La Nostra Settimana!(Our Own Week!)

La Nostra Settimana! (Our Own Week!)

I've been thinking about how soul chipping the normal work week, hustle culture is. In today's life, we only have two days to enjoy life? That's really sad, I think. We all deserve more time to live well. Of course I'm very privileged that I can take breaks and think about these things and if I use that time to imagine a better system, it won't be wasted (I hope). The system needs to be changed for everybody & I feel we do need a new system - so basically I made a new week system for my self. One that allows for more wholeness... its based on the names of the days & the message of the corresponding planets.

Making the day ours is important because only then can we seize it. Making each moment our moment, full of our own joys and worries, that's what makes a life rich, I'm coming to realise. Of course every day I slip up & start wanting instead of being and still it's feeling rewarding & beautiful to me. Take this for instance, returning to tumblr has been such a beautiful experience. The people I get to talk the friends I'm making... they're just so gorgeous in their being. And it wouldn't have been if I wasn't more open to the magic of the day, of the moment. It wouldn't have been if I wasn't more open to my self. This feeling is like a changing puzzle that's already complete and you still have to continue putting it together... I don't know if that makes sense. And yet, I wish everyone to have this feeling.

I've also been learning Italian & I love the word settimana - in latin it roughly means 'in number of seven'. And also, I love that mana is part of the word... because Mana means 'the power of the elemental forces of nature embodied in an object or person' - its a part of the english dictionary & the origin is Hawaiian / Polynesian. This kind of a coincidence is magical to me. Plus how is it that the meaning of the names of the days is the same in Italian & Hindi, Marathi? How did these meanings coincide in latin & sanskrit?! Because this is exactly what the system should be - Our own sort of dedication to the special elemental power of the day we're in. Each person could be encouraged to think of the system as a question, as it relates to themselves. It doesn't escape me that perhaps this actually has been the system all along, it just has been waiting to be realised as a thought in my brain because I've opened up more to the magic of the world. Either way, this is what I've understood so far. Think of it more as a possible conversation between you & the day you're in. So without further ado (Please excuse my over-explanations): Sunday - the sun’s day so we do whatever makes us all feel like we’re shining. It’s the day of performances and watching things and meeting people and loving in general!

Monday - moon’s day. A day of quiet contemplation. We talk about our feelings. We help all students understand how to process emotion. We talk about how to be kind to ourselves.

Tuesday - Mars’ day - a day of action! Start that project! Play a sport! Do the thing basically do what you’d do if your life was a Nike commercial!

Wednesday- Mercury! All about communication, messages! Learn new technology, new languages! Talk to friends, that long distance phone call!

Thursday- Jupiter! Make plans! Think about goals! Think about what you want in life, dream the big dreams and take small steps to make them happen!

Friday - Venus! SOCIALISE! Meet with friends, connect with people! Listen to new ideas and try out different hats!

Saturday- Saturn! Day 2 of quiet contemplation- be alone-ish. Think about what are the problems and how they can become stepping stones. Think about / teach boundaries. Learn more about yourself!

This came about from a conversation with a new friend, @sahmfanficbts who listens to my nerding out so patiently. Thank you!

Conversations are such magical things, imagine you're in a conversation with the stars and the planets. Imagine you're in conversation with life. What will you say?

@sunshyngal babyyyy are you straight up trying to killll meeee?! I’m SO SOFFFFF FOR WHAT YOU’VE POSTED TODAY. Legit here still processing your Yoongi Drabble (which is not a Drabble because an epiphany is not a plain ass thought)

Amendment to English: Soffff

Having the harsh T sound at the end of the word that’s supposed to mean SOFT does not make sense.

Hence, I present, the new and improved - SOFFFFF.

Image for representation only. As in to say sofff like Park Jimin coyly smiling in a bunny hat.

With its fluffy fuh sound an endless flow of breeze between the inside of your lips and your teeth, a fitting pronunciation to the word that’s supposed to describe sheep’s wool pillows that your head is laid against as you drift off into dreamland.

