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Adding onto this with some things I've experienced.
Guilt-tripping: "The intentional manipulation of another person's emotions to induce feelings of guilt" (Liza Gold). In layman's terms, it means to actively and intentionally make someone else feel guilty for something that, most of the time, they have no need to feel guilty for in order to get what you want.
What it is not: Someone genuinely expressing their emotions, even if it makes you feel guilty.
Trigger: Something that affects your emotional state in an extreme, often negative way. This can lead to being overwhelmed or highly distressed. They affect your ability to remain present and function in the moment. It may also be defined more strictly as something that leads to a flashback or panic attack.
What it is not: Something that makes you feel a little uncomfortable or that you'd rather avoid. It's also not a generally unpleasant topic that makes most people upset, unless that does trigger you, in which case. It is.
Trauma-Dumping: "Sharing specific details about a traumatic experience with somebody who isn’t ready or doesn’t want to hear it" (Naomi Torres-Mackie). This can include doing it repeatedly or inappropriately. This can be highly distressing to the person who's on the other end of it, especially if they themself end up triggered by the content within it.
What it is not: Someone complaining about their day, or someone venting to you about regular issues.
A lot of pop psychology gets thrown around and since I already have a headache, here's preventing you lot from making it worse.
Love-bombing: A manipulation tactic of increasing affection and grand gestures before or after doing something abusive, specifically to weasel one's way out of consequences.
What it is not: A streak of affection and generosity towards friends/loved ones.
Trauma-bonding: Knowingly traumatizing someone to take advantage of their vulnerable state, to then act like the "hero" or the one who cheers them up.
What it is not: Bonding over similar traumas.
Gaslighting: *Knowingly* convincing someone they cannot trust their own perception of a situation in pursuit of one's own narrative.
What it is not: Misaligned perception of events.
Narcissist: Someone afflicted with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, a traumagenic cluster B disorder, that struggles with self-obsession, paranoia, craving validity from the public, delusions of grandeur, and social disconnection.
It is not: Your rubbish ex that cheated on you.
Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.
-Xanthe
I don’t know who needs to hear this, but
👏Narcissist is not a code word for abuser👏
👏 Sociopath is not a code word for abuser👏
👏 Psychopath is not a code word for murderer👏
Not every shitty person is shitty because of a disorder that pop psychology likes to demonise. Slapping a label on every shitty person out there is ableist toward the NPD/ASPD sufferers who are just trying to get by. Stop it.
Pop Psychology will tell you that Narcissistic Personality Disorder is Evil Person Disorder when in truth, NPD is the cousin of BPD, and they’re in the same cluster for a reason. Both are caused by trauma in early childhood, and both present in similar ways
Pop Psychology will tell you that people with cluster B disorders are unwilling to seek help, when in truth, not many therapists know how, or are willing to treat cluster B disorders
Pop Psychology will tell you to have compassion for people with mental illnesses and childhood trauma while telling you that anyone with cluster B disorders is evil and should not be touched with a ten-foot pole
Pop Psychology will sell people with depression untrue, meaningless and harmful things which they will buy into to try and fix them, and then blame them for not trying hard enough when they don’t work.
Pop psychology needs to die.
A lot of pop psychology gets thrown around and since I already have a headache, here's preventing you lot from making it worse.
Love-bombing: A manipulation tactic of increasing affection and grand gestures before or after doing something abusive, specifically to weasel one's way out of consequences.
What it is not: A streak of affection and generosity towards friends/loved ones.
Trauma-bonding: Knowingly traumatizing someone to take advantage of their vulnerable state, to then act like the "hero" or the one who cheers them up.
What it is not: Bonding over similar traumas.
Gaslighting: *Knowingly* convincing someone they cannot trust their own perception of a situation in pursuit of one's own narrative.
What it is not: Misaligned perception of events.
Narcissist: Someone afflicted with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, a traumagenic cluster B disorder, that struggles with self-obsession, paranoia, craving validity from the public, delusions of grandeur, and social disconnection.
It is not: Your rubbish ex that cheated on you.
Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.
-Xanthe
i have absolutely no idea what disgusting little hole of pop psychology left brain/right brain thinking crawled out of, but the only thing that infuriates me more is the whole ‘you only use 10% of your brain and if you use 100% you can read minds/fly/levitate objects’ thing.
makes me physically angry. may whoever came up with that shit step on a lego.
"left brain" "right brain" please stop excluding the rest of us who have absolutely no brain whatsoever
I can't keep having the same conversations about love languages, mbti, iq, bmi, "brain fully formed at 25" and shit over and over again...
A lot of pop psychology gets thrown around and since I already have a headache, here's preventing you lot from making it worse.
Love-bombing: A manipulation tactic of increasing affection and grand gestures before or after doing something abusive, specifically to weasel one's way out of consequences.
What it is not: A streak of affection and generosity towards friends/loved ones.
Trauma-bonding: Knowingly traumatizing someone to take advantage of their vulnerable state, to then act like the "hero" or the one who cheers them up.
What it is not: Bonding over similar traumas.
Gaslighting: *Knowingly* convincing someone they cannot trust their own perception of a situation in pursuit of one's own narrative.
What it is not: Misaligned perception of events.
Narcissist: Someone afflicted with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, a traumagenic cluster B disorder, that struggles with self-obsession, paranoia, craving validity from the public, delusions of grandeur, and social disconnection.
It is not: Your rubbish ex that cheated on you.
Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.
-Xanthe
A lot of pop psychology gets thrown around and since I already have a headache, here's preventing you lot from making it worse.
Love-bombing: A manipulation tactic of increasing affection and grand gestures before or after doing something abusive, specifically to weasel one's way out of consequences.
What it is not: A streak of affection and generosity towards friends/loved ones.
Trauma-bonding: Knowingly traumatizing someone to take advantage of their vulnerable state, to then act like the "hero" or the one who cheers them up.
What it is not: Bonding over similar traumas.
Gaslighting: *Knowingly* convincing someone they cannot trust their own perception of a situation in pursuit of one's own narrative.
What it is not: Misaligned perception of events.
Narcissist: Someone afflicted with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, a traumagenic cluster B disorder, that struggles with self-obsession, paranoia, craving validity from the public, delusions of grandeur, and social disconnection.
It is not: Your rubbish ex that cheated on you.
Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.
-Xanthe