Being In A Long Distance Relationship Will Really Have You Feeling Disappointed About Some Silly Things.

Being in a long distance relationship will really have you feeling disappointed about some silly things.

Like coming home exhausted on a day you looked cute so there’s no point in facetiming but you’re a little disappointed they won’t see you. Or being sad that when you both fell asleep in the phone that their phone died before morning so now their voice isn’t the first one you’ll hear. And being disappointed that you never want to go out with friends because you’d much rather stay in and talk to your significant other on the phone all night.

To my Son, when you become a Father:

• as soon as you walk into the house, take the baby. This applies despite how bad traffic was, how hard work was, how tired you think you are, and how badly you need to use the bathroom.

• Never mention being tired, or sore in front of your partner.

• If your baby is bottle fed, do at least one night feed. It won’t kill you to be a little tired in the morning.

• NEVER imply that your life is harder because you ‘go to work.’ Believe me, work is ten thousand times easier than mothering a newborn.

• Give up on sleeping in for a few months of weekends. Get up at your usual time and take the baby out of the room. Make your partner breakfast in bed one handed when she’s awake. It’s not hard, she manages it every day.

• Take the time to hug her, even if she picks a fight with you as soon as you walk in the door. She’s exhausted, she’s been peed on, she smells like milk, and she feels like the undead.

• if you are not holding the baby, be doing SOMETHING. Hang up the wet washing that has been in the machine all day. Make her a cup of tea. Call on your way home to see if she needs anything from the supermarket.

• Tell your partner she’s beautiful. Often. Reminding her you want sex does not cut it as a compliment.

• Insist on her having time to her self, and also time as a couple. Even an hour a week is enough.

• Never EVER bring the crying baby into her shower. Ever. Just don’t.

• Remind yourself, just like she does, that the first three months are the hardest, and it won’t always be this way. They’re also the most beautiful. Soak them in from your sleep deprived state. You won’t regret it.

PTSD isn’t just flashbacks. while a lot of movies, books, games etc equate post traumatic stress disorder to having extremely vivid flashbacks in which one thinks the trauma is happening again, this is not the only symptom of PTSD, nor is it a requirement for having the disorder.

other symptoms of PTSD include

problems sleeping

nightmares 

hypervigilance (constantly checking surroundings for safety, looking for any possible threat)

being easily startled

being emotionally numb or not experiencing joy

seeing the world as a terrible place

memory loss 

trouble relating to others

physiological or strong emotional reactions to reminders of trauma 

intrusive thoughts about the trauma

(full list of criteria here)

flashbacks are not the be all and end all of PTSD. it’s a much more complex disorder than it’s portrayed in a lot of media, nor is it military exclusive. i hope this post can at least help educate some people beyond the incomplete and in some cases outright wrong information that a lot of people have.

a little known fact is that there is a worm version of every holiday. for example on worm valentines day we celebrate worm love and shitpost about rats

He came back to me even though he had the chance to chase her or her and even her but he didn’t. He came back to me, it was my heart he was determined to win. We spent months apart and he could have any woman he desired because the man is beautiful. He is charming, clever, sweet and mysterious. He is all these things and more but he still chose me and that is when I came to realise that love really does exist.

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