Probably My Most Powerful Interpersonal Communication Hack Is To, Whenever Possible, Ask Either/or Questions

probably my most powerful interpersonal communication hack is to, whenever possible, ask either/or questions rather than yes/no questions

for example, when chatting with coworkers, i’ll often ask if they have any fun weekend plans. but let’s be real - we all feel like friendless losers when someone asks that question and we go “uhhhhh… no.” so instead, i phrase it as “so, do you have anything fun planned over the weekend, or are you just going to enjoy having some time to relax?”

phrased like this, there’s rarely any awkwardness. you’ve presented two options & given both equally positive connotations, so your conversational partner has an automatic “out,” so to speak

but it works for higher stakes conversations too!!!! my mom was saying this weekend how she and her neighbor both like walking around the neighborhood & that she wanted to suggest they take a walk together sometime, but was worried about how to approach the conversation

so i said “how about you just say ‘i’ve noticed we both like taking walks! would you be interested in going for one together, or do you use walks for some precious alone time?’”

now Walking Neighbor has an automatic “get out of jail free card” if she wants to say no!!!! which means my mom doesn’t have to worry about the conversation being uncomfortable, because she’s set it up to go smoothly

either/or questions rather than yes/no questions. it is really like magic

workouts for when you don’t want to workout

40 minute yoga workout by lena snow: https://youtu.be/mSpUQMyXYoI?si=n5HB4UeAK2N2joJZ

20 minute slow full body workout by madfit: https://youtu.be/GB5uPT4W6p8?si=7OtK425XUASyOnBS

15 minute slow full body workout by madfit: https://youtu.be/M6m_t10WlfU?si=U_bi7zfbA9zugdUV

15 minute upper body by oppserve: https://youtu.be/3XRzNhPwstg?si=fgEflM6SBysNDaeo

10 minute anti-bloating cardio by blogilates: https://youtu.be/lQDrPsPodA0?si=YelVW1qHeY3Skmie

30 minute pilates for when you are sick by livaligned pilates: https://youtu.be/GZ-6qjHfH14?si=l-mwldr6FyQSAm9p

literally anything by growwithjo (her workouts are a major serotonin boost!)

Hello 👋 how are you? I love your page and you feel like a comfort person. Thank you. I wanted to ask if you have some ideas regarding jobs and finance for those who don't have full time jobs. Do you have any recommendations for jobs that you can do online and earn passively? Thank you ♥

Hi love! Thank you so much. Glad to hear you enjoy my page and its content <3

Some contract/freelance jobs I would recommend to increase your (potential) passive income include:

Sell items online like Poshmark/Depop, eBay, etc.

Purchase & flip domains

Purchase/resell clothing, accessories, and other trending items

Rent out items or owned spaces (in your home, parking spaces, classes you've purchased from a membership, etc.)

Create a social channel (YouTube/TikTok) or blog with ads

Write an e-book/a course/self-published book

Affiliate marketing

Sell photo presets/templates/photography/art online

Investing in a high-yield savings account (/CD) or dividend stocks

Hope this helps xx

the workout channels i am currently subscribed to

♡ april han - great for shorter workouts, walking workouts, and full body workouts

♡ arianna elizabeth - yoga & pilates, faith based for my fellow Christian friends <3

♡ b-life - japanese yoga channel

♡ bailey brown - pilates

♡ BIGSIS & BigSis Workout - my personal favorite, includes all kinds of workouts!

♡ boho beautiful yoga - yoga & pilates

♡ breathe and flow - yoga

♡ callie jardine gualy - pilates, another faith based channel!

♡ celamarr - mainly strength based workouts, i love her glute workouts!

♡ charlie follows - yoga, my current favorite yoga instructor!

♡ daisy keech - shorter workouts, i love her core and glute workouts

♡ daniela suarez - stretching

♡ dansique fitness - pilates & ballet style workouts

♡ eleni fit - another fav of mine, posts all kinds of workouts like cardio, pilates, stretching, and some strength training

♡ emi wong - all types of workouts, great for shorter workouts but she does have quite a few 30-45+ minute long videos!

♡ eylem abaci - great for shorter workouts!

♡ feel good with olya - pilates

♡ fitness__kaykay - great for cardio & strength training, her workouts are INTENSE

♡ five park yoga w/ erin sampson - yoga

♡ gayatri yoga - yoga & pilates workouts, includes a lot of longer videos

♡ growingannanas - so many different routines and types of workouts! i adore her

♡ growwithjo - lots of different types and lengths of cardio workouts. i love love love her walking workouts, they will never fail to give you a boost

♡ hailey c. - mainly short workouts and stretches

♡ heather robertson - mainly strength training, but she has so many workouts and the vast majority are 30+ minutes long

♡ hong rabbit - pilates

♡ jessica richburg - yoga

♡ juice & toya - mainly strength training

♡ julia.reppel - mobility routines & stretches with some strength mixed in

♡ kaila wen - short pilates workouts

♡ lena snow - doesn’t really post anymore unfortunately but i love her longer workouts

♡ lidia mera - pilates

♡ livaligned pilates - pilates

♡ luisa giuliet - short strength training

♡ madelaine rascan - strength training

♡ madeleine abeid - pilates

♡ madfit - so many types of workouts, with and without equipment!

