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Oh to be in a lesbian qpr....come watch the old animated Barbie movies with me girl. Eat popcorn and pizza with me and go stargazing and live in a house in the city with me and some pets, or maybe just plants. Cuddle on the couch with me if you're into it. It'll be a sleepover everyday, laughing at inside jokes in our pajamas. We'll eat candy and stay up late and push each other around in shopping carts
I do that myself, lol.
However, that does not mean I personally, don't ship arospec characters. Reason being? I have a demi-ace OC whose identity is heavily based in my own who I ship with another OC of mine who is a token straight, lol.
This only goes for this, however, as aro-ace characters (canon or otherwise) I tend to hit with the "qpr beam" if there is a qpr ship take I am fond of.
And I know people can be aplatonic (even if i learned about it only a few days ago), but I don't know enough on aplatonic people to really have any aplatonic headcanons for characters and they don't get enough love or representation anywhere (which really sucks), nor have I ever met someone who was aplatonic in-person, so I don't know how that looks (and thus if I just looked it up it would probably be inaccurate for a lot of you), which is why I didn't say anything on them.
oops i accidentally queerplatonicafied your ship and aspeced your character again
Being aromantic is sometimes waking up, so incredibly sad and lonely, that you imagine a fictional partner between your side, who hugs, caresses your hair or rubs your back, so you feel less alone. Often I feel envious of my friends who have partners or a married, because they have someone who cares as much about them as themselves. On one hand I wished I had someone who cares so deeply about me, but on the other hand I know, that I couldn't handle a real person or something like a qpr in reality
Sick of my aroace identity being ignored by my friends because I’m in a romantic leaning qpr
Like yes I am aware that they have romantic feelings for me but I do not have those feelings for them
Like I feel strongly towards them and I’m committed to them but I do not feel romantic or sexual attraction to them at all
The only person who doesn’t question my identity is ironically enough my partner who knows I do not have these feelings towards them and has said that if these feelings change they change and if they don’t they don’t like????
I’m aroace this is the label I use like?? Can we not erase aroace identities because someone is in a romantic looking relationship
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Me and my partner as Bubblegum and Marcaline!
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Update of this shit storm:
I’ve decided to end thing with my qpp, I’m uncomfortable with them waiting out for a chance my feelings will change
and also the fact that they can’t move when they’re hoping I’ll change
So yay! Tbh I think this whole experience has showed me that I’m much more aromantic then I previously thought
Because the stress of being in a relationship, even a qpr has been weighing on me significantly so yeah, I’ll keep y’all updated on this fucking mess
Just found out my qpp has been waiting to see if I’d eventually develop feelings for them.
Our entire qpr. They’ve been holding out on a chance that I’d change.
It’s not on them at all. I just feel like a cunt that lead them on now fuckkkkk
I don’t know what to do
Be officially ended things.
It went as well as expected ig
Definitely broke their heart though
Just found out my qpp has been waiting to see if I’d eventually develop feelings for them.
Our entire qpr. They’ve been holding out on a chance that I’d change.
It’s not on them at all. I just feel like a cunt that lead them on now fuckkkkk
I don’t know what to do
I think an important thing to think about here is that monogamous romantic relationships have two elements: connection and partnership. Connection is the part we tend to associate with relationships more often. That's your romantic feelings, your platonic love, the emotional connection and meaningful care.
On the other hand, partnership is the agreement made in a romantic relationship (although other relationships like qprs also involve partnership, romance is more common and thus will be used for the purposes of argument). Of course all relationships are unique and personal, but in general, a romantic partnership is a mutual agreement to:
1. Prioritize your partner
2. Provide emotional labor/support
3. Provide physical affection/support
4. Be a reliable presence in your partner's life
In a monogamous relationship, these are obligations— in whatever agreed upon capacity— that a person has to a single partner, and vice versa. In my experience, that exclusivity makes it much easier to adapt to the desires and needs of my partner. Because I only have one agreement in place, I can focus my energy on fully understanding the way my partner wants those obligations to be fulfilled and adapting the way I do things to match. And I can rely on the fact that my partner is doing the same! Having another partner wouldn't change how much I love my boyfriend, but it would mean learning how two different people like to be prioritized, supported, shown affection, and shown up for. I'd have to switch between those two modes (at least!), and reconcile each with the other. Because I only have one partner, I can focus on that single agreement without having to compromise or pull focus to another obligation.
