People Have Good Reasons On Why They Still Live At Home - Tumblr Posts
And that’s what’s sad, it shouldn’t be an unpopular opinion.
People shouldn’t hear, “Oh I’m an adult in my 30s who still lives with their parents,” and then think, wow they must be lazy or freeloading. I’m not saying there isn’t one or two cases like that, which it still isn’t any of our business anyway, but it’s highly disgusting to sit there and judge people when you don’t know what they are going through.
I grew up in a large family, with up to 13 people in one house, and yes that consisted of my grandparents, mom, aunts, uncle, cousins, and siblings. (Even second cousins at one point.) It’s exactly what the person above said, I live in one of the most expensive states you can live in, and with what my mom makes in a year supporting 3 kids she could NEVER afford the rent of even a single bedroom apartment. Just because someone isn’t paying rent doesn’t mean they don’t have a job or aren’t helping out around the house.
Plus, we took/take care of my grandparents. My grandpa passed away earlier this May, but before he did, he could no longer walk due to a knee problem with a surgery, so we helped him with everything. Feeding, showers, assisting him with doctor appointments, and just spending time with him in general, like watching movies he liked, because he couldn’t really move anywhere that wasn’t his bed. My grandma also can’t do everything she used to either with her legs as well, like carrying groceries up our many stairs or even taking the garbage down, stuff we don’t really even think about. So us grandkids do the workload.
There’s honestly many other things, but seriously. We need to make this a popular opinion. No adult deserves to give you any damn reason on why they still live with their birth family. Simply accept there is a good reason and move on. As a society we need to change the stereotypical idea of moving out once you become an adult and then creating this whole family for yourself. While some people do get to do that, it’s definitely not the reality for quite a lot of people. It takes way more time then what I feel like many of us thought it would as kids/young teens.
Unpopular opinion but an adult still living at home with their birth family doesn’t owe you an explanation for why they’re living there.
It could be an illness/disability they have that’s not fully visible. Maybe they want to be around to care for their aging parents. Maybe the rents in their area are so disgustingly, astronomically high that it really doesn’t make sense for them to move out. Maybe they just don’t trust strangers enough to move into shared accommodation. No matter what it is, it’s not your business.