(loveless) Aro Culture Is Not Wanting To Talk About Your Birthday When Someone Asks About It Because

(loveless) aro culture is not wanting to talk about your birthday when someone asks about it because it is very close to valentine's day and people tend to give you love-themed presents

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Stars are sorta hollow, like they got the crunchy apple shell then its empty, kinda like those gumballs that have the crunchy shell, then the gum, then are hollow in the center, but instead of having the softer gum part, it has a more crunchy apple part, does that make sense?

hmmm i can see how this might work but i believe stars are full on apple crunch . no hollow , no gum . just apple crunch

Hey, I'm getting more and more romance-repulsed by the day and with Valentine's Day coming up, it's gonna be unbearable... Is there any way to stop being romance-repulsed? Or any other advice?

hi! i’m so sorry this is coming after valentine’s day. there isn’t really a way to stop feeling romance repulsed, but the best advice i can really give is...

acknowledge that you’re feeling romance repulsion/exhaustion. I find it useful to phrase it as “I am feeling romance repulsed right now” - it both validates your emotions but also frames it as a thing of right now. I personally try to avoid the phrasing “this thing is making me romance repulsed” because it feels like I have no control then.

do what you can to avoid the situations that cause repulsion, but also have plans for ways to tolerate it when it happens and sooth yourself when it’s over. can you apply tactics from managing anxiety or other negative emotions? can you practice setting boundaries and giving yourself extra self-care when you’re having a tough emotional time?

if you can, identify people you can vent to. if you can’t, you could try journals, art, just - anything that works for you to help you release emotion. please don’t feel like you have to shove it down and ignore it - that doesn’t help if you never give yourself time for release.

I hope this can provide some basic resources, late as it is.

- mod kee

My current aromantic agenda:

Researching lots of bee stuff to share on Valentine’s Day for my community

retail stores are putting away the christmas merch, you know what that means

aro culture is sending your best friend a valentine's gift to spite the amatonormativity

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