Mmmmmm Imagine Your F/O(s) Using Your Daddy Issues And/or Mommy Issues To Manipulate You

Mmmmmm imagine your F/O(s) using your daddy issues and/or mommy issues to manipulate you <3

Bonus points if you/your S/I willingly go along with it while knowing exactly what your F/O is doing.

fun things you can do when you have an f/o!

print out pictures of them to hang up on your wall!

if they wear jewelry, make it!

make stickers of them! (there's tutorials on youtube of how to make stickers at home, or, you can get sticker paper on amazon for pretty cheap, mine was $6!)

if you do make stickers, put them on your sketchbook, journal, laptop, or whatever you feel like putting them on!

make a google slides presentation on them! alternatively, you could also write an essay about them.

if they don't have a canonical style of handwriting, find or try to write in a way they would write!

if they do, try making your own font of their handwriting that you can download and use. or, try to learn how to write similarly to them, maybe write letters to yourself from their perspective.

if they have a birthday or there's a holiday coming up (irl or canonical), make a card for them!

make them in the sims, or some other character creation making game. or, make a minecraft skin of them.

draw them as a character from another source. for example, draw them as a pony from mlp, or draw them as a character from smiling friends!

make a playlist of youtube videos you'd think they'd enjoy watching, and perhaps watch them again and pretend like you're watching them with your f/o.

make food they canonically like, or you'd think they'd like!

make a tier list as if they were making it! like a fruit tier list, for example.

if I think of anything else, I'll make a part 2!

I wonder how many antis exist because of those videos from the commentary community side of Youtube.

Like, the reason I was an anti ( didn't go by that term, but I held the beliefs to some extent, ) was because of those pumping me full of "incest fics and pedo fics baddddd" without having me question it because, well, I was in my early- to mid-teens and just thought "Yeah, sounds about right!"

I actually remember watching a video by one commentary Youtuber ( their persona had pink hair I think ) which talked about the "problems" about aging up characters. They eventually concluded it with saying it's not really that bad/was a complicated subject, and at that point I was agreeing with most/all their point made in the vid. I think that was when I started to identify as comship, but not entirely proship due to the misinfo of what proship/profic is that I'd been fed.

I think the only reason I started holding fully proship beliefs was cuz I decided to actually look into what proship/profic is, and try to hear out the proship arguments/beliefs ( with a critical mind ofc. ) Eventually I found out paraphilias are chronic, found out kinks have no morals, and more, which had me switching beliefs, though.

Idk if others have experienced this, but knowing how many people exist? Doubt I'm alone lol.

Either way, not caring about the morality of the fictional shit I enjoy is so much better, and really freeing.

i miss him (fictional character)

Honestly? One thing that made me feel/sympathize for the big 3 paraphilias, is cuz I had to deal with my thing for cannibalism a year or so ago with no support for a few months.

I constantly thought about it (some days for hours at a time non-stop) to the point it was fucking up my mental health. It went on like that until I found someone to talk to that felt the same way, which helped a whole bunch. Really helped me to express my feelings in a healthy + non-judgmental space, and now I barely think about it unless I actually want to.

It made me realize that the more demonized paraphiles like pedophiles must go through a living hell without support, cuz the object of their paraphilias' attraction is pretty much literally everywhere/very common, which makes it hard to not think about, I'd assume. Not to mention my shit only went on for a few months at most, while paraphiles likely go through it for years.

And without good support, I'd imagine it's a slippery slope to offend or ending oneself (the latter obviously being horrid cuz yall- offender or not- are human, and deserve some basic decency at the very least.)

So glad you're doing better, OP, and hope non-offending pedophiles/zoophilies/etc become less stigmatized cuz yall don't deserve the hate.

The pro-para community helped me go from having a pedophilic disorder to just having pedophilia, which means I’m much happier, less anxious, don’t hate myself as much, don’t isolate myself as much, and I trust myself to never act on it. Without the pro-para community, I would not have learned how to recognize and deal with it, which could have ended in me harming a child.

Yes, the pro-para community has pro-contact people and abusers (as does every other community that has ever existed), but they are not what the whole community is made of nor are their ideas what the whole community wants. We support paraphilias, that is it. Anything other than that is a personal belief and is not inherent to being pro-para. I completely understand thinking ‘what if this paraphile is just pretending to be anti-contact,’ but it’s not fair to assume and judge someone based off that. There’s no way to know if an anti-contact person is secretly pro-contact or an abuser. Everyone is innocent until proven guilty.

Having paraphilias IS NORMAL, so yes I would love to normalize it. I would absolutely celebrate if people didn’t see paraphiles, especially pedophiles, as ticking time bombs and unsavable monsters doomed to be horrible and evil forever, and instead just saw us as normal people. Because that’s what we are.

I deserve to celebrate and be proud of the fact that I’m alive despite being told by most people that I deserve to be tortured to death even though I’ve done nothing wrong. I deserve to celebrate and be proud of the fact that despite having a potentially dangerous disorder, I’ve never harmed any children and I don’t plan to.

I actually agree that fiction affecting reality has a lot of nuance that is often just skipped over. Other things that matter, too, is your education/state of mind.

Fx. if you read a lot of books that portrays xyz as working like abc, and you're uninformed about the subject, then you're more likely to think it works like that. (You can see this in stuff like smut fanfics where the authors write stuff that makes it obvious they've never had sex, or with men writing women that makes you question if they've ever interacted with the opposite sex.)

Or alternatively, if you're in a delusional/unsound state of mind, then you're more likely to believe fiction to be reality. Fx. I personally struggle with delusions in regards to cognito-hazard creepypastas like PHEN-228 and Smile Dog, but I luckily know it's irrational and have coping mechanisms, but some may not and/or be unaware of their condition. (Another example is the famous Slenderman case that some antis love to bring up)

Obviously this just comes down to educating people and providing proper support for the mentally ill, but it's still a thing to consider when discussing if fiction affects reality.

On top of all that there's also your tolerance of differentiating fiction from reality before it starts to affect you/your views on reality negatively, and your level of media literacy. I haven't really thought either of those points out fully to talk about them in this context, ( at least not without pulling shit out of my ass on the spot, ) but I know they obv also affect it, too, in one way or another.

Personally I also think it's healthy for fiction to affect you to some extent. Obviously you have to be careful and/or self-aware with how much it affects you, but crying over a movie, getting off to whatever fantasy you're into over fanfiction instead of bottling it up, using fiction to cope with trauma, and so on are obviously healthy ways fiction affects reality.

On the flip-side there's also ways fiction can affect you negatively. Fx. if you read something triggering, if you read something that makes you extremely upset, and/or if you read so much of xyz it starts to warp your view on the world. At that point it comes down to moderation. Either of how much fiction you consume, or what type of fiction you consume.

Either way, no matter how much fiction affects reality, none of it should be censored, due to the fact the fiction isn't the underlying problem.

Fiction affecting reality has way more nuance than “it does” or “doesn’t”. I personally believe it has to do with someone’s mindset, and if they allow it too. Again, this is just my opinion, and I’m okay with people trying to have civil debates or conversations about this topic!