don't pretend. Don't participate. Don't shout "Merry Christmas!" until you're dizzy and nauseous.

But it will get easier. I promise. Take advantage of the good food this time of year and stay in your house as much as you can.

It's almost over. Breathe, friend.

I've developed Somniphobia gradually within the past year or so, but it's gotten horribly bad recently. I get sleep paralysis occasionally and night terrors most nights- I have BPD and dream about my worst triggers and life experiences consistently.

Any other Borderline or Somniphobic people have tips? I'm getting pretty exhausted asking people to stay with me and sobbing uncontrollably when they have to leave.

I've developed Somniphobia gradually within the past year or so, but it's gotten horribly bad recently. I get sleep paralysis occasionally and night terrors most nights- I have BPD and dream about my worst triggers and life experiences consistently.

Any other Borderline or Somniphobic people have tips? I'm getting pretty exhausted asking people to stay with me and sobbing uncontrollably when they have to leave.

13 year old me: yea i rlly only have a couple things that like, rlly disturb me, y’know?? and like, i just don’t like to hear about them bc it gives me like extreme anxiety. y’know??

me now: yOU LITTLE DUMBASS THOSE ARE CALLED TRIGGERS. THE REASON YOU HAVE MENTAL BREAKDOWNS AT THE SLIGHTEST MENTION OF SUICIDE IS BECAUSE IT IS ONE OF YOUR TRIGGERS. THE REASON YOU CAN’T STAND TO HEAR ANYTHING ABOUT SEVEN FROM LITTLE NIGHTMARES IS BECAUSE YOU HAVE A TRIGGER ABOUT CANNIBALISM. GET THERAPY.

me starting a fic that i know will trigger me but i’m in the marauders fandom so every fic is triggering <3

Hey everyone, is it better to tag your posts with a 'trigger warning', a 'content warning', or both?

I was used to seeing sensitive content tagged with a trigger warning or tw; now I'm seeing it tagged as content warning or cw.

I normally tag it as "tw: *triggering thing*"; is that a good way?

Is there a difference between the two? Is one more useful for people who need to avoid sensitive content or triggers? Do they mean different things? Ty!

your triggers will squash creativity and create bullying of artists of all kinds, creating hords of social justice warriors blogging about how awful they are, resuling in trolls going after them.

but good to know there are warnings. I'm so used to fighting with dumb kids who can't take a few light trollings, but love rape jokes, and making people who like huge agegap incest fiction flop around and cry.

don't be this girl.

i love stock photos, don't you?

this is based off a true story. a deviant art 14 year old user was going to kill herself because her friend was more popular.

Wow I’m upset

cw/tw: mental illness stigma, slurs, swears

So I was just in the middle of writing something about my depression and instead of using the term “mentally ill”, which I do not feel is an appropriate term for me specifically and my experience, I wanted to do a quick search to see if there were any other phrases/words out there that I felt resonated better with me.

And like the first thing I clicked on was a thesaurus site and I just. I can’t believe my eyes.

The words listed were so incredibly insensitive, ill-informed, gross...

Words like “d*ranged”, “d*mented”, “d*maged”, “ps*cho”, “cr*zed”...

And then I instantly couldn’t help but think about how terrible a contribution to the discussion of mental health that things like this function as...

And right now I feel very triggered and just like started crying and I feel so disgustingly shitty about it. 

I was so surprised by my own emotional reaction to it too, because normally I’m not so easily effected but I just don’t know how to process this information, that that’s the kind of language associated with me/people like me, and how horrifying that is. I just thought about how there’s so much stigma around mental health issues and how things like this are exactly why I don’t talk about my own experiences or feelings basically ever except with three specific people. 

I’m also feeling angry that a) this is the sort of stuff that gets spread around and people who don’t know any better would just read that and think it’s true, and b) this misinformation which is already toxic towards me has now also made me feel so terrible and insecure about myself that it’s not only affected the larger system at work but now also specifically my life and my night and

I just want to disappear right now. 

Here’s a simplification of our brains on trauma.  Trauma is, at it’s core, shit that we weren’t prepared for when it happened. Sometimes that means going out to our car and finding a bear. Sometimes that means being punched.  Sometimes that means having unexplained (or explained, cause fuck why not) physical pain. Sometimes that means someone leaving (by their choice or not). Sometimes that means not being allowed to join a group.  Sometimes that means someone calling you stupid, or anything else, or even just the tone they used.  If you weren’t emotionally prepared for it, even if the rest of the world magically was, it’s traumatic.  This matters because our brains remember traumatic things differently than they do little everything else.

When something bad happens that we weren’t prepared for, we don’t know what matters.  Our brain doesn’t know why there’s a bear there.  And if it doesn’t have context for the thing that happened it isn’t able to predict whether it’s going to happen again, which means no way it can control it happening again.  And that shit’s not cool.  We want to be able to predict and control insignificant things, that goes times 1000 for things that can or did hurt us in any way, shape, or form.  So our brain locks that memory down.  It’s tries to remember every little thing in as high fidelity as possible because it doesn’t know what matters.   It doesn’t know if the colour of our car or the sound of a motorbike going by or the smell of barbecue was ‘the thing’ that would let us predict and control wether we ran into the bear or not.  Our logical mind might say “holy shit dude, my car being red didn’t matter, the bear was only here because it was eating the berries on that bush, y’know, the ones that feel off when it snowed.”  But our emotional mind takes one look at the red of our car and goes “BEAR! THERE’S A MOTHER FRACKING BEAR HERE! FIND IT! BEFORE IT FINDS YOU!”