It costs nothing. Just fuck convention and say, ‘Sofffff’.

Bonus - the number of ‘ffff’s can be adjusted according to the intensity of sofffness and/or however the fuck you want. Yas flexible spelling.

AAAAAAAAAAAAA!

There’s something profound and beautiful about trusting your own self. Despite what the world said. Everyday, I’m learning that. Today’s reminder is brought to me by @moonchild0297 who wrote this incredible piece about being a fangirl. And now I’m a fan of her boss-ass confidence in telling the world to shove it (and so articulately too!)

In case you didn’t know, I’m a fangirl of fangirls. And here’s why. (Please read in powerpuff girls intro voice):

Today... the average person is being ground to death in the machine, when the earth is being suffocated by toxic wastes of matter & thought. Systems of capitalism and patriarchy work together to create a wall between us and our inner knowing. The dark forces of generational trauma and centuries of internalised misogyny have infiltrated every level of society. In such bleak times, an unexpected force emerges. A force of true and pure love and light that is a net for the falling and a balm for the hurt. A non hierarchical system of support and kindness, of encouragement and pride. A wholesome wave of trust and faith - this is THE FANGIRL.

I could only write this because that article gave me the FEEEEELZZZ! I’ve only recently begun to trust and love the fangirl in me unabashedly. And I am LOVVVING IT! So, thank you @moonchild0297 for voicing what I’ve been feeling!

Anything related to fangirls - please flood my inbox with it!

What BTS gave me? You.

Being an admirer of Kim Namjoon has brought me close to so many beautiful people. That’s the true magic of BTS, for me. Their friendship, their music - which is an inextricable part of their music - has created a ripple effect of friendships everywhere. I’m so lucky to have found it when I did. I’m so lucky to have been able to be a part of this beautiful domino chain.

These women, they are all so smart, on their paths to loving themselves every day (because as we all know love yourself is a train, not a station). These women - women I’m so so proud to call my friends. One of them is a straight up warrior raising and teaching her kids and is literally full of life! She lends me a comforting shoulder from far away and I can feel her love and her kindness and her fiery will to love and live fully all the way here, in my heart!

Another is the softest most beautiful shy and tender creature I’ve ever come across... she lives through the everyday without revealing her pain. She takes her feelings and weaves them into wool warmers for the heart. She speaks softly (I imagine) and writes deeply. I cannot begin to explain how she helps caress my heart. I hope she knows her words are basically warm tea for my soul.

Then we have another gorgeous person - she’s a gamer (idc if there’s a strict definition of gamer to me a gamer is one who loves and plays games), she’s a fighter and yet there’s such a beautiful softness, kindness in her strength. She’s been suffering, even if she’s been physically hurting, her spine is straight and her heart is soft. She is healing her own pain and in that process is helping me heal my own.

Yet another talks to me about finding her way to self kindness and she boosts me up with her words. My fangirl sister, I see her be kind, be vigil towards being kind in a way I’ve never seen before. She reminds me to be stepping consciously, conscientiously so as not to repeat the misgivings of our ancestors or of our past selves.

AND all these women write. All their words have brought me such joy and such warmth. Yet, the magical part is all the words I’ve written describing each describes the other too. Some might not be mothers but they are just as fiery, just as nurturing. I’m not taking names because I don’t want to put any of them on the spot (which is sometimes what happens with mentions) but I do want to thank them all. Thank you, you beautiful beautiful people. For helping me make a home here, when I’m yet to find my true home.

Yes BTS has given us all so much comfort and loving through their songs and their words and in general their chaotic antics. Plus, the gorgeous mind and heart that Kim Namjoon is has taught me so so much about myself and about us all. All of these elements together is causing an alchemy within me. BTS have given me is a way to reach people... to make friendships in a way that wasn’t possible for me before. How do I express gratitude for something as vast as this? I don’t know how these two words can contain it all... still, all I can say is Thank You.