Meanwhile, I'm not at a loss for connection. I love my partner, and I love my friends, my family, everyone. I'm incredibly emotionally fulfilled in every aspect of my life, and I do try my best to prioritize them, give emotional support, show affection, and be reliable! The difference is, that's a choice. Unlike a partnership, I don't have set responsibilities for my friends. If I did, I would go crazy trying to fulfill them all. By keeping that partnership to one person, I have much more bandwidth to choose to provide those things in a platonic capacity more often and more reliably.
All this to say, do what works for you! A lot of people are more fulfilled by polyamorous relationships, and that's phenomenal!!! Genuinely, I'm ecstatic that people are finding systems of partnership that work for them. I just think a lot of people focus so much on the emotional aspect of romance, they forget the labor and responsibility involved in a capital r Relationship™.
also monogamy is just weird to me i guess. its one thing if you simply don't have the emotional bandwidth to nurture multiple romantic or sexual connections (i barely do atp!) but like. imagine if we treated ANY other kind of relationship this way. you can only have one best friend. you can only have one sister. you can only have one mentor. and if you want to have more than one of any of these relationships it means you don't love the first person enough. like that's CRAZY! why is this sentiment applied so strongly to romance!
Ik this is probably the fifteenth time you've seen someone say this but we need more qprs in fandom space. Instead of shipping we'll call it canoeing and we'll make it just as popular. Please I need this ok
shoutout to my friend Lily, who’s becoming my wingwoman so that I can have a queerplatonic relationship
I want this to get a bunch of notes so I can tell her she’s tumblr famous
how do i tell someone that i attach way too much meaning to the word "bestie" and it kinda annoys me when it's used casually bcz for a long time it was the most intimate relationship i thought i was ever going to be able to have
Why oh why is there no legal way for me to make my qpp my legal partner? Like there's marriage ig (but i hate the romantic connotations) What do i do for my qpp who i love and adore and want to declare "My Legal-Human-Partner-Person"?
Bruh I'm so platonically in love and simping so hard for my best friend how do I handle this
Yuts has been eating at my brain and this image won't leave me alone like look at it!!! It's so pretty!!!! AND it captures the moment so well
Some good boys having a moment in the latest yuts chapter :Dc
I am SHOOK
Just some ships that I headcanon as Queerplatonic
Steven x Connie (Steven Universe)
Peridot x Lapis (Steven Universe)
Ivy x Sprig x Maddie (Amphibia)
Polly x Pearl (Amphibia)
Frisk x Chara (Undertale)
Kris x Berdly (Deltarune)
Angel Dust x Alastor (Hazbin Hotel)
Zill x Kayla x Jack x Jill x Spam x Vanexa (Zoophobia)
Judy Hopps x Nick Wilde (Zootopia)
Yona x Sandbar (My little Pony)
Viney x Emira x Katya (The Owl House)
Sonic x Shadow x Silver (Sonic)
Din x Lina (Wish Dragon)
Gwen Stacy x Miles Morales (Spider-Man Into The Spider Verse)
K.O. x Dendy (Ok K.O! Let’s Be Heros!)
Lukas x Jesse x Petra (Minecraft Story Mode)
Zim x Dib (Invader Zim)
Tak x Gaz (Invader Zim)
Jessie x James (Pokémon)
i want a best friend. someone who's also aroace, and we could live together in a two bedroom apartment and adopt a cat. and life would be easier because i'd have someone to split the bills and the chores with.
we could do stuff together like go to the movies or try new restaurants, but i wouldnt feel overwhelmed because they'd also let me have my personal space.
is it really too much to ask?
Submitted February 18, 2023