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If you want an actual response, i can probably awnser a few for you.
-formailites and small talk are seen as signs you want to talk and be around the person as long as possible, to the point where it is the societal norm to act like that, so when you are short and to the point with people, they may take it as a sign you don’t want to spend time with them, or more importantly, because they assume you act with formailties to other people, implying that you want to spend time with everyone else but not them. sorry, that was a really long run-on sentance.
-see above, small talk makes people think you want to spend time talking to and intreacting with them, even if its about inconquential things.
-we usually don’t, your friend WAS probably mad or sad that day and either lashing out or making a pointed comment about something.
-IdK about other people, but its usually not that overwhelming for me, or modt neruotypical people i know. i know people on all ends of the spectrum for stimulation tolerance, from those with sensory disorders to people who regularly go to emo punk concerts. As far as I understand, we arnt very sensitve to oberstimulation comparend to non-neurotypicals. I’ve never been inside the mind lf someone with autism, so I can’t really compare precisely, but it just... dosn’t really affect us nearly as much. loud noises make my ears hurt after a white, and give other people headaches, and going to a raging party can be awful after 3 hours sleep, but its never gotten to the point where i felt like i was gonng to break down, at worst have to gobsomewhere new. when that does happen, i usually just leav and thats about it, maybe lay in a quiet place and enjoy teh scilence.harsh noises can be annoying, but flashing lights have never been a probelm for me. I actually rather enjoy them.
-if you mean why people expect you to act Nt even after they know your autistic, probably because they either dont know the symptoms of autism well, or are uncomftroable with people acting outside their percived “norm”, no matter the reason. or both. why people are uncomftorable with people acting outside the norm, i’m not entirely sure. One theory is because when you avt outside of social bounds, they find it hard to understand you, which causes uncertainty and stress. sor they would rather put you in a box so they can read you. because otherwise they are always unsure of if they read you right ir not. Its not an excuse, but it is an explaination/
-probably for the reasons above, and because fear causes hate.
-because its seen as not working hard enough, and being ”non-American”. -once again, because of fear and intolerance, and not being able to be compassionalte to people you dont understand.
-its considered ’weird’, because its not a tning most neurotypicals do.
hope this awnsered some of your questioons! Sorry this got so long, and for the spelling errors. im on mobile, and I kinda ran outta energy awnsering the last few XD. My brain juice for the day has run out.
Questions for neurotypicals:
- Why is it rude to write short and precise emails? I don't understand why I have to write out a whole paragraph just to tell the teacher my late work will be turned in by the end of the week.
- Why is small talk a thing? I don't understand why I'm supposed to act friendly and like I know someone when I just met them
- Why do y'all take everything we do so personally? Like I suck at telling emotions and I asked my friend if she was mad/sad and she got mad at me for asking
- How do you all deal with awful sensory stuff (flashing lights, harsh noises, etc.)?
- Why are we (neurodivergents) expected to act neurotypical?
- Why do neurotypicals treat diagnosis's such as autism, OCD, and ADHD like a death sentence?
- Why are naps not deemed acceptable in work/school?
- Why do many neurotypicals put neurodivergents at a lower respect? (I.E. call us the R-slur, make fun of us, mock us, etc.)
- Why is stimming not accepted?
