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Nine (or so) People You Want to Get to Know Better:

Tagged by: @runnning-outof-time (thanks for tagging me!) 

Last Song: What A Life by Scarlet Pleasure. Every time I listen to it, it automatically makes me happy and it gets me moving! I’ll put a link here in case you wanna listen. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i0Hsxrl6wYc

Currently Watching: The Hollow Crown (not because of the plot. *wink wink*)

Currently Reading: Fanfiction, lol. I am doing more writing than reading at the moment. Hoping to pick up this newer book called A Kind of Spark and give it a read because I just finished the show and I cannot emphasize enough how much I love it. 

Current Obsession: Lots, lol. The Sandman and Peaky Blinders are my main 2 at the moment so anyone who wishes to talk about them with me, my DMs are always open. :) 

BONUS: 

Last movie I watched: The Secret of Moonacre. I kept getting edits on Tiktok and decided to give it a watch. It’s such fun!! 

Tagging some of my mutuals and friends who might wanna join in if they haven’t already: 

@forgottenpeakywriter @look-at-the-soul @toweroftickles @safarigirlsp @emmaarenstarr @incorrect-koh-posts @eternalstrigoii @zablife @izabesworld

Have you ever been knees-deep in a fandom and then found a perfectly good fanfiction on AO3 related to that fandom so you binge-read all the released chapters in one day, but then realize that now you have to wait for the next chapter to be released? 

I Have. 

OH, YES! I relate to this so much!

Every time I want to watch a new show or movie, whether or not the actor I am currently crushing on is in it, I have to do extensive research on the show in case there are any scenes I might not like, without avoiding spoilers at the same time, which can be a CHALLENGE! 

So yeah, I already knew most of the stuff that was going to happen in Peaky Blinders. Not everything, I was able to actually be surprised a couple of times, but when it came to certain character deaths, I was not emotionally prepared.

This is why I like watching the same movies or shows over and over again, because I already know what's going to happen and it's comforting for me.

No no you don't understand! I want to watch this show/movie, read this book, listen to this podcast, etc.! But I must be in the right mindset and the exact head space to begin, or I just can't!

Don't you just love it when the imposter syndrome kicks in? Like, what am I even doing? 🤷

"Therefore, I am not obligated to respond to messages that are inappropriate or rude. Like I said, if I don't respond to messages, it is because I am busy..." ----- If anyone is making you feel bad for not replying straight away, I'm sorry. Nobody should be forced or made to feel bad for not being able to reply. We are all busy, dealing with personal things or sometimes we just forget to respond. You seem like a lovely person and don't let anyone make you feel shitty for not being able to talk to them 24/7. If someone doesn't understand that others have lives and can't talk to them when it's convenient for them, then perhaps they need to take a step back and not blame others all the time, and be more empathetic) I have people on here that I don't reply to straight away, but we know life gets busy. We reply when we can. Doesn't mean we're mad or dont' wanna be friends anymore. I hope you are okay and have a good day!!

EXACTLY!!! I understand why it may be concerning that I don't respond right away, but who knows? They might be in school or have a job that take up a majority of their day and sometimes all they want is to rest and unwind, and depending on their time zone, go to sleep.

Just because they're active, they might be too tired to have a long conversation with someone, I would rather they take care of their mental and physical well-being. And same with me, I need to take some time to look after myself as well.

Thank you for your concern and for understanding. I am doing well, and I hope you have a good rest of your day/night. :)

Same anon here 👋

I forgot about timezones too. That plays a major factor in replying to messages. And for some responding to messages can be overwhelming, especially if you have had a long day or aren't in the mood. I rather someone reply when they feel better and actually want to, rather than feeling forced to reply out of fear/anxiousness that the other person will get mad. And also if the person doesn't check in and ask how you are doing, but expects you to, then that is wrong. You are 100% allowed to take your time in responding to messages or asks. Nobody should bully or make you feel shitty for taking your time and looking after yourself after a long day, ,personal issues, etc Thank you for answering my asks and being so lovely and kind. 😊

Of course! 😊

Same goes for the people on the other end. If things are busy or chaotic, or you just aren't in the mood or headspace to have a conversation or respond to my messages, I completely understand. I cannot emphasize enough how important it is to put your own mental well being first. Please take some time away, unplug from social media if you need to and look after yourself and feel free to come back whenever you're ready.

THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH FOR ALL THE LOVE!

hello beloveds ☺️

I AGREE WHOLEHEARTEDLY WITH THIS POST!

Sadly, despite what books and movies tell us, toxic relationships don't end well in the real world, and nothing, and I mean NOTHING justifies horrible words/actions toward another person, especially someone you "have a crush on." or "love." In fact, if you genuinely care about this person, you should treat them with the utmost respect and kindness and show them how worthy they are of such love.

A healthy relationship consists of mutual respect and genuine care for one another, it involves acknowledging each other's strengths and weaknesses, but lifting each other up and not tearing each other down. Quarrels/arguments should never involve them being belittled, degraded, physically harmed, etc.

Teach them to trust their instincts and to know their worth!

Don’t tell your daughter that when a boy is mean or rude to her it’s because he has a crush on her. Don’t teach her that abuse is a sign of love.

You know when you go on Tumblr and you look under a specific hashtag and then they show you a thousand other things that have little to nothing to do with what you're looking for? Yeah, so how specific do you want me to be?