Dreams Aren't Everything - Tumblr Posts

I use to want kids, when I was little. Then I realized I just wanted to be a better parent then my own, to prove I wasn't like them.

And I'm not. Which is why I know I don't want kids, and shouldn't have them.

I decided I wanted to get married.

But I only wanted that because it's what was expected of me.

I wanted to go to art school, I wanted to draw for a living. Because everyone said I should.

Then I realized I could never be drawing what I was told to draw, only what I wanted. I realized drawing was a hobby, and that I found other work more fulfilling as a job

When I was little I wanted to be pretty, I wanted to be different. I wanted to become someone else entirely, so that I could be lovable. So that I could be perfect.

Now I know I don't want to change. I want to love myself for how I am. For who I am.

Losing a dream isn't bad. It just means you've made room for a new dream. It means you've learned more about the world, and about yourself, and that now you know what you really want.

I ruined all the dreams I had as a kid

And that’s a good thing.

When I was a kid, I wanted to marry a man like my father.

Now I see how manipulative and toxic he really is.

When I was a kid, I wanted to be like my mom.

Now I know I’m actually a guy, not a girl at all.

When I was a kid I wanted to be a vet.

Now I know that was me just doing what my parents wanted.

When I was a kid I thought true happiness would come from others, and I should never be selfish.

Now I know that my happiness is important too, so I should be selfish sometimes.

Of course, dashing dreams is usually a bad thing,

But when those dreams come between your joy and those around you,

Please follow the dreams you really want.