Happy Birthday Namjoon

🎈Happy birthday Namjoon 🎈

One of my favorite things he’s ever said, and he’s said a lot of intelligent, thoughtful things, was a comment he made during their hiatus announcement video last Summer.

I’m gonna paraphrase, but he essentially said that out of the myriad of realities in the multiverse, he genuinely believed (or wanted to believe) that he was living in the best possible one. That he was living the best possible outcome of all the random realities for Kim Namjoon that there are.

And wow, that hit me.

At first, it didn’t. I had recently lost a pregnancy, painfully and traumatically; I was grieving that and watching the world seem to fall apart around me, and struggling to find the will to keep going, to keep caring, to keep watching all the girls who were pregnant at the same time as me have healthy, beautiful babies and to click the “❤️” button rather than scream at them to shut the fuck up about how “blessed” they are.

So for a second I scoffed at him, like, “well no shit he’s living in the best reality; he’s a famous, successful and beloved celebrity with more money than he knows what to do with.” I mean — that’s the alternate reality we all would like to wake up and find ourselves in at least some days, right?

And, well, fair enough. But his words stuck with me, and the more I thought about them, the more I realized his words were deeper than that. I think they were about cultivating joy, and gratitude, and intention, and putting effort into making the life you’re living, no matter what it looks like, the best it could possibly be, out of all the random dice rolls in the universe.

And that’s a powerful fucking decision to make.

There are forces outside our control, of course there are. There are things we can’t escape, realities we can’t change. But there are almost always more things that we can change than things we cannot. And one of the biggest ones is our perspective.

What would the world look like if we all decided, individually, to make this right here our best reality? To stop wishing we were someone else doing something else somewhere else. To instead wholeheartedly believe that this is the chosen life, the one that deserves all of our effort, all of our passion, all of our attention. I think it would be transformative.

I encourage you to try it, even just for a day. Believe that your life is charmed, that it is destined and fated to matter. I’m not talking about manifesting, I’m talking about choosing.

Since hearing those words from him, I’ve tried to make small changes, everyday changes, but intentional ones, to enjoy the life I find myself in. To appreciate it, really appreciate it, despite its hardships, despite its ugliness, despite its many, many imperfections. To write more, to feel more, to forgive more, to listen more. To smile and dance around in my kitchen to KPop songs more. To tell my husband I love him more.

I can promise you that while my reality has not changed much at all since last Summer, it has nonetheless risen in my esteem. I can agree with him now; I can say that I too, am living in the best possible reality, out of the myriad of them that there may be, floating out there in the ether.

Maybe in one of them I am smarter, cleverer, notable for accomplishing something great. Maybe in one of them I’m more popular, more loved, more lauded.

But in this one, I am me, right where I am. And I choose to believe that that is no accident.

When he gifted those words to me that day, it was just that: a gift. And maybe I’m silly to read so much into a throwaway sentence from a pop star, but I’m not sure that’s what it was. I think it was vulnerable, thoughtful encouragement from a man who has enough power and wealth to be anything but vulnerable and thoughtful. And yet, he chooses to be.

Thank you, Namjoon. And happy birthday 💙

That host was incredible, putting him at ease like that. She needs a raise. She’s my favorite.

Lol I love JK too but she stole the show for me with that kindness 💕

Did we talk about how anxious JK was?

He was super anxious.

The place, the crowds, this being an international event being streamed all over the world.

And he had to speak in English.

He was nervous. He was anxious. He was ALONE.

I love how they are trying to calm his nerves though. They were lovely really.

This anxiousness, it showed in his performance as well.

These little cute mistakes. That aren't a big deal AT ALL, but they just show us how nervous he was.

And during Still with you as well. For a millisecond there he wasn't sure where he was going there on stage. Kind of "oops, I reached the end of the stage here..." moment.

Just him a little distracted, not all there. Nerves.

I was so happy for JK having this opportunity. What made me sad was that he had to go it alone, especially knowing him and seeing that indeed it was not easy for him. Of course he did well, that's just who he is. But wouldn't it have been lovely if he could have someone there by his side? For this momentous moment. I'm sure that JM would be there by his side if he could. Sad that he couldn't.

I see some on jikook blogs saying Jimin and JK seem fine so it must be an open relationship.

But what if Jimin didn't know and is finding out now just like us?

I get we don't want to paint Jk in the bad light, but its actually very possible that jimin and JK are fine cause jimin actually didn't know.

Sorry, that’s just too deep into rumor and conspiracy for me. I commented on the video cause it’s out there and if it’s really him the cat’s out of the bag so there’s no point in me pretending it doesn’t exist.

But I’m not really comfortable theorizing that JK is cheating or has cheated on anyone. That feels pretty slanderous especially given that it’s based on nothing but our perceptions of the nature of his relationship with Jimin and a bunch of hyperactive rumor mills on Twitter. Like. Ew. Let’s not assume negative shit and poor behavior where there’s literally no proof of it.

To explain the difference between saying “they seem fine so maybe it’s an open relationship” and saying “maybe they were fine because it was literally a cheating scandal exposed and one party was shocked” should be obvious. One is a pretty harmless assumption based on observable behavior. The other assumes negative intent and betrayal. Not my jam!

Alright this has been driving me crazy so I have to ask: what does Samsung think of Rainy Day?!?!

Lmao does he get a free pass since he’s not Suga?? Or do Samsungs make those noises too???? I haven’t had a Samsung since college, help a girl out, I need to know 🤣

So pretttaaayyyyy

No but really the way he can rock even this weird, not fully bleached, in-between, brassy ass yellow orange is proof that all shades of blonde including literal orange BELONG TO HIM. HE OWNS THEM. WE SHOULD HAVE TO ASK HIS PERMISSION TO HAVE BLONDE HAIR, EVEN THE SCANDINAVIAN BITCHES.

Crazy how he invented every beauty standard? Like??

blondemin is BACK (cr. jung-koook)

360 View:

Jimin’s been in denial about being shorter than Jung Kook since 2013:

Glad to see nothing’s changed 😏

Except, uh. Well. Should we call it the glow ups? 🤭 (get it cause pull-ups = glow-ups) (and goddamn have there been pull-ups)