You Do Not Owe Anybody Your Body, Regardless Of:

You do not owe anybody your body, regardless of:

What your partner says

What you wanted to do earlier

What anybody has told you

What society or any expectations have led you to believe

You can back out, even if you're in the middle of something. You can change your mind. You can say no any time. You can set any boundaries you want, and you do not owe it to your partner to justify or explain these boundaries.

Saying "no" can feel scary to some people, especially to 'people pleasers' and especially in sexual situations. I know this. I know it can be scary and it can be difficult, but "no" is such an important and powerful tool to set boundaries and maintain your comfort level.

The discomfort and trauma that can result from having a boundary crossed is absolutely not worth doing something you do not want to do, especially on behalf of your partner. If they think it's worth it then they are not a good partner.

Any good sexual partner who cares about you would not want you to stay silent and do something you don't want to do, especially not on their behalf. If you don't like what's happening, don't be afraid to say something.

If they throw a fit and take it personally, then they have some growing to do. You have every right to say no at any point.

F. E. Marie

[You are super]

@belieiber

If you accidentally hurt someone or cross their boundaries and they make you aware of this, literally all you have to do is apologize and stop. You don't have to beat yourself up internally for months. You don't have to hate yourself for fucking up. You don't have to feel like a horrible person. No one benefits from any of that - and at worst, such an extreme reaction will make the person in question less likely to speak up around you in the future, cause even if your negative reaction is directed at yourself and not at them, it's still unpleasant for everyone involved.

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