Absolutely!

how to live life like a ghibli film

1. go out in nature more. every studio ghibli film has some aspect of nature intertwined with the storyline. sometimes its hard to get the energy to go outside, but just going out on your deck or opening the window in your room or taking a walk around the block is enough. if you feel like it, go for a hike! go into the woods and look at every flower, and every tree. look at the mushrooms and streams and notice the beauty of them. look at nature like you’ve never seen it before. wake up at 4 and watch the sunset. put plants around your room. realize how beautiful the world is around you. appreciate it. 

2. get a hobby! this step is certainly easier said than done, but its so worth it. struggling with mental illness makes it especially hard to get a hobby, but its very important that you don’t spend the majority of your time on social media. Start small. If you want to start drawing get a coloring book and fill in a picture with beautiful markers! If you want to write find a random prompt online, give yourself 30 minutes and see what you can come up with. Want to try baking? Start with an easy recipe, like chocolate chip cookies, and share them with your family or friends, or just yourself! Try out a bunch of hobbies, and see what you like best. Maybe you like making jewelry or writing poems or creating digital collages or making video edits or decorating your room or riding a bike or sewing or reading. The possibilities are endless, and getting a hobby you enjoy is very important, and fun.

3. start appreciating small things and noticing details. I don’t know how to explain this step, but in studio Ghibli films, small things always stick out. There are beautiful tiny details that make the story so much more magnificent. small details make the studio Ghibli films what they are. maybe on your way to school/work the sky was a really pretty color. Or the tea you made in the morning was perfectly steeped. appreciate small details of life that you don’t normally notice.

4. appreciate food. Pay attention to your food. If you can, try and make/bake your own food! But if you can’t, just be mindful of your food. Try not to eat while you’re on your phone. Dedicate times to just eating. Appreciating the food in front of you. Make yourself the ponyo drink with milk and honey, or ponyo ramen! Make yourself your own blend of tea like the Baron!

5. be kind and help others. Being kind doesn’t have to be a grand gesture, it can be smiling and waving at a baby in a café, or helping your mom finish the dishes, or paying for a friend’s coffee. Small gestures not only put good out into the world, but they also make you feel better. When you can, help others. Try volunteering at an animal shelter, or babysit for your aunt without charging her, or just listen to your friend when they’re going through something and be there for them. In every Ghibli film, the main character is always helping others, and being kind. Try to be like kiki, when she returned the pacifier to the mother who forgot it, or like chizuru from the cat returns, who risks her life to save a cat. Kindness comes in all shapes and forms, so just try your best to do what you can!

6. be your most authentic self. Stay true to who you are. dress how you’d like. Cut your hair like you’ve always wanted to. Stay confident and true to yourself. We all feel insecure sometimes, but we need to remind ourselves that we are great. Don’t try and force yourself to be someone you aren’t. Kiki felt insecure in her abilities as a witch, but she stayed true to herself, and believed in herself, and it paid off. Love and appreciate yourself, just the way you are.

7. (not really a tip but a fun suggestion) start collecting something! This is just an extra step that I wanted to include because I think its nice. But start a collection of things that interest you. It could be anything! Candles, stamps, teacups, antique figurines, 19th century photos, lip balms, books, key chains, flowers, hats. The choices are endless.

Oh my god. I’m actually doing this?! Weird but I’m so so excited too!

Feeling Deeply

Masterpost for this series.

Just a very fluffy very slow burning fic about two introvert nerds slowly discovering each other. Pairing: Namjoon x OC

Namjoon is his beautiful self, OC is indian, bengali, reader, curvy & feminist (because of course). Wanted to write this deeply fluffy fic so the immigrant life isn't accurately represented. It's there in the later chapters, a little but imagine a privileged first generation immigrant mixed race couple.

So far this is what we have -

Preface

Chapter 1