Some Helpful Tips For Those New To BDSM

Some Helpful Tips for Those New to BDSM

1. Take it SLOW - I know you are excited. You want to just jump right in and do what you saw at the movies, on television or read in a book. If you take it slow, you greatly reduce the chance of anyone getting injured or mentally scarred by what happens.

2. CONSENT - This is HUGE. I cannot stress enough the importance of have the consent of all that are involved. This means Dominants and submissives BOTH. Consent is the cornerstone of all BDSM activities and without that, it is abuse.

3. COMMUNICATION - Second only to consent, communicating your needs, desires, limits and expectations is crucial. If you cannot communicate to your Dominant what you want or cannot communicate to your submissive what you are comfortable with, you need to stop and reconsider.

4. Practice, practice, practice - Another important thing for Dominants, especially those into impact play (striking with floggers, canes and even the hand) is practice. Hit yourself with the flogger first. Understand how it feels. Learn how the same strength strike with one toy differs from another and still differs from a bare hand. This will help you understand what you are doing with your submissive.

5. Aftercare - This is crucial when conducting any sort of scene, especially those that involve impact play. This can truly stave off “sub-drop” which you can think of as a short term but often bad depression. You are responsible for your partner before, during and AFTER a scene. It doesn’t end just because you got off. Make sure your partner is alright. Warm blankets, water, cuddling, lotion on a red rear and of course tender words will go a long way here.

6. Real Life Does Not Equal Porn - I don’t care who your submissive is, one does not simply start shoving things into orifices without build-up or knowledge. I don’t care what you saw on that porn movie, you are not going from “exit only” to a 2-inch wide butt plug in a matter of seconds, nor are you sticking that industrial sized rubber dildo into a vagina that’s never known anything above “human sized”. This can lead to serious injury and potentially life-threatening situations. So, before you go crazy with the internal use toys, step back and re-read number one above.

If you follow these, your start into a BDSM life will be far better and much less harmful to you and others. Enjoy. - Ian

:) you have come such a long way Boy. Your next bf will have such fun with you after your training. :)

Hey guys. This is a pic of me with my new collar from Sir hehe. He surprised me for my birthday with it :) he had been working on it for a year :p hehe. Was a great stater to a SUPER fun play date. I’m really learning how to finger and find Sirs prostate. I worked that p-spot hard on Wednesday and got as a reward and huge mouthful of Sir cum hehe. Such a great reward :). I have found that fingering Sir has helped me figure out what goes on in my own hole so I know what is going on when someone is playing with my hole. I have to say that Sir working my hole was the most fun that I have had with exploring down there. Been getting more comfortable with others being in control of what goes in and out of my hole lol. Also we had an awesome first on Wednesday. I was actually able to fuck Sir for the first time. Before I could only stick my dick in and then I’d go soft. This time I got to thrust and push my dick back in several times hehe. Such progress. I can’t wait till I have the full confidence to thrust my little heart out and make Sir cum hands free hehe. A goal I think we can reach soon :)

We will get through this, just more patience is all we need.

Monday night fucking!

Hey boys and Sirs. It was a great start to my work week with a play session with Sir hehehe. Sirs dick was being over active again hehehe. When his dick is at full mast I gotta have it in me :). This time I wore a butt plug and took it out right before Sir wanted to fuck my tight little hole. Grrrrrrr. It felt good. It is much easier for me to take his cock when my hole has been stretched out by my butt plug. My butt plug is fast becoming my favorite toy for what it does for me. It helps me stay hard to fuck Sir and keeps me open so that Sir can play with my ass. Hehehe. Now days I really like Sirs fingers up my butt hole working my insides grrrrrrr. Now if I could only cum on demand. Its the only thing that is frustrating me with the play sessions is that I feel great afterwards but I don’t get off. I don’t really need to but I want to to show my Sir and anyone else that I’m with that I really enjoyed what we did. For guys cumming seems to equate with satisfaction. I made that guy cum. I did that! Can’t fake cumming like a women can lol. Working on this issue and I know we can get past it. I could cum with Sir before I can cum with him again. Wish me luck boys :)

You need more than one Boy.

