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I just think it's crazy that we argue over who get's to claim which label, basically trying to categorize other peoples (mostly some strangers!) emotions & feelings and asking if they are reeeeaaaalllyyyy shure weather they belong into that specific box or not.
Like. Having not heterosexual feelings and/or not heteroromantoc feelings and/or not feeling cis. is Enough! to be queer and queer = valid. Every kind.
Strangers don't have to accept that for it to be true. Peoples feelings are more complicated and individual than labels.
If a man who calls himself gay has slept with women before, and woudn't mind doing it again, why are we fighting over maybe calling him pan or bi.
Like, we don't know what being gay means for him. Mostly Sexual & Romantic Attraction, maybe. But some people can in fact sleep with people they are not attracted to (sex positive / neutral asexuals ase best example. They can still enjoy sex.)
History has records of man presumed to be gay having children! -.- Not all of them have been bi or pan, some sure but not all.
Some people in Queer Platonic Releationships Sleep with each other.
Some friends do so to.
There are many reasons to have sex. Not all are Sexual attraction.
(Please remember, Sexual Attraction is not equal to one persons willingniss to participate in such actions)
(This also doesn't mean that anyone has to sleep with a person they don't want to sleep with. Ever.)
(Not every person may not mind sleeping with a person not of their prefered gender. (Sex negative asexuals, as example.
But please, internet, consider people being people who are full of history, emotions and values, and their reasons for doing what they do are diverse and most importantly NONE OF OUR BUISNESS, no matter how entiteled to their whole life's story we feel becourse they share the same rainbow flag in their bio.
So please, shut the fuck up, queer label police.
If anything in this post seems hurtful or confusing, please don't hesitate to ask/make me aware of it.