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MESSAGE!

when women act like the mother in romantic relationships

the truth is women have some accountability when it comes to them not getting what they want from men

i’ve been so attentive to it lately, but sooo many women are treating men like delicate flowers and mothering them

here’s a few examples just from this month

i’m at starbucks and this woman walks in with her husband, she has a backpack on one shoulder, she’s carrying her small baby on the other shoulder, and using her right hand to push the baby’s stroller, you can tell she’s struggling, meanwhile her husband next to her is literally carrying nothing, doing nothing to help her, being generally useless, and this woman has the audacity to tell this grown man, “go sit and i’ll order for us”, not only does he obey he doesn’t care to even take off the load of the backpack, baby or the stroller !

talk about treating your husband like a child

another example i notice all the time since the city i live in is super touristic is this, almost always, in couples, of all ages young and old, i always see the women asking for directions, asking the bus driver where the destination of the bus is, asking for help translating stuff, these men sit behind letting mommy do all the work, and i literally have to compose myself because why is the woman doing all the work while the man is sitting behind like a spoiled princess waiting for his girlfriend to bring back the correct information on where to go

there are endless examples but the truth is, a lot of you don’t know how to separate romantic love from your mother instinct

as soon as you get involved with a man, you want to do everything for him, make his life easier, protect him from basic everyday responsabilites, and you think that’s showing love when that’s literally just what a mother would do with her child

stop taking the lead with everything, stop calling for the waiter, or asking to be moved to a better table, let the man handle it

stop trying to plan the itinerary, and pack the luggage, and make checklists to make sure you forgot nothing, let the man handle it “oh but i can’t trust my boyfriend to plan a trip because bla bla bla”, he will never learn if you don’t let him and 99% of the time he’s just faking being bad at things so you do them instead

stop telling men to go sit while you go order the thing, or browse the store or demand to speak to the manager, let HIM handle it

stop trying to prevent men from making mistakes and protecting them from their own stupidity and lack of initiative, let him get sick for eating the expired food, he’s a grown man he should know better to read a food label, let him get constipated because he doesn’t know how to balance his diet, let his favorite white shirt get red in the wash, he should learn about separating colors

men learn through action, and consequences, not when you continuously protect them from life

generally, just stop trying to baby-proof life for your man, that’s how he grows to resent you and simultaneously rely on you for everyday things, you get stuck with the role of the care taker and wonder where it all went wrong !