Cuddles times :)

Hey boys and Sirs. Hope all is going well with everyone. Its been a good week for me. I have gotten to do two days a yard work so the yard is almost ready for summer and I got to play with Sir on Wednesday.

Sir didn’t know if he finished the last workout in his 10 week cycle or not so we decided to do a general workout routine of things that he liked that would affect hia back which has been acting up sadly. The workout went really well and Sir worked up a good sweat.

A very delicious sweat that I proceeded to lick off his body hehehe. Sir smells really good after his workout. There are so many perks to him wanting to pump it at the gym hehehe. Grrrrr I pumped his ass good afterwards. Using my sweat as lube to hump his hot ass hehehe.

Sir was trying to make the day all about me because of his injury but I was able to flip it on him and make the day all about him. I really enjoy when Sir makes a boy centered day for me but I like making him the center of attention as much as possible. He makes me soooo happy that I want to make him just as happy :) I did a really good job of that since he had to jack by the end of play time when he wasn’t planning on it at all hehehe. I’m such a naughty boy….I need a spanking hehehe.

I definitely had a very fun time.  And maybe in just two more sessions... I will have a boy who gets hard and leaking when tickled. :) 

Threes a party :)

Hey boys and sirs. Hope everyone’s weekend was awesome. I got a whole bunch of chores done while Sir was having some fun of his own. My illness cleared up over the weekend so all was set for Monday playtime :)

Now this play session was different because we had a third to play with. A friend of Sir and I wanted to join in in the fun and we are more then happy to have another join us. Espically this cutie since he is one cute ball of energy. I have never played with him but just standing next to him when he was getting a few swats to his delicious ass just overwhelmed me with positive energy many times before. We have such handsy and kinky friends lol.

So I picked this friend up from his work and we met Sir at the club. Much to my happiness Sir had done his full workout before myself and this friend had showed up. Sir didn’t want to eat into the play time with his gym time :p soafter Sir was done with gym we all hopped into the hot tub and soaked so the friend could detox from work and Sir could warm up. He was starting to feel like a corpse :p hehe

I have to say threesomes are a little tricky to do but once you get the hang of it they are lots of fun. One person tends to get to be the center of attention for a bit and then with a good threesome the center moves from person to person to person so that all three feel equally delicious hehehe. And man this friend had a fine ass that is sooo fun to play with. I had spent the previous night dreaming about working over his ass lol and man did his ass live up to my expectations hehehe. He responds like I do to a good spanking grrrrrr. So hot! I couldn’t keep my hands off his jiggly ass. Whereas Sir focused on his cock hehehe.

Sir is sooooo good at edging a boy that they always cum back for seconds hehehe. Sir kept our friend horned up all night. He was training wombat to get hard while being tickled so he was moving between getting our friend hard and tickling him hehehe. By the end of the night he was showing much progress with tickling being tied to his dick hehehe.

our even took a crack at spanking my ass mmmmmmmm. That felt sooooo good. I really enjoyed that and I wasn’t expecting that. He was always just a spanking bottom but we are working on making him a spanking top too hehehehe. But our friend should be careful about his sarcastic comments because they can come back to haunt him hehehe. He made a comment that since Sir likes pressure he should do push ups on Sirs chest. The look Sir gave with that comment was priceless lol. Both wombat and I were doing push ups on Sirs chest after that. That was totally hot. Hot to see Sirs reactions and to see our sexy friend pushing up and down on Sirs chest grrrrrrrr.

Thank you for such a fun time. I hope the three of us get to do it again sometime soon. One time with your ass is not enough hehehe. Thank you Sir for setting up this play date and I hope you had as much fun as I did Sir hehehe.