Actually You Will Not Enjoy Hearing This But You Literally Have To Abandon Your Self Deprecating Humor.

actually you will not enjoy hearing this but you literally have to abandon your self deprecating humor. besides the fact that it can drive people away you literally are only hurting yourself by constantly making jokes that further cement the idea in your head that you are not good enough. I do not care that you think its a good coping mechanism it is absolutely not and you need to start challenging negative thoughts instead of feeding into them.

this is so important to know because I've done lots of these without realising its classed as self harm <33

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Honesty pisses people off sometimes, but it's better that you be honest than the type to tell everyone what they want to hear. Make your feelings known, ask for what you want, and tell situations gently as they are.

Taking medications that help you is good. Using mobility aids or other assistive devices that help you is good. Respecting your own limits to maintain your health is good.

Be proud of yourself for taking the steps you need to take care of yourself, and ignore anyone who doesn't understand the importance of this.