I Would Like To Put Out Into The Universe That I Am Extremely Broke And Have Open Commissions

I would like to put out into the universe that I am extremely broke and have open commissions ✨

fellow artists:

how do y’all organize having a couple styles/mediums that you’re willing to take commissions in?

for context: I’m a graphic design major but I like drawing people a lot. I’d love to design logos and posters for people, but I also would like to do character commissions too. on top of that, I have three different styles for characters/people depending on what medium I’m in

so how can I have all of those as options without using like 20 google forms that get all jumbled?

help

please and thanks

Sometimes I try to remember how your hands felt in mine, how calloused your palms or cold your jewelry or gentle your touch. Instead of memories of sharing a coat pocket, I find instead a pain I’d forgotten I could feel, and my heart clenches in its cage. I feel the weight of dying all over again. I think that’s what grief truly is. Dying over and over and over again until a version of yourself is born that has not touched or held or comforted that of which you grieve. Drying until a version of you is born that knows how to live without them. Sometimes I wake up with the ghost of your breath dancing across my skin, and I am grateful to have been the version to wake up this morning. Perhaps those versions of me that have died are somewhere with all the versions of you that they have loved. Perhaps they can be happy. Perhaps they do not remember the ache of not having you. Some version of us deserves happiness, after all.

Since the OP made their post unrebloggable (and blocked me. Both actions they are well in with their right to do)

I'm going to make my response it's own post because I think the point is important

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As someone who is autistic and has BPD and CPTSD and loads of trauma yes you sometimes need to change how you interact with others to keep people around

When I was 13 I hit the few friends I had when I was angry

I had to change that in order to keep those friendships

When I was in my early 20s if I was losing an disagreement with my husband I would threaten to kill myself. My husband told me it hurt him and was cruel and manipulative behaviour, because it was.

So I worked hard to change that to keep my relationship

It's easy to say "I shouldn't have to change for others" and that's true to an extent. You shouldn't change your interests or passions or dim your light. And you should have space to be imperfect and flawed and not have to pretend your ugly bits aren't real. But if something you are doing it causing other people harm you kinda need to change that.

That's called "living in a society"

People adapt to each other and make space for each other in their lives. You adapt to them and they adapt to you

You start being more diligent about throwing away the empty toilet roll because it really bothers them. They start warning you before they run the blender because you hate loud noises

I stopped threatening to kill myself because I was mad I was losing an argument and my husband stopped being so vocally judgemental amount media he personally dislikes

There is a certain type of person who heard the phrase "your emotions are valid" and took that to mean "my emotional reactions and my behaviour are always objectively correct because my emotions are valid and if you have an emotional response or react to what I'm doing negatively then you are wrong and you can't be hurt because my emotions are valid"

And that's a recipe for disaster

Your emotions are valid to feel. They are how you feel and there are reasons you feel the way you do

However, your reactions and behaviour are something you can learn to control and can be irrational

We live in a society and we as people change each other as we interact and that isn't necessarily a bad thing

Our fandom forbearers did NOT suffer through Anne Rice, strikethrough, and other bullshit for fucking ACOTAR and Harry Potter fans to fucking ruin it for all of us by selling fanfiction. I am not losing novel length yaoi epics because some of you don't know how to act in fannish spaces and yes I do blame the booktokification of fanfic but I also blame those of you that treat fandom like content to consume and not a community to engage with.