Adding Onto This With Some Things I've Experienced.

Adding onto this with some things I've experienced.

Guilt-tripping: "The intentional manipulation of another person's emotions to induce feelings of guilt" (Liza Gold). In layman's terms, it means to actively and intentionally make someone else feel guilty for something that, most of the time, they have no need to feel guilty for in order to get what you want.

What it is not: Someone genuinely expressing their emotions, even if it makes you feel guilty.

Trigger: Something that affects your emotional state in an extreme, often negative way. This can lead to being overwhelmed or highly distressed. They affect your ability to remain present and function in the moment. It may also be defined more strictly as something that leads to a flashback or panic attack.

What it is not: Something that makes you feel a little uncomfortable or that you'd rather avoid. It's also not a generally unpleasant topic that makes most people upset, unless that does trigger you, in which case. It is.

Trauma-Dumping: "Sharing specific details about a traumatic experience with somebody who isn’t ready or doesn’t want to hear it" (Naomi Torres-Mackie). This can include doing it repeatedly or inappropriately. This can be highly distressing to the person who's on the other end of it, especially if they themself end up triggered by the content within it.

What it is not: Someone complaining about their day, or someone venting to you about regular issues.

A lot of pop psychology gets thrown around and since I already have a headache, here's preventing you lot from making it worse.

Love-bombing: A manipulation tactic of increasing affection and grand gestures before or after doing something abusive, specifically to weasel one's way out of consequences.

What it is not: A streak of affection and generosity towards friends/loved ones.

Trauma-bonding: Knowingly traumatizing someone to take advantage of their vulnerable state, to then act like the "hero" or the one who cheers them up.

What it is not: Bonding over similar traumas.

Gaslighting: *Knowingly* convincing someone they cannot trust their own perception of a situation in pursuit of one's own narrative.

What it is not: Misaligned perception of events.

Narcissist: Someone afflicted with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, a traumagenic cluster B disorder, that struggles with self-obsession, paranoia, craving validity from the public, delusions of grandeur, and social disconnection.

It is not: Your rubbish ex that cheated on you.

Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.

-Xanthe

Oh my god. I... feel like I'm about to sob in relief. I have had no idea how to explain this to anyone but my own mind and I thought I was alone for some god awful reason. This is part of what I've been living through for years. This is why I'm miserable in fast food or retail work, because I'm forced to stand in one spot for ages without being allowed to sit OR walk around. This is why I pace, why I've had to explain that I Can't Do The Things You Can so many times, why I sit and lay down so often, why I've felt like a fraud because I can walk just fine, with limits obviously, so I must be exaggerating it.

My heart is pounding, genuinely. I feel like someone just took a weight off my shoulders and told me it was going to be OK.

Imagine being so much of a coward and a prick that not only do you say this horrendous shit to another person, but you also try and get someone else to take the blame for it.

Why the fuck would someone tag themselves at the end of an anon, but not just... go off anon? Anyway. Fuck this anon.

Your depiction of Crowley makes him look like a school shooter.

You deserve to get r@ped.

Reported.

-@little-lee-froggie

I already was but uh thanks buddy also are you really that person or are you trying to set them up to get attacked ? and if so, that's a bit evil if you ask me