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i just saw a thread of videos that showed black men beating, humiliating, and mutilating black women.
-a teenage girl was thrown into a dumpster (alive) by a group of men. an explosion of laughter/excitement erupted throughout the whole video. they recorded her and zoomed in on her face as she cried. no one helped her.
-a woman was beaten inside of a convenience store and repeatedly forced down into a freezer. bystanders (men) were heard telling her to "just get in (the freezer)". no one helped her.
-a man who was embarrassed in front of his friends took a skateboard (with all his might) to a girl's face and knocked her out. laughter and "oooo's" were heard after she was seen laying there (not moving) on the cement. no one helped her (or checked to see if she was breathing).
the wildest part about all of it is the simple fact that BLACK men were the ones RECORDING, ENCOURAGING, LAUGHING, JOINING IN, & ENJOYING the physical abuse, dehumanization, and degradation of these girls and women.
sexual assault/physical abuse for black girls starts as early as 3-4 years old (sometimes younger) and some never escape it.
the sadistic nature of the visually pleasing aspect of black women's pain runs deep in our community. the most popular films such as baby boy, players club, belly, and countless others display the abuse regularly. i was once watching a movie with an ex and he said "this is the illest rape scene ever", even though the woman being raped was white, i never looked at him the same way. she was beaten after the rape (for about 30-45 minutes straight) until her face was unrecognizable and her brains covered the pavement....... it was the casual intake of someone else's agony that made my stomach turn. the casual "enjoyment" of someone else's suffering for lack of better words. he didn't flinch, or blink or anything. just that simple casual careless comment said everything for him.
im not highlighting this to attack black men who protect and uplift black women. this isn't your post, so head out and keep up the good work (especially in public). or sit down, shut up and listen.
this is to highlight the sheep mindset a lot of black men have. the desire to show off their facade of "masculinity" by hurting the women who gifted them their existence. this is to highlight the fact that TOO MANY/MAJORITY of black men have hurt us and enjoyed it because it fed their false sense of authority over our lives. this is to highlight the by standing black men who didn't think it was their "business" or their "problem". this is to you. black man. your crimes against black women are crimes against your own freedom. you're sick and you're mentally ill if you see or participate in this shit. you're sick and you're mentally ill if this doesn't seem like a very important issue right now. the pure enjoyment from the casual harm of black women and black little girls needs to STOP. if you think black women speaking up about their abuse is "feminist" and not about "civil rights" then you are severely mistaken.
The judge that signed that warrant was complicit or maybe a warrant was never issued.... either way the indictment of Breonna Taylor’s murderers would expose the deep-seeded structural Racism in Louisville’s system.
Many more people than those cops need to go down for Breonna Taylor’s murder.
Has anyone noticed that Megan thee Stallion is one of the biggest musicians out and there was very little news or social media coverage on her being shot and shot at multiple times...not even a single lil “thoughts and prayers” from any of the tiktokers that use her music daily or the brands still preaching of a Hot Girl Summer..across cultures, everyone let Megan’s identity and likeness impact them and across cultures, no one gave a single fuck about that woman. It’s so saddening. like I hope you all understand that at best, black women’s fame = them being a commodity, not genuine care. Like god imagine if someone like Ariana was shot by an ex/friend/anyone?? We’d hear about it for weeks and yet Megan barely got a drip of attention. And the attention she did get? Jokes. Thousands and thousands of jokes. It’s easier to find tweets joking about the situation or being a doctor checking out her ass as opposed to tweets of any concern, and there’s many tweets dismissing that little roach that shot her. It’s extremely disturbing and exactly what we mean when we say black women are seen as bottom of the barrel on this planet, not given a single fuck about (but taken from until they have nothing left ofc)
A woman's fear is a negated reality. Women aren't afraid, they're paranoid. They watched too much CSI. They hate men and now think it's unsafe to be near a group of strangers. They had one bad experience, so what? They're hysterical. They're just high strung. They have nothing to worry about.
