The Thing About Parenting A PDA Kid Is That You Do Not Control Them. You Are Not Their Boss And You Are

The thing about parenting a PDA kid is that you do not control them. You are not their boss and you are not in control.

The firmer you are the less it works, the more strict you become the less they listen. 'Putting tour foot down' will do nothing but stress them and possibly cause a meltdown.

All you can do is offer comfort, assistance, and advice, but you need to let them make their own decisions, whether they be bad or good, because you cannot stop them.

They might listen to some demands, such as bedtimes or screentime or helping with chores, but only if they are offered lightly. Only if there is wiggle room and they have options.

You are not in control of your PDA child. The sooner you accept that you are not their warden nor owner, the better your relationship will be.

I think some people forget that some literature and some media is meant to be deeply uncomfortable and unsettling. It's meant to make you have a very visceral reaction to it. If you genuinely can't handle these stories then you are under no obligation to consume them but acting as if they have no purpose or as if people don't have a right to tell these stories, stories that often relate to the darkest or most disturbing parts of life, then you should do some introspection.

I’m going to be disabled my entire life. And it isn’t because I haven’t done enough or tried hard enough to get better.

This seems to make a lot of abled people uncomfortable because they say things like “oh don’t give in! Don’t let it hold you back!

Me accepting my disability as a reality is how I learn to cope with it and make the adjustments I need. My disabilities do hold me back and acknowledging that isn’t a bad thing.

nothing in the world makes me more evil than just being kind of annoyed

im always thinking about that post where someones grandma said “some people have never cleaned a bathroom and it shows” bc it does show

preaching to the choir obviously but to rob people of a personal choice out of the ostensible fear they might come to regret said choice is a thousand times crueler than allowing them the freedom to do things they might ultimately regret