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i just woke up and it's 3am

MY HUSBAND CAME HOME FOR ME :D

as someone who identifies as being fat (with no negative connotations - it’s a fact of life not a death sentence) i agree with the above statement.

fat people are more than just their bodies and most people unfortunately focus on the body first, especially when it comes to romance. there isn’t anything inherently sexy about having a flat stomach is there? do people have fetishes about that shit? no. then why have them about fat people?

i’m not saying that people can’t appreciate the chub - i encourage it! but when it’s the only thing that people appreciate about fat people or when people demonize us for it it becomes a problem.

Tip to writers who write chubby/fat/plus sized reader fics/headcannons as a plus sized woman:

If someone- doesn't matter if I'm dating them or not- the first thing they reach for is my stomach? That's a major red flag that they find my body a fetish. That's my sign to run like hell.

Most of us don't like it when someone squeezes our stomach, or wants to focus on it during romance/sexy times. (That I've noticed. If you don't mind, then good for you.)

A lot of us bigger people do not want to associate with those who fetishize our bodies. They make us feel gross on so many levels. And people can absolutely be attracted to larger people without it being a fetish!

Moral of the story: we are people first and foremost. We are not "sqwishable softness uwu", and we have more to our bodies than our stomachs.

If you, personally, are alright with the above, then good for you. But there are a lot of us that aren't.

(Fetishists and fatphobes will get blocked and reported.)