Apartment Hacks Masterpost

Apartment hacks masterpost

Kitchen

How to clean up kitchen (particularly the sink, burnt pots and small aplliances)

How to take care of kitchen stuff so that it lives longer

10 commandments of a clutter-free kitchen

Organizing kitchen mini masterpost

5 things to do in the kitchen before you go to bed

What is soapy bowl and why it’s awesome

How to organize your fridge (also here, here and here)

Thins you should know about your fridge

Adding more storage space in a tiny kitchen

Cleaning

Lots of cleaning tutorials and tips. And some more

How to clean up pantry

How to make your house look cleaner than it really is

How to wash pillows

Cleaning the bathroom

How to clean the nastiest places (and get rid of bad smells, etc.)

Floor-to-celling guide to spring cleaning

Recaulking your bathtub

Cleaning grout

How to dispose of toxic waste

Cleaning the medicine cabinet

How to make chores more fun

You mustn’t skip these chores, but you can delay these if you’re busy

Easily forgotten things that you should clean/replace

Why you need a catch-up day

Small cleaning tasks to do in under 15 minutes (also here)

Looking for a flat/moving

First apartment checklist

Where too look during an apartment hunt (and some more tips)

Negotiate these things with your landlord

What to do first in a new place

What do clean before moving out

How not to get crazy during moving flats

How to downgrade to a smaller place

Organisation, storage

10 habits for better home organisation

How to store off-season items

10 storage ideas for small spaces (more here)

Storage secret weapons

How to organise your closet

Things to do before twice-yearly closet switchout

How to store and maintain your sweaters

Decluttering

Why it feels great

How to get rid of clutter

How to declutter (not only a flat)

What needs to be thrown away from your flat

How to let go of the things you no longer need

Things you own too many of; you can throw away these too

Decuttering the bathroom

Decluterring masterpost

Decorating

Projects for every room in your home/flat

Add style to your home

DIY decorating ideas

How to use negative space

4 common decorating mistakes and how to avoid them

Questions to ask yourself before buying something new

How to choose furniture that’ll be easier to clean

Season-specific tips

Things to do before the cold season

Household hacks for winter

Preparing for Christmas

Green thumb 101

How to take care of succulents

Never kill a plant again

Living alone / Sharing a flat

How not to be lonely when living alone

12 things you can only do when home alone

What you learn by living alone

Things you learn while sharing a flat

What to pack when leaving for a dorm

How to seamlessly share a kitchen (or a flat in general)

Safety issues to discuss with flatmates

Benefits of living with strangers

And also how to turn a house into a home

It’s All A Fucking Joke, Right

In the few months I’ve been modding at fuckyeahasexual and touring ace Tumblr, there’s been a very. Steady. Stream of info that detail horrifically abusive situations and overall poor mental unhealth. Two a week in the inbox if I’m lucky, usually around seven-ten.

And there’s been so many, I can officially categorize all 500+ of these kinds of asks and submissions into an extensive bulletlist of Why Asexual Exclusionary Radicalism Is Incredibly Toxic And Shitty;

Coming Out To Family, Friends, And Employers

“My parents keep telling me that I’m something else, and it’s making me doubt my sense of judgement, not just about my sexual identity, but also about everything in general.”

“My family, friends, and co-workers keep referring to me as an inanimate object in a manner that’s clearly meant to humiliate and devastate me. Nothing I say will get them to stop.”

“My parents vocally/bodily forced me to undergo medical examinations, some of them concerning my sexual organs, many of them concerning blood tests and other trauma-centric procedures.”

“My family is intervening with my private life by changing my schedule to include exercise, socialization, friend influences, and whatever they think can ‘change’ me.”

“My friends/co-workers no longer respect my bodily boundaries when I came out to them, because they no longer see me as someone who should be respected. They regularly touch, fondle, grope, and prod me without permission, and/or verbally harass me, and don’t take my objections seriously.”

“My family, friends, and co-workers no longer just harass me, but also anyone I’m currently dating because they view my significant other as pathetic, underserved, or even being abused.”

First Few Days Of Dating

“My date got irrationally angry and confrontational when I came out to them, in a manner that made me fearful.” (SO many of these.)

“My date immediately lost any respect they had for my boundaries, no longer asked for consent, and {tried to} force themselves upon me.” (A lot of these, too)

“My date tried to verbally circumvent any boundaries and issues I confessed to, and it made me feel like I was in danger.”

“I didn’t come out to my date at first, and when they found out, they radically changed their behavior in an attempt to control and manipulate our new relationship to their benefit.”

Long-Term Relationships

“My partner has forcefully and radically changed our long-term relationship after finding out about my asexuality, and I’m now trapped and controlled in a way that I wasn’t before.”

“My partner broke up with me/is fighting with me because of my asexuality, and trying to make it seem like I’m hurting them. It’s made me doubt myself and my ability to trust my own intentions.”

“My partner is slowly changing from what was once supportive of my asexuality, and I’m wondering when I have the right to be worried and when I’d be overreacting. I’m aware of the worst case scenario, but I also worry that I’m being selfish and childish - which are things I’ve been told all throughout my asexual experience.”

Self-Care And Self Development

“I don’t trust my ability to say either yes or no in sexual situations, and this has extended to my life in general. I don’t feel comfortable in my ability to self-determinate.”

“The lack of authority, definition, and schooling of the concept of asexuality has made me very uncomfortable with what I think I am, and that uncertainty haunts me every waking moment.”

