I Think The Problematic Thing That A Discussion Like This Tends To Raise Is The Common Conflation Of

I think the problematic thing that a discussion like this tends to raise is the common conflation of a dominant or submissive role defining how you like your sex served. You can be a sub that never bottoms or a Dom that never tops (penetratively speaking), for example.

Having an assertive/aggressive personality doesn't mean you only like the way it feels to put your dick in something. And having a chill/sensitive demeanour doesn't mean you like getting your ass pounded on the reg.

Having experienced trauma, including SA, doesn't mean you'll never be comfortable engaging in those acts consensually, whether you were into them before or not. It doesn't even mean that you wouldn't choose to engage in them regularly post-trauma as a means of reclamation, defiance, or self-destructive behaviour, simple preference for them aside.

And like, bossiness and the amount of nerve-endings in your anus do not correlate (I assume there haven't been studies, but correct me if I'm wrong).

I'm not having a go here. I don't want anyone to take it that way. I am fully anti-hate and pro-ship. But I think it's troublesome–and something that needs addressing and educating–that so much of fandom conflates Doms and subs or tough and weak with whose dick goes in whose ass.

To be clear: I fully support if someone prefers to only see Sam get dicked down by his short/bossy/butch big brother.

And I fully support if someone prefers to only read about Dean getting nailed harder than a railroad spike by his sasquatch baby bro.

I guess my hope is just that you're (general 'you' here and elsewhere–again, nothing personal, just ranting while the topic is on the table, sorry!) stuck on it for the right reasons. That is, without the implication that either of them is demeaned or less of a man or less strong, powerful, secure, etc. because of it. There's a really concerning homophobia in that, conscious or not, internalised or not, that patriarchal society and bigoted communities have been both loudly and insidiously touting for a long time, that bothers me on a fundamental level, and has also made itself apparent in sections of fandom over the years. The anti-bottom!Dean brigade alone makes me want to bite.

Anyway, I've gone off track. It's a hot-button issue for me, apparently. More simply, personally, I find it harder to believe that they would pick a role and rigidly adhere to it–Dean's a hedonist, give him pleasure wherever it comes from; Sam's open-minded, he'll go with the flow. So I see them switching depending on mood, canon events, injury, etc. One mostly giving or receiving with the occasional switch, yep, cool, they can of course have preferences of their own. But a full lean to either is the view that takes more convincing for me. I'd need a reason. And actually, sometimes that reason is the most interesting part of the story. 🤔

idk what's wrong with me, but I just CANT see Sam as dominant over Dean. Like, I totally get where it would come from, but I just cant see it with Dean. Sam does snap at Dean and is stern sometimes, but in a relationship idk. seems like Sam would be submissive for Dean. (guys I totally love blood lust Sam and souless Sam, but they seem like versions of Sam that he wants to keep away from Dean) Maybe the feisty part of him translates to a bottom that takes what he wants??? AHHH

change my mind!! there's so many bottom Dean fics but why does it seem so ooc?? I WANT TO SEE WHAT YOU SEE

DANGIT NOT AGAIN

it’s either that or nothing

Gotta resurrect my Dick-in-a-box every dingdanged Valentine's Day. And I am not sorry about it.

I have a endless list of favorite J2 moments.

HERE WE GO WITH THE FUCKING ALMOST KISS DURING THE TCA 2006

AND THE CLASSIC HAND-ON-HEART MOVE IN JENSEN’S STYLE

THIS FUCKING CUTE MOMENT WHEN THEY WERE SO YOUNG AND BEAUTIFUL AND IN LOVE

AND ALL THE PREGNANCY JOKES

AND ALL THE BROTHERLY BUTT TOUCHES

AND THAT TIME JENSEN WRAPPED HIS LEGS AROUND JARED’S HIPS AND WE ALL DIED

AND HOW EASILY JARED CAN CARRY JENSEN SERIOUSLY

AND WHEN THEY FUCKING FLIRT ON SET

AND ALL THE HUGS 

AND THE HEART EYES MOMENTS

AND WHEN THEY HOLD EACH OTHER’S HAND

AND WHEN THEY JUST TOUCH EACH OTHER 

AND WHEN THEY HAVE NO CLUE ABOUT PERSONAL SPACE

AND ALL THE DIRTY JOKES 

ANON I LOVE EVERY FUCKING MOMENT BETWEEN JARED AND JENSEN AND THEY ARE THE MAIN REASON WHY I HAVE NO SOCIAL LIFE

Supernatural S5E14 My Bloody Valentine

Keep thinking about Dean decorating the bunker and instead of the Live Love Laugh sign, Dean made one that says Sam Sam:) Sammy♡ and my heart just swelled with joy 🥹