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me and my sister made neurodivergencies as vines (we don’t intend this to be offensive, since both of us are ND). Sorry for the quality. It’s kind of lazy work.

The text in the video may or may not be dyslexic-friendly so I apologize for that.

(note: NT stands for neurotypical and ND stands for neurodivergent)

Hey guys im not officially diagnosed or anything but i might have ARFID. thing is, im not nd or anything, but thats all i can find like, anywhere. Uhh hi yall

Any neurotypical arfid sufferers in the chat? lol

The Small Things

"Should I leave social media since all my friends are fighting all the time, when I post something?"

My suggestion .. Lead.

Since, Leadership is, "Guiding Intentions with Integrity", you need to show your friends how to have a civil discourse by attacking the issues, vs each other's character flaws.

To attack the issue, it is nessary to break the issue into it's smaller subcomponents. Into things that individuals can relate to. For example, when asked how to disucss ADHD to NeuroTypcials, I suggest that ADHDrs describe the individual symptoms of ADHD, that way NTs will have something they can relate to. IE .. walking into a room and forgetting why you were walking into it.

Through demonstrated leadership, help each friend find smaller common elements that they can relate to and discuss. Where they can describe how life is affecting them as an individual. Where they can describe how they personally resolved or overcame this issue.

I do think that the current trend of pathologising of relatively normal aspects of the human condition is very harmful and creates a culture where ‘neurotypical’ is very strictly delimited and most people don’t measure up (which parallels how gender theory has turned ‘womanhood’ into this weird, hyperfeminine, isolating concept that most women don’t fit, but that’s a distinct and related conversation).

Like it’s normal to be overwhelmed/stressed out by/unable to process things when there’s noise and multiple things happening at once. It’s normal to be upset with changes in routine, to dislike the feeling of certain clothing on your body or the texture of certain food, and to react awkwardly in social situations. It’s normal to struggle with motivation when you’ve gotta do something boring or hard, to feel like you can’t do a task unless you break it into little pieces, and to find little productivity tricks that make your life easier. Most people experience this kind of thing.

Someone needs to publish "how to hang out with neutrotypicals: the guide"

Additionally, there needs to be a book titled "How to Work Like and With Neurotypicals"

Istg, I’m so sick of being neurodivergent sometimes… Every time I make a new account on literally any platform, I know damn well I have approximately 2 hours before the algorithm detects my fucked up neuros and shows me the weird shit it knows I’m gonna like.

Sometimes I just want to have a feed that aimed towards neurotypicals cause it gives me a sense of normalcy and grounds me in reality.

Like what are “normal” people my age worrying about? Dating? Cooking? I have no clue. But I want to know. Not that I want to have their problems instead of my own but just to have a peek on the other side.

Don’t know if this relatable or not, I think the neurodivergent side of the internet is way more interesting but it’s always nice to switch things up.

i think that neurotypical people are a myth 😅

like wdym?? you don't have special interests that are basically your life and make you just randomly shriek with excitement???

you don't constantly stim???

you can, like.. do things?? without anxiety?? or the mental paywall over all activities???

you can interact with people???

..yea idk if i believe in neurotypicals :^

I’m not autistic.