In case anyone wants some perspective on how utterly random triggers can be. I haven’t lived in a house with a garage door in four-ish years. Right now at this moment, I honestly can’t recall what they sound like, except something metallic moving and rather clanky.

There was one on tv. I wasn’t even paying attention to it, I had my headphones on and was actively trying to tune the show out. My ears picked up on the sound of the garage door, and a jolt of adrenaline shot through my body as I grabbed my laptop and moved to get out of my seat and run to my room.

I realized what happened after about two seconds.

The sound is gone from my ears, but my heart is still racing and I’m waiting for the door to the house to open, to hear the jingling of my mother’s keys and her footsteps moving through the house. My muscles are still tense and I’m fighting the urge to run to my room and stick a board in front of the door.

For years, the sound of a garage door was my warning to pack up what I was doing quickly and retreat to my room if I was out of it.

I can’t remember the sound of the garage door right now, but I can’t tell my brain to stop trying to react to it.

NSFW ALPHABET: Malachai

Fandom: Riverdale

Pairing: Malachai x Reader

*TRIGGER WARNING: MANIPULATION, DRUGS,HUMILIATION,DEGRADATION, CUSSING, MANIPULATION, SADISM, NON-CONSENT ELEMENTS( You not being wet)*

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I crave INTIMACY desperately, but when I’m touched I pull myself away. It’s been so long since I’ve been able to allow anyone in my life.. I am triggered when I am hugged, kissed, admired by others and yet I disagree with them all.

Honestly, how did people not think food triggers or clear liquid triggers were a thing? My SO can’t deal with mint most of the time, and cleaning agents tend to send them into a panic attack (like OP because of hospitals and surgeries). Me? Seeing milk and water mixed, even just a drop of milk in water makes me want to hurl and gives me a headache just thinking about this to write this out.

Do you have any triggers?

Jello, Popsicles, Soup Broth. 

PSA: DO NOT LIST ALL OF YOUR TRIGGERS IN YOUR BIO, CARRRD, OR PINNED POST. It’s like saying, ‘hi! I’m a vampire! Please don’t stab me through the heart with a wooden stake or expose me to direct sunlight! Doing so will kill me!’ Stop. You’re giving strangers on the internet very specific and sensitive information that they can and will use to hurt you.

my rant at lunch about murder and burning

okay so today I went on a rant about my hate of twilight, about about the "re-write". my rant went as fallows

"i hate twilight with the passion of deans love of pie. I want the writer to stop writeing all togather. if I ever had the chance, I would  buy multiple copys of her book and brake every window, and glass brakeble object in her house, and then tell her exactly why her books suck, because if you don't explain why you kicking someones ass sometimes they just don't understand, then I could take her new twilight book and beat her with it with out remose. and then I would say " if you stop writeing after this crap YOU , call literature because this is a crack fanfic gone wrong, you will never hear from me again, but if you write one more GOD dame "book" I WILL END YOU WITH IT, I will not tel you how but you will die by the couse of your own "book"  and I and the other many people who dispise you with laugh and celibrate your death."" and that is my rant I when on, at lunch with my best friend. she then said," I would pay to see you do that." 

if you want to know the resigns why I hate twilight here they are

1  all it teaches girls is that, now matter what you have to do you need a boyfriend, because that is what all girls need and what you must work to get...... a boyfriend

2 its about an abusive relationship, NOT LOVE!

3 VAMPIERS DO NOT SPARKEL, EDWORD IS A FUCKIN PIXIE NOT A VAMPIER!

4 there is no plot

5 no character development either

6 by the facts of logic, belle should be dead, she jump off a cliff face, the fall should of killed her.

7 belle

8 Jacob is a pedophile

9 Edward

10 Jacob

11  the Cullen's

12 the "vampire" chough *pixie* cough  "war"

13 it could have just been one crap-y, so called, book but no it had to be three

14 new moon is unneeded

15 werewolves are not werewolves

16......... do I really need to go on

okay i'm done now thank you for you time if you bothered to read this post at all.

First Writing Thing (Sort of a hurt/comfort/reassurance thing I wrote for myself) CW for Small PTSD Attack and hints to SA Trauma

(Gender Neutral)

I felt the familiar nausea and pain creeping into my chest, I tugged a little at my shirt and they understood what was happening. "Kitten, is it okay if I touch you?" They asked gently, I gave a slight nod, still feeling the nauseous panic but trusting them to not hurt me. They gently pulled me closer to them until I was in their lap, softly humming as they stroked my hair and then whispering softly "You're safe here, Kitten, I promise he can never hurt you again, you're safe" their words were soothing and helped me to calm down just the slightest bit, nuzzling against them a little. "I'm sorry, I ruined it again, I really thought I was ready this time-" I choked out, tears pricking my eyes and softly falling down my face and onto their legs. They gently tilted my chin so I was looking into their eyes "You didn't ruin anything, Kitten, you tried and you're not ready and that's okay, I don't need sex, or anything sexual at all, in order to love you" They gently stroked my cheek and I leaned into it making them smile softly. "I'm still sorry" I breathed out quietly "I feel like you deserve more than someone who's been-" I looked down and away from them as I whispered softly "damaged, used, broken" They sighed and sternly said "Kitten, you are none of those things, and you are so much more than what happened to you, so please don't base your self worth on what that selfish bastard did to you, okay?" I nod, feeling exhausted and cried out as they gently pet my hair once more as I let out a small yawn. "Alright, bed time sleepy kitty" They say gently as they hand me one of my stuffed animals and pull the covers back enough for us to slip inside, them first and then me right after, face pressed against their chest and curled up in a little ball, eyes drifting shut to a final "Goodnight Kitten, love you"