Btw You Dont Owe Anyone Anything About Your Identity

btw you don’t owe anyone anything about your identity

transmascs, you don’t owe anyone being stereotypically “masculine” if that isn’t you

transfems, you don’t owe anyone being stereotypically “feminine” if that isn’t you

enbies, you don’t owe anyone being a mystical androgynous blob (stereotype for why) if that isn’t you

trans people, you don’t owe anyone shit

There are two basic arguments for shutting the fuck up about cishets at Pride.

First: What if a trans kid asks their parents to show their support by attending Pride with them? What if a lesbian can only attend pride if she gets a ride from someone and the only person willing and able to drive her is her straight brother? What if a bi disabled person can't attend a large outdoor event without hands-on assistance from their straight partner? What if someone just wants to bring their fucking friends? What if, contrary to popular tumblr discourse, most queers don't inhabit perfectly pure social bubbles populated only by other queers? What if it's none of your business?

Second and perhaps more important: If you think you can tell that someone is CIS, let alone HET, by LOOKING at them, you are a cop and an idiot.

I hate how when you come out about something that you aren't publicly out about the person you're telling immediately assumes you just found out about your identity. Like no, I've been suppressing emotions for 6+ months, been dropping hints for 2 hoping you'd say something, and have already told 3 other people. You ain't that special.

“I support trans people!”

but you only properly address them if they’ve had surgery, are on HRT, present as the “stereotype” for their gender, or identify as full binary

some parent: yeah I support LGBTQ+!

*their kid comes out*

the same parent: *doesn’t support their kid*

family vacations to red states are infinitely more horrifying ever since realizing I’m trans