I just freak out when I feel like the fabric is too scratchy/too heavy/too thick on my clothes, the tag is poking me, the music is too loud, someone is making the same noise over and over, my socks fall down too much, my apartment isn’t staged perfectly, my friends touch my LEGO sets, my pantry doesn’t have my “safe foods”, my tone isn’t communicating correctly so everyone thinks I’m being rude but I’m trying to make a joke, someone makes a joke but I can’t read their tone, someone sends me a text and I read into their tone, I send someone a text and don’t realize my tone is weird, I hate being hugged or touched or anything most of the time, I need one pillow on my lap and another one sectioning between me and the other person every time I sit on a couch with someone, I can’t focus on videos I have to either be in the lecture hall/movie theater, I have to read along to literally everything, body spray feels sticky but a little bit of perfume is fine, glasses have to be at the top of the bridge of my nose, I need to make sure every aspect of my decor is coordinated perfectly and is just stimulating enough but doesn’t feel overwhelming, I cry when I’m in museums/zoos for too long because there’s too much going on, I hate parties or groups with more than like 4 ppl max because it’s overwhelming as fuck, I plug my ears but refuse to get anything to fix it, I chew on my lips/nails/cuticles because I need to have something to focus my mouth on but I refuse to do anything to fix that either, I literally cant describe how I feel and I find it impossible to sound genuine when I compliment people no matter how genuine the compliment is, I require a lot of movement and physical activity because otherwise I feel like my body is all scrunched up into a ball and I feel tense and prickly, I get irritated when people don’t understand me or when I don’t understand them, I don’t feel like I communicate well but people tell me I do it fine but I always over explain because I’m scared of being misunderstood, I’m always home and don’t do well working in customer service jobs where I have to socialize for so long, I require a lot of down time, I hate when people come up behind me, I feel overwhelmed and overstimulated a lot of the time, I hate when I can’t tell what people are thinking, I—

I really dislike when you neurotypicals think you know what's best for others.

Isabelle, To The Moon

Teaching kids about ADHD and other neurodivergences is really important. Like I wasn't officially diagnosed with ADHD until recently, but it's always been obvious that I had it. And even the I knew the I had it, I didn't really know I did. I thought it was just concentration problems until I was like 15. And once I actually started looking into it I realized it was so much more than that. There were so many things that other kids could do but I couldn't, and I didn't realize until then that it wasn't really my fault.

Reblog and put why dudebros would call you ‘forced diversity’ and ‘totally unrealistic’ if you were a fictional character in the tags

If you want an actual response, i can probably awnser a few for you.

-formailites and small talk are seen as signs you want to talk and be around the person as long as possible, to the point where it is the societal norm to act like that, so when you are short and to the point with people, they may take it as a sign you don’t want to spend time with them, or more importantly, because they assume you act with formailties to other people, implying that you want to spend time with everyone else but not them. sorry, that was a really long run-on sentance.

-see above, small talk makes people think you want to spend time talking to and intreacting with them, even if its about inconquential things.

-we usually don’t, your friend WAS probably mad or sad that day and either lashing out or making a pointed comment about something.

-IdK about other people, but its usually not that overwhelming for me, or modt neruotypical people i know. i know people on all ends of the spectrum for stimulation tolerance, from those with sensory disorders to people who regularly go to emo punk concerts. As far as I understand, we arnt very sensitve to oberstimulation comparend to non-neurotypicals. I’ve never been inside the mind lf someone with autism, so I can’t really compare precisely, but it just... dosn’t really affect us nearly as much. loud noises make my ears hurt after a white, and give other people headaches, and going to a raging party can be awful after 3 hours sleep, but its never gotten to the point where i felt like i was gonng to break down, at worst have to gobsomewhere new. when that does happen, i usually just leav and thats about it, maybe lay in a quiet place and enjoy teh scilence.harsh noises can be annoying, but flashing lights have never been a probelm for me. I actually rather enjoy them.

-if you mean why people expect you to act Nt even after they know your autistic, probably because they either dont know the symptoms of autism well, or are uncomftroable with people acting outside their percived “norm”, no matter the reason. or both. why people are uncomftorable with people acting outside the norm, i’m not entirely sure. One theory is because when you avt outside of social bounds, they find it hard to understand you, which causes uncertainty and stress. sor they would rather put you in a box so they can read you. because otherwise they are always unsure of if they read you right ir not. Its not an excuse, but it is an explaination/

-probably for the reasons above, and because fear causes hate.

-because its seen as not working hard enough, and being ”non-American”. -once again, because of fear and intolerance, and not being able to be compassionalte to people you dont understand.

-its considered ’weird’, because its not a tning most neurotypicals do.

hope this awnsered some of your questioons! Sorry this got so long, and for the spelling errors. im on mobile, and I kinda ran outta energy awnsering the last few XD. My brain juice for the day has run out.