I am watching a bad movie, laughing over popcorn when the woman screams and the man stays calm and tells her she's imagining things. I am watching a good movie, and the woman is afraid while the man tells her to get herself together. I am watching, and the woman tells people: "this man is violent, and I am not safe", and people roll their eyes behind her, snickering in her wake. I am watching, and the woman gets a restraining order that does nothing and saves no one. I am watching, and I am afraid.
My coworker tells me he used to just walk around at night in random cities talking to random people, joining random parties. I said I could never. He asks - what is there to be afraid of?
What is there to be afraid of? If we started listening to women, the world isn't a safe one. It's easier, isn't it? To dismiss us all as being just messed up, making up stories in our head. Why bother? You know how women are. Always going to the bathroom with their friends. Always carrying their drink with them. Always making knuckled spikes out of car keys. Always checking the back seat. Always making something from nothing.
I periodically feel so fucking sad for women in history. I feel like birth control in countries where it is widely used has made women forget an aspect of male cruelty and sociopathy that is now less apparent (giving the illusion that men have improved when only women’s defences against men have)—the fact that for most of history men could live with a woman for decades and not care that they were slowly killing her with endless back-to-back pregnancies which not only resulted in early death more often than not, but also in a total smothering of the woman’s spirit and talents. I saw a quote by Anne Boyer the other day that called straight relationships for women “not only deadly, but deadening”—as I was reading Jill Lepore’s Book of Ages, a biography of Benjamin Franklin’s sister Jane, who was bright and loved reading and wrote some poetry, but had little time to make anything of her life in between her 12 pregnancies. Benjamin Franklin’s mother had 10 sons and 7 daughters. What could they possibly accomplish when their husbands kept impregnating them year after year after year throughout their entire adult life?
Charlotte Brontë eschewed marriage longer than most (writing to Ellen Nussey that she wished they could just set up a little cottage and live together) but she finally married at 38, became pregnant, and died before her 39th birthday. If she had married younger would Jane Eyre exist? I was reading that biography of Charity & Sylvia last month and comparing their life together in their little cottage to the life of their married female relatives, which was honestly hell on earth. One of Charity’s sisters had 18 children. Charity’s mother had 10 living ones, and probably some additional stillbirths. She gave birth to her first child age 19, in 1758, then to a pair of twins in 1760, then another child in 1761, another in 1763, another in 1765, another in 1767, another in 1769, another in 1771, another in 1774, another in 1777. Charity was the last child and her mother had been sick with tuberculosis for months when she became pregnant with her, and she died soon after giving birth.
I wish people would call this murder—this woman was murdered by her husband, like countless other women who do not ‘count’ as victims of male violence because straight sex is natural, pregnancy is natural, childbirth is natural. But when after 20 years of nonstop pregnancies this woman had tuberculosis and suffered from severe respiratory distress, severe weight loss, fever and exhaustion, and her husband impregnated her again, her death was expected. He must have known; he just didn’t care. This woman’s sister—Charity’s aunt—remained a spinster and outlived all of her married sisters by several decades, living well into her eighties. (Ironically, male doctors in her century asserted that sex with men was necessary for women’s health. The biographer quoted from a popular home health guide which said that old maids incurred grievous physical harm from a lack of sex with men.) And this aunt had the time and liberty to develop her skill for embroidery to such an extent that two museums still preserve her embroidered bed drapes. She accomplished something, she nurtured her talent and self. Her name was also Charity, and I find it interesting that Charity’s mother named her last daughter, whose pregnancy & birth killed her, after her childless, unmarried sister.
When I see women reblog my post about Sophia Tolstoy’s misery with her 13 children, adding comments like “thank god marriage is no longer synonymous with this”, I wonder if they realise that men have not magically become any kinder or more concerned about their female partner’s health and fulfillment, it’s just that women now have access to better ways of protecting themselves from their male partner’s indifference to their health and fulfillment.
Megan Thee Stallion: Why I Speak Up for Black Women
“I’m not afraid of criticism, and “Protect Black women” should not be controversial.”
