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It hurts that I'm always going to look like my agab. Like, I look pretty conventionally attractive from what I've been told, but in a way that's very much gendered. And no matter how nonbinary I identify, that'll just always be how I am, when I tell people I'm he/they it feels weird because I just don't look, he/they. It also really doesn't help that clothing gendered towards my agab is what I'm most comfortable in. And I also don't want to do anything to medically alter my body for a lot of reasons.
One of my closest friends (whose also agender) is so naturally androgynous looking that I literally thought they were a different agab then they were for the first few weeks of knowing them. And I realize I'm never going to have that, and there's something that makes me weirdly sad about the fact that this'll just never be me.
I wish I could just be mothman for a lil while.
OMG GURL, SAME!!
Cause for me, I don't wanna feel like a man. I get icky when people call me that. But I'm very much ok with being a boy, just a guy. And some days I don't wanna be either, just gender-no XD.
But I still very much look cis, and I don't mind people calling me he. But def feels weird sometimes. Still, I find it's just easier on my own mental health to just let it go, let me be whatever flavor of queer I wanna be and just enjoy for me. Do what I want, dress how I want, be what I wanna.
Hope you get that too. Have a wonderfully queer day š
Do other AFAB demigirls or AMAB demiboys feel like theyāre not āqueer enoughā relating to their gender?
Iāve been kinda struggling w this. I KNOW Iām nonbinary, and I KNOW that I donāt have to prove my identity to anyone, but it feels like Iām not allowed to say that Iām not cis/nonbinary bc I still present feminine and donāt have to deal with nearly as many of the struggles GNC people (cis or not) or transmasc/transfem people do.
Funny since I do experience some dysphoria in things like being called a āwomanā, but being called a girl colloquially or being referred to with she/her pronouns donāt bother me. I experience no chest dysphoria, but do feel some bottom dysphoria.
TLDR: nonbinary gender complicated
Idk what are the chances of this reaching out to anon, but I gotta try. I feel the same way tbh, and it's def ok.
I was born a cis guy, but masculinity kinda also feels like a performance. One I'm not willing to play with completely tho, so I prefer to have pieces of it. But I do sometimes wanna be on a more fem side of things, sometimes neither. It doesn't really matter.
I ended up deciding that demi-boy sounds like a good enough label for my experience. And I felt like a fraud for a while, because of the same reasons as you. But we shouldn't be.
Yes we're passing in society, yes we have more privileges. It doesn't mean you're not allowed to be you. I still call myself trans, support other trans people and rights, etc. Gender just be weird like that, but it's what makes it great too, I think.
i feel trans in a way that i am a cis woman who wishes she was born male and had transitioned to female. does that make sense at all??? i donāt feel tied to femininity as a birthright, but rather as a performative aspect of my identity, though one that im happy to perform. i wish i was feminine through a more androgynous baseline. i feel like such a fraud for feeling this way because i know my life is easier in many ways as a cis person, but i donāt know what to make of my gender identity anymore. any thoughts or advice?
idk man just be a woman with a weird gender . its ok.
iāve been a 23 year old girl and i can tell you it does not