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Living with your Indian mother in your twenties is a love-hate relationship. While she only understands your academic validation and ambitions, but can't beat the pressure of her generational trauma. You understand her struggles but can also feel the unrequired pressure on your back.
She has her own version of happiness and thinks it is suitable for you. At that point, she starts to knowingly or unknowingly forcefully put it on you, often forgetting your happiness and ambitions.
You too start noticing the pain and pressure the family and society inflicted on her. You start getting mature because even though you want to make her happy, you also have to be your own person. You have to be strong-headed in your words to get out of the vicious cycle.
In this, you become a little selfish, rude and disrespectful to achieve your goals and she becomes more understanding and resilient towards you. Its like you start a new rebel, and break generational oppressions while she retains some of it and reconsiders the others.
i'll call it a happy-sad phase.
I was just talking to my mother and I knew with or without a subtle hint she'll want me to have a life partner, children and also take a break from my career for my children.
But all I want to say was you suffered all your life and you want to internalize that into your daughter...why? When I say I just want extreme education and succeed in the career of my choice, that's all I want! In no damn way am I asking to be treated like a baby producing machine for another family, have responsibility of another man and get my wings clipped, NO TF NOT!
The people who want partners are not wrong but wanting to be alone in only my presence isn't wrong either. Wanting a family is beautiful but not wanting it is also okay. Taking a break is okay but not taking one should also be respected.
Ladki ki iccha, uski padhai aur uske sapne utne hi maayne rakhte hai jitne ki ladko ke. Dono hi tumhari aulad hai aur dono se barabar ka pyaar karna tumhara farz. Apni beti ya bete ke sapno ko roundne waale rakshas mat baniye, aage badhne me unka sahaara baniye, phir koi baccha kabhi Ghar chodne ki baat nahi karega.
Dinosaurs vanished because they couldn't change with time, you'll vanish too if you don't walk hand in hand with time!
So basically asking me for a favour by emotional blackmailing is ego crushing and infuriating to my family....door mat at its best
brown moms will say the cruelest, most vile and disrespectful thing you could say to a human and then pretend like nothing happened.
Ok ngl my mum saw me freaking out..( i brought this on myself 🤡💀🥲) so she decided to make me panipuri cause I can't eat them outside during monsoon... And it was the sweetest thing ever!