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man... it would be great if I could interact with the cluster b community without worrying about whether someone is anti endo or not. the 'we're endogenic' ship has sailed and capsized by now (meaning it's honestly not likely at all), but as we're still pro endo (imagine that, something doesn't match our experience and yet we don't cry and scream about it? that's crazy :/) it's so fucking annoying to have to check someone's blog before reblogging a post or something. anti endos don't feel safe to be around because if they're willing to claim a whole subset of plurality is fake, what else are they willing to fake claim? it's just gross.
So yeah, pro endo cluster Bs PLEASE make yourselves known S.O.S
shut the fuck up about how Trump is a 'sociopath' and a 'narcissist'. It all just feels like an excuse to be ableist rather than a simple observation. quit it with the armchair diagnosing of narcissism and antisociality. I'm tired of leftist spaces so flippantly throwing these words around as synonyms to 'abusive cunt' as if there aren't narcissists and antisocials/"sociopaths" in these spaces too, as if we aren't valuable and good enough for you people.
it's one thing to make an assumption based on Trump's behavior, but to act like THAT'S the reason he's a fucking scumbag, all while laughing at the very traits you pointed out as signs of a fucking PERSONALITY DISORDER, really shows your ass. this isn't just holding someone accountable; it's reducing a group of disorders to being an abuser.
people instantly stop being mental health allies when it comes to being fucking respectful to cluster Bs. y'all stop being the 'tolerant left' when someone has a 'scary' disorder, and yes this also includes psychotic and schizospec individuals. I know this post won't stop the ableist behavior among leftists, but I'm tired of it. Leftist spaces are just as unsafe to me as someone with NPD and ASPD as right-wing spaces are to me as a trans and queer individual of color. that's fucking horrific.
I'm not the first and I won't be the last to say this, but leftists need to do better. stop using 'narcissist', 'sociopath', and 'psychotic' as insults. I'm not going to coddle you and hold your hand for spitting in my damn face; pick up a dictionary, since you're clearly capable of reading pop psychology articles on 'narc abuse'. it's not that hard.
goodnight to people with npd who are genuinely upset about it and wish they could feel empathy
question for my narcs, who have you told about your diagnosis? and has your family been shitty about it?
I'm asking because I'm trying to get diagnosed but I'm worried my family being shitty about it. like "you're manipulating me right now aren't you!!" is something I'm worried about hearing.
Not my usual content but I had to speak about it
I hate when people say that they support people with mental illnesses and advocate for their rights while purposely triggering, mocking and de-humanising people with mental disorders such as BPD, ASPD, NPD, schizophrenia and much more of the "psycho" disorders. It's exhausting. As a person with mental illnesses myself, it's absolutely devastating when people start treating me almost inhumane as soon as I tell them that I have them. And even when they're okay with me saying I'm mentally ill, they start to mock me, make fun of me, harass me and not take me seriously when I show ACTUAL effects and symptoms of it. It's so confusing and sad, it genuinely disappoints me. My friends always say that mental health matters and say that people with mental disorders should be taken seriously while they do the exact opposite with people who have BPD, ADHD, autism, ASPD, NPD or schizophrenia. It got so bad that I had completely cut contact with some old acquaintances because they wouldn't stop treating people with these disorders like they were the devil. Please treat people with ANY type of mental disorder with the same respect, tolerance, acceptance and consideration as you would treat people without them.
(The same goes for fictional characters!!!)
I wish I could find more resources for npd that didn't make me feel like complete shit for my disorder like I already know I'm an asshole please let me learn how not to be!!!
wow as i'm tagging this one of the suggested tags in npd is anti npd I love being seen as a monster for existing /sarcasm
How to stop depending on a person who has wanted nothing to do with you for 8 months no glue no borax
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I get the whole “lacking empathy doesn’t make you a bad person as long as you show compassion to others” thing, but I don’t completely agree.
You don’t need to show compassion to others all the time in order to be a good person. I understand how hard it is for someone who lacks empathy to care about someone enough to be compassionate towards them, especially when you just don’t give a fuck.
I think people have this idea that you need to be kind and friendly and care about others all the time. Thats not something some people, especially with ASPD, can achieve all the time.
Sometimes the most you can do is just stop yourself from being argumentative asshole and thats fine. Whatever your coping mechanisms are to limit the damage is fine. You don’t need to extend compassion to people if you can’t. You’re not a bad person for being unable to do so.
Another thing is that people tend to accept the label of ASPD, but not the behaviour.
Do you fear being called ableist? Do you find it easier to accept a word rather than the person?
I understand completely that an antisocial person isn’t easy to swallow. We can be very harsh, blunt, mean, uncaring, yada yada, but I can assure you that we’d much prefer you just say you don’t like pwASPD rather than pretending you accept it but turn around and hate on people who exhibit antisocial behaviour.
And I’m talking about people who are in and out of treatment. Don’t exclude people who aren’t being treated from your ASPD positivity. Even if you aren’t on the road to recovery, you deserve support.
