I Felt Very Pushed To Stop Identifying As A Nonbinary/genderqueer Person And Instead Identify As A Man

i felt very pushed to stop identifying as a nonbinary/genderqueer person and instead identify as a man and a woman so i "could" identify as a lesbian & a gay man by the other queer people i knew, for a while, and then i realized that's just reinventing the binary. i'm allowed to be a genderqueer butch lesbian & gay bear. i'm allowed to be a genderqueer whatever the hell i want. fuck reinventing boxes to shove people into they're not real fags & dykes can do whatever the fuck we want

How are people who are anti pan/omni/ply even remotely regarded as anything but ridiculous? It’s like the final boss of anti mspec les/gay stupidity. What a fuckin joke.

There's no wrong way to be queer. I received some anons today forgetting that, so instead of giving them more than a nod in ways of attention, I am here to remind you that:

if you're a lesbian who's a man/gay for men as a woman

if you use xenopronouns and/or neopronouns

if you date men as a lesbian or if you date as a loveless aro (or as an aro in general)

if you have sex as an ace person

if you abstain from sex and dating

etcetera, your experience is real. Your experience is supported here, and by people who are worth your time. People who say you can't do something while using a certain label, or mock your experiences, are not worth your time. There are horrible things directed at the queer community, and it's important to surround yourself with people who support YOU for YOU. The LGBTQ community seems to have issues with that but trust me when I say there are people who will support you.

I find myself upset when someone comes into my inbox to spread their closeminded views, but I remind myself that I am not doing anything wrong by existing. Neither are you. Keep being a staple of the queer experience. <2

LET ORDIS SAY FUCK

the microsexuality hate from like 2017 is so funny to me. 'I don't like demisexuals because they're just normal' HELP?

'I support nonbinary lesbians!' motherfuckers when the nonbinary person in question is a man in any way: tells the person to kill themself, how they're invading lesbian spaces, how their identity doesn't exist and isn't valid, 'men can't be lesbians!', screaming and crying about how they're lesbiphobic and transphobic for existing, 'you just hate lesbians don't you, that's why you're pushing for acceptance of your own identity!', calls them disgusting and sickening, throws around blatant misandrist comments, claims they're the reason lesbiphobic straight men think they have a chance of 'fixing' lesbians, 'oh well you're not an ACTUAL man, so it's okay!', crosses into borderline TERF territory, becomes an actual TERF, etc.

Yeah, I can feel the support radiating off of my screen. /sarcasm