Questions for neurotypicals:

- Why is it rude to write short and precise emails? I don't understand why I have to write out a whole paragraph just to tell the teacher my late work will be turned in by the end of the week.

- Why is small talk a thing? I don't understand why I'm supposed to act friendly and like I know someone when I just met them

- Why do y'all take everything we do so personally? Like I suck at telling emotions and I asked my friend if she was mad/sad and she got mad at me for asking

- How do you all deal with awful sensory stuff (flashing lights, harsh noises, etc.)?

- Why are we (neurodivergents) expected to act neurotypical?

- Why do neurotypicals treat diagnosis's such as autism, OCD, and ADHD like a death sentence?

- Why are naps not deemed acceptable in work/school?

- Why do many neurotypicals put neurodivergents at a lower respect? (I.E. call us the R-slur, make fun of us, mock us, etc.)

- Why is stimming not accepted?

I’m worried that I’m not #actuallyautistic because no, I’ve never been diagnosed. And I worry because... I don’t show as many traits as other people do. Or maybe I just have ADHD that’s undiagnosed. Or maybe it’s the depression and anxiety that IS diagnosed that’s causing things because of a lack of coping skills. And I’m worried because... what if I’m just thinking these things and starting to voice them for attention even though I don’t like attention? What if I just can’t make it in a neurotypical world, but I don’t have anything that would “justify” it? How can my few problems in my little life that I could solve “if I just tried harder” really be a good image for autism when so many other people need more support? When I’ve seen so many other families ripped apart over their child’s needs or so many kids without friends because they’re too “different” or “weird?”

So I don’t know if I’m actually autistic. I don’t know if I have ADHD. I don’t know if I “absorb too much” when I read posts about autism. I don’t know if the more I read about these things, the more I see things that aren’t there. Some of them are so right on the mark that I almost cry that there’s a post of someone else’s experience that’s just like mine. Some are relatable but not a perfect fit. I see myself in traits here or there, but others not as much. And then I worry again. I wonder if I really experience these things or if I’m faking. I wonder if it’s the masking that they mention that’s just become so embedded in my psyche, or if that’s how neurotypical people “grow up” and act “as adults.”

And I wonder why I struggle so much in this world.

The hardest part is just accepting that I may never have a definite answer. I may never get a diagnosis, or I may be misdiagnosed or completely missed especially since I am born and raised female. And I ask myself if I can really allow myself into the autistic community because... do I really belong? I don’t have any issues being viewed as autistic, but I don’t want to steal the spotlight for people that actually need it on social media. If I don’t have autism, I don’t want to misrepresent it.

So all I can do is write about how I feel and what I do know. I know I’ve been wondering if I am autistic since I was younger, but my parents dismissed it quickly. Only in recent years when I brought it up again has my mother relented and hinted that I may. Almost all of my friends are neurodivergent (I can’t actually think of any friends I have that are neurotypical). Many times I see myself in someone else’s post about their experiences with autism. Sometimes I recognize myself in mentioned traits. Sometimes I feel like I have traits that are missing from the lists. I’ve felt a stronger connection to children and adults in the adaptive room at my parents’ volunteer ski work than most random groups I’ve been put into, and even among other neurodivergent groups, there usually seems to be disconnect between me and the other members that they don’t experience with each other. I’ve never had a problem staying around the children in school that most kids were “put off” by, and I could always adapt quickly to people that other classmates or people my age have side eyes to. I just... didn’t and still don’t understand why those people couldn’t understand the ones they ostracized. It’s always been crystal clear. I usually wonder why I said a thing, why I repeated something when I didn’t need to, why why why did I say unnecessary but so, so important to me things at the most random times, and why do I like these temperatures, these types of air, my stuffed animals that are more than just toys but individuals that may not have names but most certainly have thoughts and feelings, and why can a single noise bring me panic and almost tears, why do certain sustained noises make me so angry and sick but I love my metal and emo and rock, and why is it that when my parents get mad at me that I go into a monotone voice that I can’t change and makes me sound insincere, and why did I learn most of my expressions and inflections from cartoons and anime and crime shows, all borrowed faces, borrowed voices, and now I have none to call my own except the way my face would suddenly twist and distort when I was happy or sad or nothing at all that did not match what I was feeling that I haven’t had in a while because I keep my face so busy now, and why can I focus so much better when I don’t look at the face of the person I’m talking to except a glance here or there to gauge their feelings outside of their voice and body, and why just why do I feel these things and not know if these are neurotypical things or because the depression or the anxiety or maybe, just maybe, because of autism with a side of ADHD.