People who don’t care about others. People who don’t care about others suffering. People who only look out for themselves. People who have different morals and opinions. People who don’t care about political issues because it doesn’t effect them. People who are argumentative. People who have a bad temper. People who are brutally honest. People who view relationships as transactional. People who view the world as a warzone.
If you’re going to accept people with ASPD, accept people with ASPD. Don’t hide behind this faux layer of positivity when you immediately make fun of, ostracize and hate on people who actually show with these behavioural issues.
A lot of pop psychology gets thrown around and since I already have a headache, here's preventing you lot from making it worse.
Love-bombing: A manipulation tactic of increasing affection and grand gestures before or after doing something abusive, specifically to weasel one's way out of consequences.
What it is not: A streak of affection and generosity towards friends/loved ones.
Trauma-bonding: Knowingly traumatizing someone to take advantage of their vulnerable state, to then act like the "hero" or the one who cheers them up.
What it is not: Bonding over similar traumas.
Gaslighting: *Knowingly* convincing someone they cannot trust their own perception of a situation in pursuit of one's own narrative.
What it is not: Misaligned perception of events.
Narcissist: Someone afflicted with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, a traumagenic cluster B disorder, that struggles with self-obsession, paranoia, craving validity from the public, delusions of grandeur, and social disconnection.
It is not: Your rubbish ex that cheated on you.
Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.
-Xanthe
seeing people say “narcissistic abuse” makes us so pissed off. you mean emotional and psychological abuse. please stop invalidating my abuse and others disorders by calling it “narcissistic abuse” or i will gently hit you in the face with a frying pan don’t even think about clowning in this post or i will eat your fingers.
Ford from Gravity Falls has NPD
Mabel Pines from Gravity Falls has NPD
having autism and npd is weird because what do you mean people hate me for something completely out of my control and there's nothing i can do to fix it??? they must be of inferior intellect because they can't understand my rich internal experience. allistic people are the dumb ones and society doesn't understand that autistic people will always have a much more interesting view of the world than they ever will. they're actually just jealous of my autistic swag.
A lot of pop psychology gets thrown around and since I already have a headache, here's preventing you lot from making it worse.
Love-bombing: A manipulation tactic of increasing affection and grand gestures before or after doing something abusive, specifically to weasel one's way out of consequences.
What it is not: A streak of affection and generosity towards friends/loved ones.
Trauma-bonding: Knowingly traumatizing someone to take advantage of their vulnerable state, to then act like the "hero" or the one who cheers them up.
What it is not: Bonding over similar traumas.
Gaslighting: *Knowingly* convincing someone they cannot trust their own perception of a situation in pursuit of one's own narrative.
What it is not: Misaligned perception of events.
Narcissist: Someone afflicted with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, a traumagenic cluster B disorder, that struggles with self-obsession, paranoia, craving validity from the public, delusions of grandeur, and social disconnection.
It is not: Your rubbish ex that cheated on you.
Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.
-Xanthe
needed this today so im reblogging it in case someone else does too
Sometimes your worst fears are true. Sometimes you’ve annoyed a loved one. Sometimes you’ve even upset them or frustrated them.
But you know what? It doesn’t mean they’re done with you. It doesn’t mean they’re going to leave you.
It is normal to be annoying sometimes. It’s normal to not be perfect and to have off days. It’s normal for relationships to not be in perfect harmony all the time.
My point here is, yes, while sometimes they are true, it isn’t the end of everything. It’s actually quite normal. And you’re going to be okay.
thank you, kai
sorry for all the rants today but this needs to be said
daily reminder that people with NPD are not automatically abusive or terrible people!! A terrible person should not be singled out by their disorders! “narcissistic abuse” is NOT real! It’s just abuse! If you’ve been around somebody with depression who abused you, you wouldn’t go around saying “I’m a victim of depression abuse” because it’s not a thing, same goes for narcissists!
You don’t get to go talk shit about people with a serious disorder caused by trauma just because you want something to blame it on and demonize. The “NPD abuse” you’re claiming exists could be the abuse that somebody goes through to gain this disorder in the first place.
I will forever stand on the hill that is to let people live. People with NPD are trauma victims / survivors, and you don’t get to tell them they aren’t or tell them their disorder is bad.
NPD is real and it’s not “abusive person disorder.”
You cannot be narcissistic without NPD.
Narcissistic and egotistical are NOT the same.
Leave people with NPD alone.
They are people, just like you.
we're not saying people with npd, aspd, ect cant hurt you or abuse you
we're saying disorder =/= abusive
people with npd, bpd, aspd, infact, ANY cluster b disorder CAN abuse you. HOWEVER, having those disorders dosent instantly make you an abuser
dont be abelist.
people with ANY disorder can abuse you. that dosent mean they WILL abuse you. the fact that they have that disorder dosent mean theyre an abuser. it dosent make them abusive. they can be abusive, that dosent mean suddenly every narcissist is evil, suddenly all aspd people are threatening you, all bpd people are rude and abusive. stop throwing around the word abuse like its nothing. stop specifically linking it to personality disorders. thats blatantly abelist.
ihope all cluster bs have a lovely lovely day please ignore the hate and abelism yall are so gorgeous treat yourself to your comfort food