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Masturbated so hard today that my ears were ringing? Didn't even cum though but like damn wtf

Gotta be honest, I'm pretty pleased with myself.

Women have the right to love having sex.

Women have the right to never want to have sex.

Women have the right to choose how much sex we want to have, and with whom.

Women can experience attraction.

Women can enjoy sexual pleasure.

Women can prefer never to think about sex.

We are autonomous and have the right to choose who we would like to have sex with and what sexual acts we would like to engage in.

We should not feel obligated to engage in sexual acts with anyone we don't want to.

We should not feel ashamed of our bodies or our desire.

(Note: this post applies to people of all genders!)

My throat hurts. Can't tell if it's from drinking my region's shitty tap water or from sucking cock.

How no nut november went for me last year:

First day: Feel normal

Next few days: Pleasant amounts of desire, kind of fun sexual fantasies and enjoying the experience

November fifth: Pain😭 (I ended up jacking off in the employee restroom at the retail store i worked at during my 15min break💀)

Since then my sex drive has only increased and I've begun jerking off in public restrooms every day. Will my boyfriend and I survive November this year? Certainly not, but I think it would be funny to try.

After all this time of trying to figure out how menstruation affects my sex drive... I think there might be an overarching theme🤔

Our society has this idea that if a woman has sex with someone, she loses her self-respect.

Why is "get fucked" a word for bad things happening to you, or losing something important, or being in a shitty situation, and "fuck you" used as a way to express aggression?

Why are promiscuous women called whores but promiscuous men just being average men?

Having a high sex drive as a woman and wanting to talk about it leads people to flag me as whorish, morally bad, poor, or "rough around the edges", like I'm someone who does drugs and gets bad grades and has no self-respect. Barely even a person. Don't they understand the beauty with which sexual desire colors the world? Don't they know the excitement it gives me, the joy, and the human connection?

I want sex to be natural, positive, and part of life. To be discussed like anything else. Enough of the taboo. And enough of the stigma. It unfairly impacts women.

Sex is seen as a source of pride for men and a source of dishonor for women. That's why I like being able to discuss it in male terms: I jerk off, I got lucky last night, I wanna fuck him, I have blue balls, I wanna get laid, etc.. Words men always use to express their lust, make it obvious that sex is something they're proud of and looking forward to. But I'm just a weak, pathetic whore who's gonna drop out of school because I'm being taken advantage of by boys.

No I'm not. I'm a good student. I have a well-connected social circle of platonic friends. I take care of myself, eat right, sleep at night, and go to the gym. I do my laundry every week. I have hobbies, like playing the guitar. When I have sex, it is because I choose to, because I enjoy it, and because my lover and I have mutual respect for one another and ourselves.

I hate how teen sexuality is handled, as if saying "teens shouldn't be sexual" will turn off hormones and instincts and sensory + dopamine cravings and everything else that contributes to making people horny

And it leads to danger for these kids. I was one of these kids. My puberty was wild and I was obsessed with sex by the time I was twelve while knowing I shouldn't be, that it was morally bad for me and that I was a bad and gross person for it, especially because I was a little girl and little girls don't get horny. Girls are the objects, we cannot lust. We cannot want or crave.

And this leads to letting people use us and do what they want without knowing what we actually want because we're not ALLOWED to want. And then if things go bad, well, it was our fault for wanting sex at all! And then we end up in our 30s, still stupidly horny because that's just who we are sometimes, with a lot of trauma to unpack surrounding sexuality, learning to communicate about it because talking about sex was bad to do, and maybe HPV and a precancerous cervix from all the secret dangerous experimentation we did as teens. :)

And if we talk about this even from the perspective of "this is about my experience as a teenager who has grown up" you get people accusing you of all sorts of creep behavior. I don't want to be involved with anyone who isn't in their mid 20s thru 70s personally. I just don't think kids should grow up believing that sex is the worst thing they can be interested in so that they have to hide the bad sex they're having with people twice their age and not talk about it ever to anyone. It's fucked up to me. Kids deserve proper sex education that isn't steeped in puritanical values and heteronormativity.

Lmao why does going to the dentist make me horny

Shaming women for catering to the "male gaze" is a form of conservative slut-shaming masquerading as feminism.

There's a trend I've seen of people looking at female characters in media who look sexually attractive and saying that the creators of this media are bad or the enemies of feminists because they created something to "cater to the male gaze."

For example, video games with female characters who have big boobs are criticized for "sexualizing women" for the sake of male consumers.

I've also seen a post which made a comparison between the old and new Harley Quinn, claiming that the one who had "choppy and fun" bangs rather than "seductively framing her face" was much better because it showed female rather than male gaze.

The issue with these criticisms is that well-meaning feminists start to generalize them to real women. We tell women not to look seductive or sexually attractive because those traits cater to men. We feel pity for them for having become victims to men's lust.

Do you see why this is bad? If you look closely enough at these claims about the male gaze, you see that modern feminist language is being used to repeat the same conservative slut-shaming bullshit our society should have overcome by now.

How different are these claims, really, from the teacher at my high school who followed her presentation about the dress code by saying that girls who have been victims of sexual harassment have invited it upon themselves with the way that they were dressed?

