Whether Your Abuser Was A Victim Too Or Not Does Not Excuse Their Actions - Tumblr Posts

Message to other survivors:

TW// child on child SA

You’re allowed to be angry. You’re allowed to hate them. You don’t need to forgive them. Even they didn’t know what they were doing. Even if they were probably a victim too. Even if they were younger than you. You’re allowed to be upset about what they did to you.

So many people love to say “oh but they were probably a victim too!” When child on child SA survivors speak up. But the fact is, even if they were a victim too it doesn’t change the fact that it hurt you, that they hurt you.

So if you do want to forgive them, you can! But you don’t have too. You have a right to be upset and angry as much as any other SA survivors. Just know you’re not alone, there’s other people out there who understand, and your experiences and feelings are valid <3