You Define Your Boundaries. You And You Alone.

You define your boundaries. You and you alone.🤍

Honesty pisses people off sometimes, but it's better that you be honest than the type to tell everyone what they want to hear. Make your feelings known, ask for what you want, and tell situations gently as they are.

You can be lovingly assertive.

For a lot of my life I associated assertiveness with abusive personalities- as a sort of warning sign of violence to come. But that's not right: we need to have the courage to defend ourselves. Sometimes assholes just get ahold of that power and misuse it.

There is a happy medium between saying "Shut up, you're a piece of shit and I'm going to do what I want" and letting people walk all over you.

You can enforce your boundaries and refuse to accept mistreatment and disrespect without being verbally demeaning. If you don't speak up and let people know when they cross your lines, though, you can be taken advantage of. You owe it to yourself to fight in your corner, and for the benefit of everyone involved. It doesn't make you an asshole to say that the way you are being treated is not okay. You're an asshole when you use disrespect and your own anger as an excuse to say things to hurt others more than the situation demands.

It doesn't matter if you piss others off for standing up for yourself, and for what is true. Anyone who wants to hate you for protecting yourself is invariably an asshole.

You can stand up for what is right and kind, even if everyone around you hates you for it, and you can do it in a firm, loving way. Assertiveness is not abusiveness.

Taking medications that help you is good. Using mobility aids or other assistive devices that help you is good. Respecting your own limits to maintain your health is good.

Be proud of yourself for taking the steps you need to take care of yourself, and ignore anyone who doesn't understand the importance of this.

Dealing With Executive Dysfunction - A Masterpost

The “getting it done in an unconventional way” method.

The “it’s not cheating to do it the easy way” method.

The “fuck what you’re supposed to do” method.

The “get stuff done while you wait” method.

The “you don’t have to do everything at once” method.

The “it doesn’t have to be permanent to be helpful” method.

The “break the task into smaller steps” method.

The “treat yourself like a pet” method.

The “it doesn’t have to be all or nothing” method.

The “put on a persona” method.

The “act like you’re filming a tutorial” method.

The “you don’t have to do it perfectly” method.

The “wait for a trigger” method.

The “do it for your future self” method.

The “might as well” method.

The “when self discipline doesn’t cut it” method.

The “taking care of yourself to take care of your pet” method.

The “make it easy” method.

The “junebugging” method.

The “just show up” method.

The “accept when you need help” method.

The “make it into a game” method.

The “everything worth doing is worth doing poorly” method.

The “trick yourself” method.

The “break it into even smaller steps” method.

The “let go of should” method.

The “your body is an animal you have to take care of” method.

The “fork theory” method.

The “effectivity over aesthetics” method.

life doesn’t end at 25. life doesn’t end at 27 or 30 either. life doesn’t end at 35 or 45. life doesn’t end at 65. it doesn’t matter how old you are, when you decide to get your high school degree or start a family. it doesn’t matter when you decide to go run a marathon or go travel the world. life is not made up by numbers, age is, and your age is not all that you are. you got time. life doesn’t end until it ends.