Completely Agree. I'd Be Able To Afford More Care For The Strays That Are Apparently Attracted To Me.

Completely agree. I'd be able to afford more care for the strays that are apparently attracted to me. I'd be able to afford a home where I could be stable. I'd get an electric bike so I could get to more places. But I'd still work jobs. I LIKE working. I just wish it wasn't necessary to do to just barely survive.

your support for people’s trans identities should not bank on whether they are “ able ” to transition or not。

if someone does not have the resources to transition ,

if someone does not have the energy to transition ,

if someone does not want to take the risks of transitioning ,

if someone is scared of transitioning ,

if it is an identity that is “““ biologically ””” or , in some other form , unable to be transitioned to { im looking at you , anti transrace ++ anti transabled ++ anti transage folkel , who commonly use this argument }

they should be supported in their identity regardless。

likewise , if someone wants to transition and it does not nonconsensually harm people ,

they should not be judged。

transabled people developing symptoms , transracial people changing their appearance , etcetera , are not harming people by transitioning。

it is not for you to decide if the way someone transitions is harmful or not , it is not for you to decide if the way someone wants to transition is possible or not。

How is it that pretty much my entire family is shitty?

My legal guardian was narcissistic and physically and mentally abusive, my aunt was emotionally abusive and is now financially abusing me, my mom was narcissistic and emotionally, financially, and mentally abusive, my dad was physically, mentally, and emotionally abusive, my stepmom is emotionally abusive, my aunt through my stepmom is two-faced and emotionally abusive, and my grandpa through my stepmom is emotionally abusive.

My older sister is good, but she's been so sucked in by my mom that she's completely forgotten how well we got along and has shut me out. Same with my younger brother. My youngest sister I can't even get in contact with and don't know well. My other younger brother got away from our mom, but we don't stay in contact much. My adoptive brother is pretty understanding, but he still thinks that our guardian was a great mom and shuts out all of the abuse that we went through. He also is still being manipulated by our aunt who is in control of our major finances.

Part of me feels like I'm the problem, and it's my fault because if every relationship I've had has gone to shit and I'm the common denominator, then how could it not be?

But my one brother getting away and going no contact with our mom gave me some validation. I've also gained a few friends that I get along with just fine, so that helps, too.

I just have to keep reminding myself of all the shit that these people put me through: My guardian hit me and tried to force me to act neurotypical, as well as denying my mental and physical health issues while acting like I had so many other ones. She had me on too high of a dose of ADHD meds to try and force me to be normal, and never let me go to doctors appointments alone, because she had to talk over me the entire time. My mom had me paying for her animals and caring for them, but guilted me about how I didn't do anything, as well as threatening to take mine and my sister's animals away on multiple occasions because she was mad at us. She later blamed me for my youngest sister being suicidal and abandoned me at a homeless shelter. Then stole over $1000 woeth of my stuff and tossed the rest on the curb bmthe night before pickup. My dad repeatedly and intentionally triggered PTSD attacks, as well as putting his hands on me to restrain me during one. And when I went no contact for 2 years, he told everyone that I had molested his dogs and my sister. Later, he used my animal abuse/neglect charge against me and told everyone that I liked to kill animals. This time, he's repeatedly called animal control, supported my aunt when she stole my cats, and is telling everyone that I'm an animal abuser. And he allowed my service dog to be nearly killed on multiple occasions by his severely unstable dog, who has also snapped at his own kids and the neighbors kid. He nearly bit my face and him and my stepmom still defended him and yelled at me for instinctively hitting him.

My mom and dad now are claiming that I was the abusive one and that I'm manipulative and malicious.

I'm sick of it. I just wish I could have decent familial support.

This includes sexual thoughts. Stop accusing people of being child molesters and animal abusers just because they have those thoughts.

Stop attacking those who write or draw those things; It's a valid coping mechanism.

Stop attacking people who sexualize their thoughts; Again, it's a valid coping mechanism.

As someone with violent and even homicidal ideation, I think the choices people make are far more indicative of their moral character than anything else.

Thoughts mean nothing. Thoughtcrimes don't exist, especially because what we think is out of our control. If you're not running around hurting people or advocating for others hurting people, then you're fine. For the love of fuck stop stigmatizing mental illnesses and and the unsavory symptoms some of them tend to have.

People can't help it whether they have intrusive thoughts or even fantasize about violence. It doesn't mean we're going to do it. I'm not going to apologize for my symptoms nor does someone finding them off-putting give them a license to be ableist/sanist about it.