(loveless) Aro Culture Is Not Wanting To Talk About Your Birthday When Someone Asks About It Because

(loveless) aro culture is not wanting to talk about your birthday when someone asks about it because it is very close to valentine's day and people tend to give you love-themed presents

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Since Valentine’s day is coming up, here’s a reminder that romantic love isn’t the only valid form of love. Acespec and Arospec people have just as much reason to celebrate the loves in their lives as much as any Allo. Those in Queer Platonic Relationships have the right to celebrate their partners. But its also totally valid to not want to celebrate the holiday. You do you this Valentine’s day.

i think stars r probibly like hot ice

i think stars are like apples . cold apples . stars would be cold if they were edible . they don't look hot . some stars would be like caramel coated apples tho , like the sun would def be caramel coated .

Hey, I'm getting more and more romance-repulsed by the day and with Valentine's Day coming up, it's gonna be unbearable... Is there any way to stop being romance-repulsed? Or any other advice?

hi! i’m so sorry this is coming after valentine’s day. there isn’t really a way to stop feeling romance repulsed, but the best advice i can really give is...

acknowledge that you’re feeling romance repulsion/exhaustion. I find it useful to phrase it as “I am feeling romance repulsed right now” - it both validates your emotions but also frames it as a thing of right now. I personally try to avoid the phrasing “this thing is making me romance repulsed” because it feels like I have no control then.

do what you can to avoid the situations that cause repulsion, but also have plans for ways to tolerate it when it happens and sooth yourself when it’s over. can you apply tactics from managing anxiety or other negative emotions? can you practice setting boundaries and giving yourself extra self-care when you’re having a tough emotional time?

if you can, identify people you can vent to. if you can’t, you could try journals, art, just - anything that works for you to help you release emotion. please don’t feel like you have to shove it down and ignore it - that doesn’t help if you never give yourself time for release.

I hope this can provide some basic resources, late as it is.

- mod kee

Aro culture is knowing Valentine's Day is coming up and *imagine this* NOT being sad that you're single.

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Romance positive Aro Culture is that you feel awkward for liking valentine's day, because apparently all the other aros hate it, and you understand why, but for some reason you don't hate.

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