♡ mady morrison - yoga & stretching

♡ mary braun - shorter workouts

♡ MIZI - all different types of workouts, mainly cardio/full body

♡ move with nicole - pilates

♡ moving mango pilates - pilates

♡ nathalie shanti - pilates & some yoga

♡ nina dapper - shorter pilates style workouts

♡ nobadaddiction - so many different workouts with different lengths, i mainly do their hiit workouts

♡ olivia lawson - many metabolic/walking cardio workouts, includes many with weights!

♡ oppserve - many shorter workouts and stretches

♡ pilatesbodyraven - pilates

♡ ps fit - previously popsugar, so many different workouts!

♡ raminara - yoga & pilates

♡ rachel’s fit pilates - wall pilates

♡ sanne vloet - pilates

♡ shirlyn kim - many shorter workouts, including cardio and pilates

♡ squatcouple - mostly strength training

♡ sunfit - yoga/pilates

♡ the bare female - yoga

♡ the glow method - yoga & pilates

♡ the yoga ranger studio - yin & restorative yoga

♡ train with gainsbybrains - many <20 minute strength training, no equipment workouts

♡ travis elliot - yoga

♡ vicky justiz - shorter strength training & pilates workouts with some stretching

♡ yisoo fit - <30 min workouts & stretching

♡ yoga song - hayeon - yoga & shorter workouts

♡ yoga with adrienne - yoga

♡ yoga with bird - yoga

♡ yoga with kassandra - yoga

♡ yoga with kate amber - yoga

♡ yoga with tim - yoga

♡ bbangneu - many long, full body workouts! (a new fav)

"This isn't financial exactly, but it did save me heavily on finances and gave me priceless lessons and even better- friends. Here's a networking tip for rich kids- do not be desperate, provide value (everyone has something they want) and suck up to the parents not kids. Never pick sides (neutrality wins) and do not be greedy OR too shy. If you want something, ask what it will take for you to have it. "

Hello!!! This is my favorite post of yours. In regards to this quote in particular, have you met all of your early networking connections on your school? Do you think there are other ways to "social climb" even if I have no "rich" connections at the moment? How can I bring more value?

Yes I met most in school. It was almost natural, we were stuck together in boarding for four years (and I never went back home for holidays so my friends would just take me with them). It wasn't social climbing as much as it was survival actually, if you think of it. Adaptation. If I went to any other school I'd just be friends with the kids there. I wasn't specifically targeting rich kids they were just, there? So I learned to network with them. Naturally.

yes, there are. I've seen it happen all the time. I made a post on how to be valuable so just follow those guidelines and you're bound to bring value.

Soft ways of being valuable are ;

Being attractive

Being eloquent

Being a problem solver

Being an expert in something

Being elegant and sophisticated

Being cheerful and easy to be around

Being proactive.

Jun Yuh has an excellent video on this, something about lessons young people should learn, I forgot all about it. (I'll link it if I find it, come back to this post) and on this YT chanel (Privileged Few Production) also has excellent tips. You don't have to be rich to network with the rich, you just have to know who holds the power.

Like I said. Parents.

To social climb you have to place yourself in situations where you almost naturally and automatically network with said rich. For me it was high school there was no choice. This could be

working in finance, marketing, pilot, event organization, real estate- the likes. Places you meet the wealthy AND they can network with you. Being a waiter at the Ritz looks like you could, but you're not someone they would seriously network with outside free or cheap 🐈. You want a career where they need you and see you as valuable. Being an assistant surprisingly works really well, too. Let me know if you need a list of the 'right' careers. Depends on which rich you want to network with. Nerdy? Go into IT or science or medicine or Law. Playboy? Why would you want to but ANYWAY entertainment and sports. You get the drift, right. Somewhere they view you as sort of an equal.

dressing, fashion and etiquette . Most people turn into this cheap replica of princess Diana by dressing in this very stereotypical old money fashion and it's just- ugh. Mordern elegance, people. I see you in pearls when your daddy isn't a crazy rich Asian I know you are a try hard wannabe. Cheap knockoffs that are obviously knock offs,please no (like no Alice you DO not have an original Birkin or Kelly you live in a studio apartment). Knockoffs are okay if they're quality and believable, and still I'm begging you to just not unless you know which ones make sense and you can get away with.

whats the end game? Why do you want to network with the rich? That tells you all you need to know on what to do. Hypergamy? Femininity with almost masculine hobbies will do that for you. Business? Be in business rooms then. Jetsetting? Next plane to Ibiza. Your end game tells you the game you want to play, learn to play it well.

Rich people are just people except a lot more guarded. Don't, don't fall into some worship trap it will get you used abused all over, I have horror stories from high school that I'll be sharing with my members in the membership that's coming soon on my Fourthwall. Be very careful, the difference between rich ppl and the rest is that the rich can get away with anything.

Yes I'm advertising my coming soon membership. If you don't join wyd??

one of the biggest things I can advocate for (in academia, but also just in life) is to build credibility with yourself. It’s easy to fall into the habit of thinking of yourself as someone who does things last minute or who struggles to start tasks. people will tell you that you just need to build different habits, but I know for me at least the idea of ‘habit’ is sort of abstract and dehumanizing. Credibility is more like ‘I’ve done this before, so I know I can do it, and more importantly I trust myself to do it’. you set an assignment goal for the day and you meet it, and then you feel stronger setting one the next day. You establish a relationship with yourself that’s built on confidence and trust. That in turn starts to erode the barrier of insecurity and perfectionism and makes it easier to start and finish tasks. reframing the narrative as a process of building credibility makes it easier to celebrate each step and recognize how strong your relationship with yourself can become