It Hurts That I'm Always Going To Look Like My Agab. Like, I Look Pretty Conventionally Attractive From

It hurts that I'm always going to look like my agab. Like, I look pretty conventionally attractive from what I've been told, but in a way that's very much gendered. And no matter how nonbinary I identify, that'll just always be how I am, when I tell people I'm he/they it feels weird because I just don't look, he/they. It also really doesn't help that clothing gendered towards my agab is what I'm most comfortable in. And I also don't want to do anything to medically alter my body for a lot of reasons.

One of my closest friends (whose also agender) is so naturally androgynous looking that I literally thought they were a different agab then they were for the first few weeks of knowing them. And I realize I'm never going to have that, and there's something that makes me weirdly sad about the fact that this'll just never be me.

I wish I could just be mothman for a lil while.

For all my fellow Aussies remember, voting yes in the referendum quite literally means that Indigenous Australians will get a proper spot in parliament. If someone tells you to vote no they are racist, there is no reason why Indigenous Australians shouldn’t be allowed in parliament.

Vote Yes!

The mere fact that I haven't been wearing eyeliner until yesterday is a freaking staple of bullshit gender norms. I swear, I tried starting with a more masc look and I can't even deal with how good I look.

Can't stop staring at the mirror and I've never been one to like my face to begin with. What is this? Witchcraft?!? Can I have more of that please XD!?

are evil dragons really evil, or are they just vitamin D deficient?

At some point, I think people have to contend with the fact that misgendering isn't a completely a universally agreed upon concept in the specific sense that misgendering can be very personal.

What may be misgendering to you will not be to other trans people - even if they have the same gender as you. You may be misgendered if somebody used the wrong label to describe you (e.g., somebody calling you "girl," even if it is slang), but that does not mean that that will apply to everybody.

It's important to recognize this because so often, people will say things like, "you can't use this label/phrase/term for any trans person who is a [gender]! And if any trans person who is a [gender] uses those labels/phrases/terms, they're wrong and bad!" and that is simply too broad a generalization.

It's fine to be uncomfortable with certain things like this. It is fine if you don't want to be misgendered, and indeed, I share in that sentiment. However, that does not mean that your comforts and discomforts apply to all trans people or all trans people who share your gender. There's a difference in that, I think.