I Think I Come Off As Rude Because My Natural Instinct Is To Say Exactly What I'm Thinking, Without A

I think I come off as rude because my natural instinct is to say exactly what I'm thinking, without a buffer.

I've been taught how to use gentle language to not hurt others, but I slip up.

For example, I told this guy that I wasn't interested in being in a romantic relationship and he said "no problem, I'm cool with being friends. Let's get to know each other better."

I took him literally. I've been talking to him as a friend and ignored the flirting because I thought he would remember I'm not into him.

Today he asked me out in a roundabout way. Something like "are you willing to meet up. I find your personality charming."

The use of the word charming is what alerted me. Since I assumed we were on an agreed friendship basis, I said "Sure, but to be clear I'm not interested in a romantic relationship"

I'm now realizing that this is a very harsh thing for people to hear but it's my intention!

I don't want to apologize because I said before I wasn't interested but I failed to read between the lines and see he meant friends for now .

My mind is flashing back to all the times I've been told that what I said was rude. I feel awful

I wanna crochet but thERE IS BOTHING I WANT TO MAKE OH MY GOD IT MAKES ME FURIOUS IM GONNA HOMNORMNAMNOMHOM

Helsinki

With @staff 's recent post saying 1/4 of this site is LGBTQ going around, I'd like to see what the actual demographic is

So!

Please reblog for bigger sample size!

Have you ever looked at someone with facial hair and a long hair style and suddenly got a glimpse of the baby face hidden within? You can see through the mustache, through the beard, past the mullet and shag cut and see the canvas that it has been built upon.

And suddenly, you don't see them the same. You see the person they are hidden within the person they've become.

Unsettling yet beautiful

No one has ever told me that the way I mimic their behavior is odd or offensive but I find it to be sometimes, especially if I start picking up on verbal patterns specific to certain ethnic groups. I'm aware that they can see a shift in my behavior and I'm afraid that it'll be taken in a negative way.

It also makes me question what my own personality is because I often just mirror others and adapt to their behavior rather than explore and exhibit my own.

Have neurotypicals ever been offended by your echolalia?

In my experience a lot of people have been surprised or offended by it since I was a child, and I had no idea why until I was in my late teens and realized that they think I’m making fun of them, or even trying to copy them on purpose. Like, no??? I just end up mimicking people I spend a lot of time with, especially if I like them. It’s usually involuntary, it’s a stim I often can’t control and a lot of the time it actually means that I like you and feel comfortable enough around you that I end up echoing your speech.