Girl Boss Mode

girl boss mode

Image Description: The "I bring a sort of X vibe to X that X don't really like" edited to say "I bring a sort of all these rules are made up vibe to sexuality and gender that exclusionists don't really like"

Trigger warning: mild transphobia and general bigotry (it's just the fucking attack helicopter™️ type jokes really lmfao. Thought I'd still give a warning)

I had some people ask me for my pronouns via xbox party today; I told them my pronouns (it/they are the ones I defaulted to), and then they made fun of my pronouns??? After asking me for them???

Honestly I expected it: they spam invited me to this party to harass me for wearing a pride cape. And these types of people are so predictable, cuz they cracked those attack helicopter type 'jokes' from 2016.💀💀

So anyways I added my pronouns to my display name-

Short comic about my experience with the bigay label.

-Tim

Hi, I'm an introject in a system. If you recognize me by my source character, please don't tag this as fan content. I'm a real person and this is my real experience.

ps. this isn't a debate post i do not care about your opinion.

I know some people like to be funny and put "silly" pronouns up (like for example on Discord for the pronouns thing someone might put 'ban/ana' to be "funny") but I rlly dislike it bc (to me at least) it's (intentionally or not) making fun of neopronouns, or at least making it difficult for neopronoun users.

Like, how am I suppose to know those aren't ACTUALLY their pronouns? Yeah ok it's "obvious" they're joking around but what if they really did actually use those pronouns. But then I feel like if I actually use those pronouns just in case they're being serious, they're js gonna make fun of me for "actually thinking those are their pronouns"

Like believe it or not but I'm pretty sure these kinds of people are being kinda neopronounphobic (I don't think that's actually a term but you get the point) by putting "silly" pronouns on their bio/pronoun section just to be funny, and not because they actually use them

-the anon who wanted to talk about this stuff with someone (I'm just wondering what your thoughts are, not trying to start an argument or anything)

Yeah, that situation is definitely annoying. I had something similar happen to me yesterday, and I just assumed they were being dumb and not actually giving me their genuine pronouns. Really, if somebody has the most batshit pronouns, like [n-word]/[n-word]self (I can reclaim that slur I just don't want to end up triggering somebody), it's best to assume they're trolling.

And that sucks, cuz there are people who genuinely go by wacky pronouns (not like my example, but ya know), who are genuinely hurt by these types of people. But until these kids either mature or move on to something else to pick on, trolls are going to exist unfortunately.

Had I known you could be AFAB and transfem, maybe all those times I felt connected to the label wouldn't have caused so much self doubt.