“I think it’s too late/too early to tell if I’m asexual, but the longer I hesitate, the worse my mental health and emotional wellbeing gets. I’m effectively stuck.”

“I see no benefit in coming out, or even identifying as asexual. There’s no positivity, role models, or supportive community for what I consider a big and scary part of my overall identity.”

“I think this was sexual abuse, but I’m wondering if I’m just being selfish and childish.”

“I think I was treated badly by my parents/friends/partner, but I’m wondering if I’m just being selfish and childish.”

“I want to believe that I’m deserving of equal freedom and human respect paid to other, not asexual people, but people tell me I’m being selfish and childish.”

“No one encourages this part of me. And that makes me feel forgotten and abandoned in general.”

Shut the fuck up about your petty beef with tumblr bloggers and youtubers and Archie comics or whatever. I literally do not care, I can’t care. I see these messages every goddamn day - this post was written and drafted a month ago, and I very easily compiled most of this bulletpoint list from scratch, just by eyeing what I see in the askbox and what comes across my dash. 

‘Ace discourse’ anger is empty and so meaningless. This is what I see by being part of this one 17k follow asexual ask blog for maybe half a year. I am so Done with all the faux rage posts and all the false positivity about how it’s ok to NOT be ace and all the acephobia that falls perfectly in line with the gaslighting typical of acephobia-101 while also having the audacity to claim it not so.

This is what’s real and I want to bleed it into your goddamn eyes.

Tricks for Perceivers: ORGANISATION AND TIME MANAGEMENT

The basis of the first part of this post is that perceivers are most content when they can do stuff whenever they feel like doing them. The idea is therefore to trick your mind into thinking you feel like doing it instead of it being forced. Here’s how you can do that:

1. Change the To Do title to Would Like To Do/Could Do/May Do or something along those lines, whatever you heart desires Though this doesn’t particularly work for me it could for you so I threw it in there. It’s pretty self explanatory - it helps you perceive the tasks as if they’re desired instead of demanded.

2. Switch location (and keep switching it) As long at the place you’re doing the task at is giving you that feeling of novelty that makes you a little bit excited, that’s great. Once it gets too familiar, however, switch it. It doesn’t have to be a drastic change, it just has to be a different place - e.g. a different room, a different table at a library, the opposite side of the table that gives you a slightly different view, different cafe… I wouldn’t change the location until it feels too familiar though because this nevertheless is about keeping the interest higher while still primarily focusing on the task.

3. Work when you otherwise wouldn’t I sometimes wake up at 5 am to study for an hour and a half before I head to school. This is not because I’d enjoy waking up early since I generally love staying up pretty late but because if you decide to do something at a time that’s unusual for you, you’ll probably feel ahead of the game and as if you have your life put together. It’s literally just about putting yourself in the mood for being productive.

4. Play pretend Actually getting ready, dressing into professional clothes or something cozy yet still put together and everything that goes along with that doesn’t only make you appear like you’re a productive and organised individual, it also makes you feel that way which will likely boost your motivation.

However, you’re still a perceiver, so… How to not go crazy:

5. Schedule the “no schedule” time Make it long enough so it actually feels like you have some time without any limitations regarding what to do and when to do it. This is especially important when you have hectic schedules. It may seem inconvenient and as if you’re wasting your time if you do that during the hectic week but if you keep following insane schedules for too long you’ll eventually burn out and end up throwing away even more time. Make it possible so that one afternoon or whichever long enough part of the day in the midst of all the crazy days you’ll have nothing scheduled.

6. Don’t plan, visualise  Visualising allows you to imagine how you could spend your time in the future. This doesn’t put on the pressure to follow a strict schedule but it still makes you loosely determine what should be done the next day and when approximately. For me writing down a To Do list can be somewhat cool as long as I make it visually appealing but following it is a huge motivation drainer. So if I know that there are things that have to be done that already demand much attention and focus (e.g. studying), I avoid writing anything down, I stick to just having a loose schedule in my head.

7. The general rule When there are things scheduled for you, do not overschedule in the free time that’s left for you. When there’s little to nothing scheduled for you, schedule stuff for yourself to stay productive but only make 1 or 2 things per day strict. And not long. Add other stuff on the go.

8. Understand when you can work for a short time and when you just have to keep going to finish whatever you have to do  Generally perceivers handle quicker and shorter tasks much easierly than the lengthy ones but sometimes you cannot avoid the long study sessions unless you planned ahead to avoid studying one day before the exam… but that’s less likely I’d say. Some people suggest to take breaks but beware of falling into a void of distractions and end up searching up for like an hour (or more) some random things that suddenly become so interesting. Once you stop doing the boring task and allow yourself to do something more fun you have to trick yourself into following a schedule all over again and that’s a pain. If I know I have a very focus-oriented busy day ahead of me I’ll prepare mentally the day before and just try to make the best of it, avoiding the breaks as much as possible.

Top 10 Reasons to know Sign Langauge:

1. You can communicate through windows 2. Sign language is a 3-D Language 3. You can sign with your mouth full 4. Hearing parents can communicate with their Deaf child 5. You can sign underwater 6. Sign Language is a neat way to express yourself 7. You can communicate across a room or via mirror without shouting 8. Sign language is beautiful 9. You can make friends with Deaf people 10. Sign language brings together Hearing & Deaf people

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