Trigger Warning: Mild Transphobia And General Bigotry (it's Just The Fucking Attack Helicopter Type Jokes

Trigger warning: mild transphobia and general bigotry (it's just the fucking attack helicopter™️ type jokes really lmfao. Thought I'd still give a warning)

I had some people ask me for my pronouns via xbox party today; I told them my pronouns (it/they are the ones I defaulted to), and then they made fun of my pronouns??? After asking me for them???

Honestly I expected it: they spam invited me to this party to harass me for wearing a pride cape. And these types of people are so predictable, cuz they cracked those attack helicopter type 'jokes' from 2016.💀💀

So anyways I added my pronouns to my display name-

wowza

Hi are you ok with an anon randomly talking to you about random trans stuff through asks? I tend to do this a lot where I'll wanna talk about smth and there's a blog ik that my brain decided really fits the topic so then I js wanna send a random anon ask talking about it but I also dont wanna be annoying so um

sorry if this doesnt make any sense im really bad at forming words sometimes jghdjh

Yeah I'm perfectly okay with it, go ahead!

I adore this (not my term, I just thought it was cool asf)

I know some people like to be funny and put "silly" pronouns up (like for example on Discord for the pronouns thing someone might put 'ban/ana' to be "funny") but I rlly dislike it bc (to me at least) it's (intentionally or not) making fun of neopronouns, or at least making it difficult for neopronoun users.

Like, how am I suppose to know those aren't ACTUALLY their pronouns? Yeah ok it's "obvious" they're joking around but what if they really did actually use those pronouns. But then I feel like if I actually use those pronouns just in case they're being serious, they're js gonna make fun of me for "actually thinking those are their pronouns"

Like believe it or not but I'm pretty sure these kinds of people are being kinda neopronounphobic (I don't think that's actually a term but you get the point) by putting "silly" pronouns on their bio/pronoun section just to be funny, and not because they actually use them

-the anon who wanted to talk about this stuff with someone (I'm just wondering what your thoughts are, not trying to start an argument or anything)

Yeah, that situation is definitely annoying. I had something similar happen to me yesterday, and I just assumed they were being dumb and not actually giving me their genuine pronouns. Really, if somebody has the most batshit pronouns, like [n-word]/[n-word]self (I can reclaim that slur I just don't want to end up triggering somebody), it's best to assume they're trolling.

And that sucks, cuz there are people who genuinely go by wacky pronouns (not like my example, but ya know), who are genuinely hurt by these types of people. But until these kids either mature or move on to something else to pick on, trolls are going to exist unfortunately.

v tired of coming out to ppl who are familiar and accepting of the aroace term, who then still turn around and say "yeah but you might still one day meet someone, right?" like I promise you most aspec ppl are aware it's an option, but it's still rude

I get you're trying to be supportive, but it still comes off as "don't worry, perhaps you're not really aroace/broken"