What do I do? Perhaps I’ll never know.

So I was rewatching friends with my mum and the episode where Joey goes on a date with Phoebe's friend and gets mad at her for taking some of his food.

Me and my mum both think she's weird for taking his food on the first date (especially because she didn't ask and it was their first time meeting) but mum's boyfriend and his friends think Joey was overreacting and it's weird to have a problem with it.

Me and my mum are neurodivergent but her bf and his friends are neurotypical and idk if that's related

Which brings me to the question:

I already have a poll for this week but I'm curious so here's another :)

Edit: thank you to everyone who voted! Glad to know most other people also think it's weird

Was wanting to try out the poll feature, and was also wondering...

Obligatory reblog for sample size

lets start treating neurotypicals like they treat neurodivergent people

"everyones a little neurotypical, get over yourself."

"those kids are from the unspecial ed class, dont go near them."

"hey loser, whats your special interest? oh wait!"

"oh boy, here comes the neurotypical..."

"i bet you pick the big fork when dishing up, dont you?

Autistic Matt Murdock

Ok look. This may just be my autistic ass projecting but Mr. Matthew Michael Murdock is 100% autistic and you can fight me on that. 

He is literally like /always/ stimming. You can see it in the show he fidgets with his hands or cane all the time, also that little hop jump thing he did in the college flashback. 

Also, I know he has super senses but they read to me a lot like autism/sensory processing disorder. I mean think, he’s not the only character with enhanced senses. Steve, Bucky, T’Challa and Peter all have them too (I’m sure there are other but these are the ones I can think of off the top of my head) and other than Peter (who is also autistic and you can fight me on that) none of them have the same problems that Matt does. We see Matt having multiple sensory overloads throughout the show and honestly they are kind of similar to mine. Everything is too much and I get overwhelmed. Steve/Bucky/T’Challa don’t have that problem. Also “cotton feels like sandpaper on my skin” I mean come on.

*Season 2 spoilers for the next paragraph* When he looses his hearing after Frank shoots him in the head and he’s sitting on the floor screaming and smacking his hand on the wall? That is a meltdown. While I don’t scream during mine I do curl up in a ball and sometimes hurt myself. It’s a meltdown. 

His sense of Justice. Ok, so not every autistic person has a strong sense of right and wrong but a lot do. We can also see it in the fact that he would rather help people than make lots of money. I heard of a study done (Ok so this study is not without faults, it uses functioning labels and try to patholigize autism despite the results) where there were a group of autistic people and a group of neurotypical people. They were both given a choice, they could donate money to a good cause that would help people but would loose them money, or they could donate money to a not so good cause that would make them money in the long run. There were two tests run, one that was observed one that was not. The autistic group where much more likely to pick that good cause in both. Neurotypicals, on the other hand, were more likely to pick the good cause when they were being observed but the bad cause that would make them money when they were not. Matt literally chooses helping people over money every single time. Hell, he chooses to help people over his own safety every time.

His special interests! He has two big ones: law/justice and protecting Hell’s Kitchen. I mean he basically spends all of his time either working a case or on patrol. He maybe also has a smaller one on catholicism.

Scripting. I think he does a lot of that in the show. He describes his senses as a “world on fire” multiple times and uses “I’m blind” as an excuse for his injuries even when that excuse doesn't really fit said injury. He is also extremely eloquent in court when he can rehearse and know what he is going to say but often trips on his words in regular conversation.    

So ya, Autistic Matt Murdock y’all!

-Phoenix

Edit: OMG How could I have forgotten Matts giant special interest on Thurgood Marshall??? 

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