Wrong Things I Am Told Are Right - Tumblr Posts
this was posted some time ago when I was still silently lurking through this wOnDeRfUl place, but… ((remember, this are my parents’ words, not mine. I do NOT agree with any of these statements))
never become a therapist or you’ll end up being murdered by a nutcase
never get a job in anything associated with art or you’ll grow up to be a drug addict and… uh… they said a LOT about that subject…
anyone who has something ”wrong” with them (nuerodivergent, LGBTQIA+, etc.) deserve to die
people with suicidal thoughts are weak, therefore they ALSO deserve to die
you are forbidden from using devices without common history checks because the internet ”has subliminal messages that will lead you down the wrong path and make you think you hate yor life/want to kill yourself/are LGBTQIA+“
people who advocate for children’s privacy rights (and anything close to that) are “idiots who are looking to spread bullshit” because children can’t be trusted with privacy
if you are not spending every living second of everyday with one of your parents, you are ungrateful, sneaky, and desserting them
college-age children living in dorms is a travesty
you need to be disciplined even harder if you’re female
”women are SO stupid” —dad
straight A’s are the only acceptable type of grade
violently yelling at one another and threats of violence aren’t arguing or abuse
you should be thankful that your parents risked and lost so much for you… ”now let’s hope it wasn’t wasted on you”
it’s okay for your parents to call you a dog because you basically are one <3
in this household, ”you’re acting like [name]” is an insult
food and sleep can be taken away as punishment, but bring up your parent’s initial blow-up and you’ll REALLY know what it feels like to go through hell
when your older brother pulls one all-nighter for college, he has a lot of pressure on him and should be deeply respected and treated as if he’s ill… when you stop eating and sleeping for 30 hrs straight, have eyebags, and have been trudging through depression since 2018, nobody gives two shits
crying is for weaklings
all of this^^^ never happened. you just need to be disciplined again
List of toxic and incorrect things that were taught to me while I was growing up
Child abuse only exists if you always get badly insulted, yelled at, or physically abused by adults [e.g. beaten, scarred, slurred]
If your parents generally don’t pay attention to you, it just means they’re busy or have more important things to do
Saying a child does something for attention, as if they don’t deserve attention, is fine and justifies you ignoring them
Self harming is always about asking for attention
Asking for attention in general is wrong
No matter how much they hurt you, you’re still supposed to respect a family member [e.g. “But they are still your parents.“]
Negligence isn’t abuse
Your partner can’t do things against your will [e.g. ”He can’t sexually assault you, he’s your boyfriend!“]
An abusive relationship is always obvious and involves beating
Staying in an abusive relationship makes it your own fault
PTSD is something only soldiers coming back from war can have
Friends can’t bully you
Bullying is part of life and trying to stop it is pointless
An eating disorder always means you eat too little/are underweight
ADHD is a “boy thing”
If a boy is mean to you it’s because they like you
Girls are overdramatic/boys don’t have feelings
A harsh upbringing gives you “thick skin”
Hurting your children “in moderation” can be correct disciplining
Therapy is only for mental cases
Having multiple personalities is overt, obvious, and dramatic
Having a bad memory means you lack intelligence
If you can’t remember something traumatic then it “couldn’t have been that bad“
Being “mature for your age“ is a good thing
Feel free to add any of your own, unfortunately there’s a lot of these and I could likely make the list longer if I’d take more time, but these are some important ones I wish to bring to light