Am I The Only One Who Despises "pervasive Drive For Autonomy" As An Alternative To "pathological Demand

Am I the only one who despises "pervasive drive for autonomy" as an alternative to "pathological demand avoidance"?

PDA takes away so much of my ability to decide for myself what to do; it robs me of my autonomy. I struggle with doing things I enjoy because I make them into demands in my head, I can't watch weekly-airing shows because I tell myself that I have to, that I love this show, that I need to watch the next episode, and then no longer being able to. Because my brain has decided that it just Must go into fight or flight because... I am trying to decide what to do.

It just feels... gross, I guess, to dress it up as "i just have a strong sense of autonomy, i just don't like being told what to do ^_^" when it is genuinely disabling to me, not just in when other people try to influence me, but also when I want to do something and PDA prevents me.

My mind immediately after I say anything to anyone:

“They don’t care. That was fucking stupid.”

plural culture is asking yourself, “am i faking it?” and a headmate immediately replying, “i’m real, dumbass”