Bill Nye Just Casually Validated Asexuality And I Spent Ten Minutes Crying In My Kitchen.

Bill Nye just casually validated asexuality and I spent ten minutes crying in my kitchen.

Whenever I come across a trainee in customer service (like a cashier, or a sales rep), there is usually a senior/experienced employee with them doing the training and they always apologise for the trainee. “Sorry, they’re learning.” And I always respond with, “That’s good! We all have to learn.”

Even when I got a new phone and had to wait five hours for them to process the purchase (it was on a contract so there were a lot of forms and regulatory steps to finalise), when the trainee went to the back and I was alone with the store manager, I made a point in how impressed I was with the trainee’s performance. The relief on her face was prudent and they were extremely grateful for my patience.

We don’t discourage children from learning. We don’t lambast them when they can’t perform a task that an experienced person can do. Humans aren’t born with the inherent ability to work a credit card facility. We are born to learn and develop skills that help ourselves and each other.

The only decent thing we can do is be patient and encourage each other to become the best at what we do.

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I’ll make sure you never get a date again.

Over two years ago, I dated a boy for around 5 or 6 months. Let’s call him X. Ultimately, I broke up with X because he routinely sexually assaulted me, cheated on me, threatened to tell my mother horrific and untrue things about me if I left him, and many other things of that sort. We don’t talk regularly, but every time he likes a girl he’ll pretend to text me accidentally and tell me about it in an attempt to make me jealous. I have a friend who X talks to regularly, and this friend will then tell me the name of the girl he’s crushing on.

Every time this happens, I send the girl a DM. I tell her that I heard that X has been crushing on her, and that she’s free to make her own choices about dating him, but before she should do so she should know the kind of person he really is. I then tell her the truth about what he did to me, sprinkling in some old screenshots I’ve saved just for this occasion. I make sure to include that it’s entirely possible he may have changed, but should they date she should look out for those warning behaviors. I ask her to please not share any of the information I’ve given her, as he could still tell my mother many of the thing she threatened to before (not that she would believe him).

So far, I’ve done this with 4 girls. None of them have ever said anything, and all of them have unexpectedly stopped talking to him out of nowhere (according to the mutual friend). He posts on social media all the time about how he can never get a date, and occasionally rants about how women are so picky and choosy and always flake out halfway through a flirtatious relationship.

It may seem over the top, but the sexual abuse I suffered through has deeply affected me, and I fully intend to make sure he can never get a date again. Take that, b*tch. (source)

today is national wine day and i’m seeing girls as young as 18 joke about being “future wine moms” with their besties and while this is cute and seems funny it also reminds me how normalized overconsumption of alcohol is in our society. it’s a tough thing to talk about because these convos sometimes lead to full out shaming of people who engage in this behaviour. on the other hand, the complete acceptance and normalization of this kind of behaviour is extremely harmful. we live in such a pro-alcohol society that alcohol consumption is even pitched as being “heart healthy” when antioxidant benefits of the grapes in wine don’t even come close to outweighing the destructive properties of alcohol. we have to learn how to discuss substance “vices” – because, let’s face it, drinking, smoking etc are literally always going to be apart of the human experience and will always be apart of our community and our lives – without promoting their absolute acceptance or absolute dissolution. the trend of aggressively shaming people into quitting cigarettes without addressing why specific demographics suffer certain addictions more than others is not beneficial in the grand scheme of limiting self-destructive habits.

we gotta approach a model where we can discuss appropriate limits for all substances without shaming people and using holier than thou rhetoric, but also not making such behaviour marketable and neutralizing its harm with cute memes etc. 

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