Yep. At Least Not Taken Seriously By Normies. But This Is Why I Have Partners! :D

Yep. At least not taken seriously by normies. But this is why I have partners! :D

95% of my emails for work is written in the evning.

When I can get my partner to help me.

I am VERY good at cooding, system design and the politics to get good design accepted.

I am very bad at anything that involves "Just do it normally". I do not know what it means

Social rules, writing emails or accepting invitations... anything like that

Too mentally ill to be “normal,” too good at faking functionality for people to take my issues seriously.

If the coding convention is not enforced with auto-formaters, it does not exist. If someone wants all the code to be written in exactly the same way every time... then get a machine to do that. Doing the same thing every time is what computers are good at. Set up a autoformater. If that is too much work. Then they have just said it is not very important, which means it is not very important. What IS very important is to make your code readable. Developers spend ~80% of their time READING code. So make THAT part easier. The code should fulfill its functional and performance requirements, after that, it should be made as easy to read as possible. It should take the reader from high abstraction overall idea and/or program flow, to more and more specific, so you can quickly get a overall idea and then deep dive only in the thing you are looking for right now. It should only use acronyms that it have defined in comments at the top of the file (If that is too much work... then do not use acronyms) If the code can only be understood with knowledge from outside the codebase, then that must be documented in a MD file. Nothing fancy, just write the thing down. If you cannot explain it in text, then make a diagram (I recomend draw.io). Easy, quick, no the specific style does not matter, just make it easy to read.

there's just a lot of "if everyone adopts my particularly tortured way of coding, everything will be great" going on, when 90% of the time this is extremely stilted and adds instead of reduces complexity. and you just don't have to do that. you can code normal style and nothing bad will happen

There these seemingly contradictory societal double binds that are used to enforce conformity.

Example: A Lesbian is told that "everyone is actually bi" while a bisexual woman is told to "pick a side". Seems contradictory but really they just want us to be straight lmao.

Another one: A woman who does not perform womanhood to society's standard is not a real woman vs. You can never change the gender you were born with. One is butchphobic/anti gnc women, the other is transphobic. Clearly both enforce transmisogyny.

The insidious thing is that these double binds also foster inter community division. Its easy to hear one side of these, for example: "everyone is a little bi" and assume that means bisexuality is more accepted. But on the other side bisexual people are getting the same shit.

None of these are contradictory when you realize that bigots simply don't want lgbtq+ to exist at all.

Burnout should... not be a thing that happens to you very often :s I hope you meant it more as "When I am busy" otherwise you may want to avoid to limit whatever gives you burnout if possible :s I hope I do not sound preachy. I say it because I am worrying because you seem nice, not because I want to dictate to you how to be, or pretend I know your life and situation. I DO like a mid day nap around 12 if I can get away with it. I will sleep under my desk if need be. But they are usually 30 min or so Means I am way more productive the last half of the day

Do any other autistics nap like...a lot?? On the weekends, I can easily nap 4+ hours and then still go to bed on time.

When I'm in burnout, I sometimes can nap repeatedly and then go to bed on-time.

Honestly, how I learned was via make.

Like... you can easily find compleatly incomprehensible make files that automate everything.

Those you can use, but they are not how you learn.

How you learn iz by doing it very very copy-paste of the lines toh would write to the compiler in a shell. Most basic one with a single .c file would be:

gcc main.c

Then figure out what arguments to add to it to make it how you want. Name the output file. Have the source file in a different folder. Have the ouput be in a different folder.

You now know how to compile a single file by using a shell

Now. Create a make file. Simply have it call exactly the same thing you wrote in the shell before.

Then figure out how to compile a main file and a file with functions and a header. Again, first just by using a shell. And then build it into your build file.

This is not too hard. There are plenty of guides and examples. It is fun exploration where you get your hand dirty and you will learn a LOT about how coding projects and IDEs work.

A programming IDE is just a text editor and make file builder with a pretty GUI on top

It is not magic. And it is not even that complicated.

Sure. Automating it and making it solid and taking all the things that may change into account so it can be generic is hard

But creating a make file that will compile YOUR project? Not hat bad.

never learning how to properly handle multi file c projects is finally catching up to me and stabbing me to death with linker errors.

It is a cheap attack on nonmonogamy. I have also heard "ethical polyamory. When I asked what the heck that was, I was told "polyamory but where everyone involved is consenting and in the know".

Basically the idea being made is:

Monogamy is ethical, normal and good by default.

But non monogamy is corrupting, unethical and destructive by default. So you MUST specify that the one you are talking about is ethical. Because he default is unethical.

In short, it is bullshit

The term "ethical nonmonogamy" confuses me. Like is that just a weird way of saying polyamory/dating but not having sex monogamously or is it something else and I'm totally off base?