Shaming Sex Leads To Sex Being Unsafe - Tumblr Posts

I hate how teen sexuality is handled, as if saying "teens shouldn't be sexual" will turn off hormones and instincts and sensory + dopamine cravings and everything else that contributes to making people horny

And it leads to danger for these kids. I was one of these kids. My puberty was wild and I was obsessed with sex by the time I was twelve while knowing I shouldn't be, that it was morally bad for me and that I was a bad and gross person for it, especially because I was a little girl and little girls don't get horny. Girls are the objects, we cannot lust. We cannot want or crave.

And this leads to letting people use us and do what they want without knowing what we actually want because we're not ALLOWED to want. And then if things go bad, well, it was our fault for wanting sex at all! And then we end up in our 30s, still stupidly horny because that's just who we are sometimes, with a lot of trauma to unpack surrounding sexuality, learning to communicate about it because talking about sex was bad to do, and maybe HPV and a precancerous cervix from all the secret dangerous experimentation we did as teens. :)

And if we talk about this even from the perspective of "this is about my experience as a teenager who has grown up" you get people accusing you of all sorts of creep behavior. I don't want to be involved with anyone who isn't in their mid 20s thru 70s personally. I just don't think kids should grow up believing that sex is the worst thing they can be interested in so that they have to hide the bad sex they're having with people twice their age and not talk about it ever to anyone. It's fucked up to me. Kids deserve proper sex education that isn't steeped in puritanical values and heteronormativity.