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To my future Daddy(dominant).
Polyamorous relationships are not for everyone. Monogamous relationships are not for everyone. Romantic relationships are not for everyone!!! We are all different people with different needs, maybe just stop trying to condense the human experience into a homogenous gray monolith!!! aaaaaaaa
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I think an important thing to think about here is that monogamous romantic relationships have two elements: connection and partnership. Connection is the part we tend to associate with relationships more often. That's your romantic feelings, your platonic love, the emotional connection and meaningful care.
On the other hand, partnership is the agreement made in a romantic relationship (although other relationships like qprs also involve partnership, romance is more common and thus will be used for the purposes of argument). Of course all relationships are unique and personal, but in general, a romantic partnership is a mutual agreement to:
1. Prioritize your partner
2. Provide emotional labor/support
3. Provide physical affection/support
4. Be a reliable presence in your partner's life
In a monogamous relationship, these are obligations— in whatever agreed upon capacity— that a person has to a single partner, and vice versa. In my experience, that exclusivity makes it much easier to adapt to the desires and needs of my partner. Because I only have one agreement in place, I can focus my energy on fully understanding the way my partner wants those obligations to be fulfilled and adapting the way I do things to match. And I can rely on the fact that my partner is doing the same! Having another partner wouldn't change how much I love my boyfriend, but it would mean learning how two different people like to be prioritized, supported, shown affection, and shown up for. I'd have to switch between those two modes (at least!), and reconcile each with the other. Because I only have one partner, I can focus on that single agreement without having to compromise or pull focus to another obligation.
Meanwhile, I'm not at a loss for connection. I love my partner, and I love my friends, my family, everyone. I'm incredibly emotionally fulfilled in every aspect of my life, and I do try my best to prioritize them, give emotional support, show affection, and be reliable! The difference is, that's a choice. Unlike a partnership, I don't have set responsibilities for my friends. If I did, I would go crazy trying to fulfill them all. By keeping that partnership to one person, I have much more bandwidth to choose to provide those things in a platonic capacity more often and more reliably.
All this to say, do what works for you! A lot of people are more fulfilled by polyamorous relationships, and that's phenomenal!!! Genuinely, I'm ecstatic that people are finding systems of partnership that work for them. I just think a lot of people focus so much on the emotional aspect of romance, they forget the labor and responsibility involved in a capital r Relationship™.
also monogamy is just weird to me i guess. its one thing if you simply don't have the emotional bandwidth to nurture multiple romantic or sexual connections (i barely do atp!) but like. imagine if we treated ANY other kind of relationship this way. you can only have one best friend. you can only have one sister. you can only have one mentor. and if you want to have more than one of any of these relationships it means you don't love the first person enough. like that's CRAZY! why is this sentiment applied so strongly to romance!