Laquitta Willis was a cashier in a supermarket in Decatur, Georgia who was murdered by a customer after she told him he needed to wear a mask inside the store. A Black man shot a Black woman because she asked him to put on a mask in a store. A woman lost her life because a man didn’t want to wear a mask in a store. When Black women and girls are SCREAMING online about the violence we face at the hands of the very men who look like us we’re called misandrists, overly sensitive sjws, “feminazis”, and the like. Laquitta Willis was a person. All the Black women in your lives are people. We’re being killed by the very same people we march for and debate for and argue for and everybody looks the other way when we die. Laquitta Willis deserves better. All Black women do
dear black women:
you are allowed to be soft, delicate and dependent. allow yourself to receive and be taken care of. you are worth it.
As one black woman who has experienced trauma speaking to another black woman who has experienced trauma
It was important for me to find a partner who didn’t say “wow look how strong she is. She can go through anything and survive”
And instead choose a partner who looked at me and said “I see what you’ve had to go through and I promise to make sure I never contribute to your pain, and I do my best to help you make your future brighter than your past.”
I guess only some black lives matter.
Yall don’t care about black women or black girls.
I work in a public school system in the inner city. I’ve worked with kids from k4-12th grade. I’ve seen fights that look just like the video of Ma’Khia. People throw chairs, they bang other kids heads into lockers, they punch kids, they kick kids, they grab whatever they can and try to use it as a weapon. I’ve deescalated fights, school security, school staff, teachers, and admin have all broken up fights and deescalated them. Funnily enough, we’ve never had to murder a kid; even when they were hurting other students, we calmed them down and everyone lived. The fact that police can’t calmly break up this situation - what with all their training and their gear that they have- and their first instinct is to fire a gun no questions asked is ABSURD. Especially because it’s not for reasons you all keep making up. It’s not because “she was about to kill the other girl” if that was the case why is Kyle Rittenhouse still alive after walking around with a weapon after ACTUALLY killing folks. Why did police treat him like he was one of the good guys? Why did Dylan Roof not get dropped on the spot after slaying 9 black people who were praying in church!? I thought yall said that police have no choice when they see a weapon and lives are in danger, THEY HAVE TO SHOOT!!! Oh… I guess that’s only when they see black people. And I guess that yall’s empathy is only reserved for black males.
Ma’Khai was a little too black for yall, and a little too big, and a little too loud, violent, aggressive, and hostile for yall. You saw her as an animal so it was ok that she got put down like one. “Hey, the cops are just doing their job! They didn’t have a choice here!” But wait a minute, I thought ACAB!? My, my how quickly you all change your tune. I thought that it doesn’t matter if someone is breaking the law or not, they don’t have a right to be murdered even IF they aren’t cooperating. Damn, what happened to that song yall were singing when it came to black males?
I’ve not felt this much pain and hurt since Trayvon Martin. I’ve not felt so discarded and so hopeless and let down in a long time. The most disrespected, unprotected, and neglected person in America is the black woman. I knew yall hated black women but I’m always surprised by how much. Yall hate us so much that you think it’s ok for police to unload 4 bullets into the chest of a 16 year old who was defending herself in a fight. And the thing is, even if she wasn’t defending herself, even if she had started the whole thing, she still doesn’t need to be shot 4 times. Not when police are able to take violent white criminals into custody and make stops at burger king while they’re at it.
We gotta have our own backs as black women and it fukin sucks. But the kicker is that black women themselves are throwing their humanity under the bus to shuck and jive. Why are black women themselves saying that this baby deserved to die and that she needed to be held accountable, killing her isn’t accountability. Basically yall sayin she deserves the death penalty for something she might have done. Black women have to have their own backs because not even other black women will have our backs. And don’t even get me started on the black men who watch us drown as we toss them our life jackets. We are out on the front lines for black men and they just simply cannot show up for black women. Black men, Shannon Sharpe and Don Lemon publicly tell America that it’s ok because Ma’khia was unruly and uncivilized. Nows ya knows ya gots ta ack rite fos massa come round… I feel like now that yall got the verdict for George, now yall don’t wanna step outta line too much and Ma’khia is who yall are willing to sacrifice in order to show white America your utmost gratitude.
