I Know This Will Probably Be A Pretty Niche Acceptance/positivity Post, But For For The People Who Are

I know this will probably be a pretty niche acceptance/positivity post, but for for the people who are minorities and fetishize/sexualize that part of themselves: You aren't a "bad example" for doing so.

Being a minority can be really traumatizing, and the trauma and abuse we endure can often go overlooked or be minimized. It isn't wrong for you to react to that trauma in a way where you attempt to take control back of your identity, even if that control takes the form of a sexual coping mechanism.

Personally, me being misgendered for 4 to 5 years fucked with my head a lot, and while that doesn't sound "that bad" to most since they've never endured that type of pain, it basically meant the people around me was ignoring and denying me my identity for pretty much my entire teen life which were already fucked over by other factors.

While I won't go into too much detail, all those years of having such an integral part of me denied ( especially during such formative years of my life ) lead to me developing a forced feminization kink as a trans man.

At times it can trigger my dysphoria, I have to be careful participating in it, and do my best to not oversexualize myself too much, but either way, I'm not bad for that happening to me nor am I bad for having the kink. Similarly, you're also not bad for it, no matter what your story looks like, nor how your kink manifested.

Even without any explicit trauma like that, being a minority that's just existing can be inherently traumatizing and scary as fuck. I mean, why wouldn't it be when the world around you is hostile towards you, be it overtly or covertly, simply for existing?

While I know you can also be into this type of stuff without having trauma like this, ( which is also just as valid, ) I've just never see anyone talk about this type of stuff in the sense of it developing from trauma, so I wanted to make a post like this in case anyone out there can relate and needs to hear this.

Cuz if I'm completely honest? It's kinda lonely and isolating to go through this type of stuff, due to how taboo it is to fx. be a trans person that fetishizes themselves. People can make you feel shameful for developing a kink like this, or for simply fetishizing yourself at all, since it can make those mentioned people label you as a "bad [insert whatever minority here]"

Just remember to pace yourself, know your limits before it starts to harm your mental health, and remember that at the end of the day you're more than just a sexual object; you're a person that deserves respect, love, and acceptance.

Even if you can't do any of those things just yet for whatever reasons, I'm sure you can work towards partaking in the kink you have in a healthy way eventually. I believe in you.

It's always fun when one of your posts ages badly, because you realize some shit you've been through was more fucked up than you thought it was.

okay but to my self shippers with f/os who are tough, strong, and hardened—

imagine babying your f/o <3 and them absolutely melting and loving it. maybe they’re more reserved, maybe work makes them closed off or scary or tough…just imagine the way that they melt when they’re the little spoon, when you call them a sweet term of endearment.

maybe they’ve never been spoiled like this before, never been loved gently the way that you love them. i can’t imagine the relief they feel when they can be soft with you and only you.

your f/o must love the way you make them feel like an angel and the most precious thing in the world !!

DUDE WHAT???

Bro and the the op replied to that comment and agreed that shit is unreal antis are fucking disgusting

Screenshotting and reblogging these tags from another reblog of this post real quick. I haven't gone through any form of SA/CSA myself, but I think it's important to highlight the stance- and feelings of this person ( plus the many other CSA survivors I'm sure feel the same ) instead of just keeping it in the tags.

anti shippers the only mfers who'll refuse to call it csem because "proshippers use that term" and continue to use a term that is outdated & implies the victims were able to consent to the exploitative material. oh but no proshippers are the problem. makes sense to me!

This combined with the growing pressure to always be "morally right" online, that you're not supposed to even have a chance of being "bad" or otherwise it's a moral failing, the black/white thinking that is often pushed in antiship spaces, and the lack of room for nuance that that creates.

Certainly doesn't help if the person having these beliefs pushed on them are young, don't know any better either, and/or if they come from a society where purity culture exists heavily around them.

I've seen that the decline in media literacy rates could help explain why many young antis seem to think that fiction impacts reality in the way they do. With media literacy skills becoming less common, there's a growing gap in understanding how fiction and reality intersect. Antis who don't have critical engagement with media can lead to misconceptions about the nature of fictional content and its influence on real-world behavior. As a result, young antis might struggle to distinguish between the fictional and the actual, which could account for their more extreme viewpoints on shipping.