Some things that are bad:

Telling women how they can and can't dress

Saying that if men are attracted to a woman, she is not safe or not respectable

Telling women to dress modestly

Shaming women for wanting to be attractive to men

To be clear, the opposite is true too. It's bad to force women into sex of course, or to make them wear something "attractive" that they aren't comfortable with. But telling women that they are "catering to the male gaze" if they want to look attractive disempowers women by taking away our choice to be sexually liberated, choose how we dress, or look attractive for our own sakes.

In addition, when feminists consider the male gaze their enemy, they also start to consider women who dress attractively or are purposely seductive or engage in sexual acts as their enemies. We end up with women yelling at women, enforcing the patriarchy on ourselves. It's fucked up, and we can do better.

I do NOT want to write this essay I do NOT want to do research I simply MUST have SEXUAL RELATIONS right this instant.

Grrrrrrr

So I went rock climbing a few days ago after months of not doing it, then last night did pushups and an at-home workout. Then, I beat a personal record and masturbated so hard I cummed EIGHT times!!

Now I'm feeling pms symptoms, have sore muscles, and I should be fucking EXHAUSTED from cumming eight times. But I'm just. Still horny.

I think I'm lonely. It's like how people say masturbating is a coping mechanism for being lonely or sad. It kinda gives you that hormone rush. Like the reason I did it eight times and still want more is to fill that emotional need that isn't being met.

It doesn't work. That's the snarling part. It just doesn't fucking work. I'm still missing something. I still feel so alone.

I haven't been able to see my bf or my friends for several weeks now. Luckily I'll be reunited with them soon.

Y'all, controversial opinion but like. Safer sex is really important. We have to teach teenagers about it.

Sex is a good and natural thing, we have to stop being scared of "enabling bad behavior" when teaching about how to do it safely. Use condoms, dental dams, and whatever else is needed to prevent pregnancy and the spread of STIs.

Women with a high sex drive are valid.

Men with a low sex drive are valid.

For people of all genders and sexualities, you're valid regardless of whether your sex drive is high or low.

It's okay if your sex drive doesn't meet the stereotypes associated with your gender.

Experiencing a lot of sexual desire is fun! It's sexy and interesting and puts something interesting into each day.

Experiencing very little sexual desire is also fun! It gives you one less thing to worry about, and allows you to focus on other things.

Your libido levels are valid regardless of society's expectations of you!

I had a break between classes and I found out that my roommate was going home for the day.

So I did my readings while masturbating my brains out and cumming four times.

(I didn't get very far in the readings....)

Passed out and when I woke up, found out I had to take a major exam I hadn't studied for. (I thought it was on wednesday!)

Whoops!

by the way i will never stop talking about how hard get z fell for and is now peddling purity culture propaganda.

unironically a good portion of gen z supports purity culture/sex negative ideals a lot harder than millennials or gen x ever did. its the constant messaging that wearing anything that could be interpreted as sexual is bad (showing any skin, etc), that having anything inappropriate happen in a movie or book is unspeakably scandalous, that speaking about sex in and of itself (especially if were talking about non-normative forms of sexual expression) is wrong and a conversation that should only happen between two adults in private and should never become a wider more open conversation and should never ever ever ever be something minors speak about god forbid.

its all of these ideas that are deeply embedded in right wing fascist propaganda that gen z so adamantly supports and repeats, but repackages it by swearing its progressive this time. sex negativity is not and never has been progressive. btw.

Things that make you a pervert:

not respecting consent

making sexual advances towards someone who you have power over

sexual harassment or doing things that make someone uncomfortable

Things that do not make you a pervert:

experiencing sexual attraction

You can't control your emotions but you can control your actions.

When I talk about sex positivity, the basis of pretty much all of it is the idea that we all control our own bodies, and we should all be respected, and we have the choice of if or how much we'd like to engage in sexual activities with our bodies.

It's about consent.

And it is impossible to give affirmative consent if there is no option to say no forever. If you can't say no, then what does yes even mean?

Sex positivity is entirely dependent on accepting the rights of people uninterested in sex because we have no good sex without consent.

When I first heard the word asexual over a decade ago, as a teenager dealing with the twin manifestations of compulsory sexuality that are purity culture and hookup culture, it was a weight off of my back. It was a light in the darkness that said you do not ever have to compromise on this boundary. Not now, not later, not ever. You can live a life where your body only belongs to you and no one else can tell you what to do with it.

This is the most important thing we can fight for, in my opinion. A world where everyone can do whatever they want with their own bodies forever— including never have sex.

There is no sexual freedom without indefinite refusal. Those who choose indefinite refusal are not your enemy. You only stand to gain from recognizing and fighting for us.

Those times when you're not even horny per say but... that person just makes you feel safe and in love and happy. So you're attracted to them anyway.

Feeling that sensation in your vagina with the same comfort and warmth that comes from the touch of their hands to your hair and the weight of their shoulders resting on yours, chests pressed together like cuddling but better.

Sex because you love the closeness of touching another person. Penetration because you love it when someone you love cums. A feeling of tiredness and comfort, low sex drive but a love for sex.

I guess sex is just a part of who I am. And nothing can take away my desire for it, even the fact that I'm on my period and masturbated three times a day for the last week.

If I ever say something like

"My sex drive has been low recently"

Or

"I'm not horny rn"

Do not believe me. I just like to play pretend sometimes😇

Sometimes I do be wishing my clit was inside my vagina tho😔